3rd Trimester

Sex Post: Can You Orgasm Still?

DH and I have had a fairly stale sex life throughout this pregnancy. I do favors for him still, and when we do have sex, he usually does his thing and moves on. Trust me, this habit has raised many fights, but I finally settled on being content in the fact that he is not watching porn or going to strip clubs, and when we do have sex it is because he is attracted to me.

Now he has started to switch gears, being more sensual and wanting to turn me on. Last night he tried to get me to orgasm. I even took over, realizing what he was trying to do. All in all, we spent an hour and a half trying to get me to orgasm, with no results.

I am thoroughly disappointed. I realize there could have been a lot of contributors to the lack of climax--from not feeling pretty with my huge belly in the way, to be worried that he was losing interest the longer we tried. I understand any pressure on performance usually hinders it, and though I tried my best to drop it all, even with his patience and reassurance, I was still unable to perform. So now my thought is, will I be able to orgasm again? And is anyone else running into this problem?

Re: Sex Post: Can You Orgasm Still?

  • Sounds like you are thinking about it way to much. Just relax and enjoy the time with your DH and it will happen.

    I have found that I climax more now than I ever did before.

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  • I have only been able to orgasm with a vibrator for the past few months. During intercourse and on seperate occasion...
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  • Before and during pg I could actually O in my sleep, usually 2-3 times a week. WTF? But I wasn't complaining. :)

    Now, post-baby, I've only been able to a few times. It is the bummer.


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  • I read every woman is different during pregnancy.  It might be you are over thinking it, especially if it's been so long....and hormones.

    I get them fast and they are big.  To the point where I don't want to do anything after, haha....poor DH.

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  • I agree with PP.  You are putting wayyyyy too much thought into this.  You do need to relax and just go with the flow. 
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    Before and during pg I could actually O in my sleep, usually 2-3 times a week. WTF? But I wasn't complaining. :)

    Now, post-baby, I've only been able to a few times. It is the bummer.

    You could O in your sleep?  Dude, I so want that!!! :-)

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    image MrsJoeG07:

    Before and during pg I could actually O in my sleep, usually 2-3 times a week. WTF? But I wasn't complaining. :)

    Now, post-baby, I've only been able to a few times. It is the bummer.

    You could O in your sleep?  Dude, I so want that!!! :-)

    I want that too!! I've had many a sex dream, but no O's to accompany them.  : (   Jealous!! 

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  • When I have braxton hicks, I really want to orgasm...  Sometimes it really relieves the pressure and I feel much better afterward. So DH and I do a lot of playing together, now that it's hard to have sex!
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    I have only been able to orgasm with a vibrator for the past few months. During intercourse and on seperate occasion...

    Embarrassed

    It's not that sex doesn't feel really good, it's just that it is so different. The belly is in the way, I can't get a good angle, I am way too naturally lubed up for friction. DH can do other things to me that involve more of the outside which works though (thankfully because otherwise I would be very frustrated!) 

    I had an insane orgasm in my sleep last week. INSANE. I woke up panting with my heart pounding and everything. I rolled over and DH looked at me and said, "Well, I hope I was a part of that..."

    LOL.

  • On my own or during foreplay - no problem. During sex - not recently. Penetration doesn't feel so good anymore.
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    Before and during pg I could actually O in my sleep, usually 2-3 times a week. WTF? But I wasn't complaining. :)

    Now, post-baby, I've only been able to a few times. It is the bummer.

    You could O in your sleep?  Dude, I so want that!!! :-)

    I KNOW!!! It was awesome. Now it went away. :(


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  • For me it just won't happen. My hips hurts, my belly is big and feels bruised and DH and I don't have sex much because neither of us are usually in the mood I never orgasm.

    That being said, I still enjoy it.

    We'll be back to wild and sweaty eventually, lol.


  • I've had sex once while pregnant. It hurts to effing bad and I had tears in my eyes. I get so swollen when preg!!! So be thankful you can even have sex!!!
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    Before and during pg I could actually O in my sleep, usually 2-3 times a week. WTF? But I wasn't complaining. :)

    Now, post-baby, I've only been able to a few times. It is the bummer.

    You could O in your sleep?  Dude, I so want that!!! :-)

    I KNOW!!! It was awesome. Now it went away. :(

    Ooh, I used to have sleep-gasms when I was pregnant, too. The funny thing is that I would only have them during sex dreams about DH.  Which is fine, but . . . they're dreams for a reason, right??  But I think DH was prouder of being the source of my sleep-gasms than he is of the real thing. 

     

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  • Normally I O no problems 3 or 4 times in a go. During pregnancy I have to work very hard and it still rarely happens. As pp said I know we'll get back to it after baby, but until then it is disappointing.
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    Before and during pg I could actually O in my sleep, usually 2-3 times a week. WTF? But I wasn't complaining. :)

    Now, post-baby, I've only been able to a few times. It is the bummer.

    You could O in your sleep?  Dude, I so want that!!! :-)

    I KNOW!!! It was awesome. Now it went away. :(

    Ooh, I used to have sleep-gasms when I was pregnant, too. The funny thing is that I would only have them during sex dreams about DH.  Which is fine, but . . . they're dreams for a reason, right??  But I think DH was prouder of being the source of my sleep-gasms than he is of the real thing. 

     

    ::snort:: this is me... faithful even in my dreams. I am SO lame. Shoot, I should have added this to my lame confessions post! :P


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    On my own or during foreplay - no problem. During sex - not recently. Penetration doesn't feel so good anymore.

    pretty much this.

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  • Thank you for all of your input!!

    Sometimes it just takes getting it out there to settle down and chill out, you know?!

    Kudos on mid-sleep Os!! Haven't done that, though I tend to have more nightmares than good dreams. But I make up for it by being happy and even-keeled during the day. :)

    Sounds like I have a bit more stress going on in my little head than I realized. Thanks for bringing it to my attention.

    GL in all of your sexual endeavors! ;)

  • Just be lucky you can get your DH to do anything! I've been (pretty much) begging and he still won't budge! I finally got it out of him yesterday why he won't have sex with me....here I thought maybe the belly was freaking him out...nope...he's scared he's gonna break my water! Oh, lord...someones got a big ego! lol Oh, well...once this baby is out and then just 6 weeks after that and it's go time! lol
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  • I've never been able to, so nothing is different. :(

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  • Every woman is different. Some women find it easier to have them, even multiple ones, and some can't at all. I discovered I could have multiple ones during my first pregnancy, and it's stuck with me since. I haven't had sex in a while, even though I still want to, just because it's uncomfortable for me. But the last time H and I did, I was still able to have a couple.

    My advice is just to relax; don't think about how you look, or what's going on, or "Will I be able to?" Just feel and enjoy! Be lucky your H still wants to make you feel sexy.

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  • I have better and faster orgasms now than before.  Interestingly enough we also have sex a lot more often than before.

    I wouldn't worry too much. Regardless you'll be back to normal eventually. Be nice to yourself.

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  • I've had no problems.  Actually seemed more turned-on.  It's been more fun trying out new positions that will hopefully "stick" around after our LO is born.
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  • I think I probably only had like two orgasms when I was pregnant. I think mostly because I didn't feel as comfortable with the positions we needed because of the belly.

    DD is born now, and we've been having sex for about 5 weeks and I STILL have not had an orgasm. I was always kinda hard to get off anyway, so that could have something to do with it. Sometimes I feel like I'm really close, but I'm just stuck rriiiiggghhhhttt before it happens. And I'm stuck for a while. Honestly it still feels so good I don't really miss it.

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  • you need to invest in a bullet.. it is the best thing i have ever done for myself.. and i usually can't orgasm without it..
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  • image williaw:
    I've never been able to, so nothing is different. :(

     

    what?!?! have you ever tried any sex toys? 

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