I'm due Jan 20th, which makes shower timing difficult b/c of the holidays. My out-of-state mother is coming up and hosting a co-ed shower for us, with the help of my also pregnant and also out-of-state sister-in-law, Jan 9th. We live in the same town we grew up in, and are very close to people we've known since grade school, therefore we have a lot of groups of friends to invite: my high school/college friends, his high school/college friends, family, sports team (we have both been playing on this large co-ed team for 10 years and are very close to them).
One of the girls on the sports team made mention of me having a separate shower that they can attend so that the one my mother has isn't outrageously huge. I informed her that I'm not going to throw a shower for myself b/c that would be rather rude/poor etiquette. She suggested that she and one of the other team mates host it at their house and send out the invites, but I actually do the behind the scenes work for it (as they are both too busy since their jobs pick up that time of year). The next time our team meets up for practice in their area is Dec. 5th.
What do you think? Take on the responsibility of organizing something for after the practice at this teammate's house and attach their name to it so it doesn't look bad? Or just have my mother invite everyone to the one shower that is a little less than 2 weeks prior to the EDD?