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im 21 yes old and married there was some point when me and my husband tried for a baby but there were other months when i just gave up and now im pregnant about 5 weeks and 5 days i told my friend and my friend thinks i rush into things that i was moving too fast and she also said that i have my whole life ahead of me i understand i do have my life ahead of me i just wanted to know why would she come off like this yes i am young but i got this blessing from god and im happy can someone please give me advice about if i shld have her as a friend

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  • thankz so much im really happy i cant believe it .my friend did say some hurtful things, but i dont know if i should continue to be her friend.but i find out about the siggy at the bottom thank you so much.
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    im 21 yes old and married there was some point when me and my husband tried for a baby but there were other months when i just gave up and now im pregnant about 5 weeks and 5 days i told my friend and my friend thinks i rush into things that i was moving too fast and she also said that i have my whole life ahead of me i understand i do have my life ahead of me i just wanted to know why would she come off like this yes i am young but i got this blessing from god and im happy can someone please give me advice about if i shld have her as a friend

     Congrats on your pregnancy!

     

    Perhaps this came from a good place even though she didn't word it in the most sensitive way.

    My sister got married very young (at 20) and it's not exactly working out for her now 10 years later. My parents tried getting her to NOT go through with it because they felt the same way as your friend. However, she chose to do what she wanted and she went from being a kid to a wife to a mom all within about 3 years. Now, she is getting a divorce and trying to relive the years she missed in her early 20s. There were so many things you only get to do when you're in your early 20s that she missed out on.

     

    Of course you probably feel like you're ready but I think your friend IS being a good friend by just presenting the flip side and what ifs to you.

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  • thankz yes i totally understand where your coming from thanks i know a lot of people is not going to be happy about it i just wanted to be treat with respect not harsh words
  • Hey Im right there with you, Im 20 and I just got married ( got some crap about that) and this past week I found out that I am preggo. Congratulations and just keep in the back of your mind that its your life and if your happy andits right go with. No one elses opinion matters.

      
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  • thankz so much and congratulations to you to also
  • image sexttia89:
    thankz so much im really happy i cant believe it .my friend did say some hurtful things, but i dont know if i should continue to be her friend.but i find out about the siggy at the bottom thank you so much.

    First off, congrats!  Smile  This is a moment for you and your hubby--no one else.  She is probably thinking that since you're going to be a  mom, there will be no more time for the two of you to hang out like old times.  I would let her vent for a few days and try to talk to her again.  

     

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