I am 26 weeks pregnant and I have been going back and forth about whether my baby should have my last name or her fathers.
Here is the story: We lived together for a year, but when I found out I was pregnant, I moved out and back to Texas with my parents. He is happy to be a father and we are in a relationship. Currently he provides full financial support for the both of us. He still lives in another state, but he plans on being back in TX for the birth. He also says he will stay here after that, but he keeps bringing up leaving again to go contract and make money for "us." Money is not the issue.
I do not want to seem disrespectful by not giving the baby his last name, but we are not married, marriage is not in the near future, who knows when and if we will be living together again, and when he will go out of state again-or even what he will be like as a parent. If I am the parent that is going to be with the child 24/7 no matter what, I think the baby should have my last name to make things easier. I will be the one taking her to the doctor, filling out all her paper work, possibly having to fly her to see her father, etc. I do not want to go through the hassle of proving I am the mother when I am the one who is raising her and dealing with everything.
What do you think? What has your personal experience been?