Last night my husband told one of our friends about our m/c (she had just told us she is 3 mon pregnant, great). The IM convo was still on the computer, so I read it and it went something like this:
H: We were pregnant and miscarried.
F: I'm so so sorry, how far along was she?
H: 4 weeks. It was ectopic.
F: Well it was early at least. They say to start trying again real soon.
H: Our doctor wants us to wait 2 months.
The actual story goes something like...I didn't start actually miscarrying until about 6 weeks, I've needed 2 shots of methotrexate, 6 weeks later and my numbers still won't go down, and we have to wait at least 3 months because of the drugs before trying again.
I know they're just details, but for some reason it really bothers me that he sugar coats it to other people. It's the same thing as when he told someone else, a few days after it happened, that we were "fine". I don't know if he is trying to protect other people, especially those who just had babies or are pregnant, and not be a downer. But it hurts. I guess I feel like, if you're going to tell someone, you don't have to drown them in details, but be honest, otherwise it belittles the dragged out and crappy process that this has all been and makes it seem like everything is OK, when it's not, because it's not even over.