I am having my 3rd child. My work had a very small shower for my first, with like 7 people. I really wanted a big shower with all my church and friends, but no one planned one, and i felt uncomfortable to ask for one. The second time I asked a couple of friends if they thought it might be ok to have a shower since i was having a girl, my first was a boy, and they said they wanted me to but they never did anything about it. I heard of someone throwing her own shower, but isnt it usually supposed to be the family or friends? My Mom was not happy when i mentioned the idea to her last time, she said "but you dont need anything". which, technically is true, but there are some things id like to have that i dont, and most of all id like to celebrate the baby-to-come with my friends and i just feel like cuz i got pregnant before i was married i lost out on that chance, like i messed up and now i cant have that. I never got a wedding shower either, which i understand because we got married with like 3 weeks notice. But the baby part... everybody knew @ least 7 months in advance!
So i guess im really asking, is there a way i can ask for a shower? that is appropriate and not selfish sounding? I dont want to be selfish, i just really feel like i missed out and i want to have that celebration.