My husband and I went for our first u/s yesterday. Our little one measured perfect for our dates, right on at 8 weeks.... but the ultrasound tech didn't find a heart beat. Our Ob said it's not a good sign, and that something must have JUST happened. He said to wait and watch for bleeding and cramping, otherwise to go back for another ultrasound next week to look for the heart beat again - but he thinks the odds of finding it then are low. When he started talking about a D&C, I lost it.
Should we be trying to stay optimistic, or preparing for the worst? We're just so upset. Our baby was fine just days ago, but not now? I know it wouldn't have been easier to have not measured up to our dates, but that our baby is the exact right size without a heart beat just seems to have us in complete denial about what's probably going on. I hate that I feel like I'm just sitting around waiting for this horrible thing to happen and there's nothing I can do about it.
If anyone else out there was in a similar situation with measuring right on, but didn't find a heart beat, I'd appreciate hearing how you processed the news and where you went from there. So sorry for everyone's losses.... never could have guessed how hard this is until now.