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Is that when your host/hostess wants to have it or is that when you want to throw it for yourself?
If a) it's later than normal, but do-able. if it's b) yes, it's too late.
Just be sure to be crossing your fingers and legs!
And be ready to get the gear you will still need right after the shower so you can get everything ready ASAP.
mommamathews3719:Oh no I would not throw myself a shower, this is a woman from our church who I am close with also my mom threw her daughter a shower.
lol, the wording was a little confusing, I was just wondering.
Like PP said, I'd be crossing knees, fingers and toes. It's close, but do-able.
mommamathews3719:"I need to know when is a good date for the baby shower?" is what she asked in a message to my mother and I. I am due nov 4th she suggested the 2nd or 3rd weekend in OCT. I feel like I am stuck between a rock and a hard place.
If she asked you when's a good date and then made a suggestion, you're definitely okay to make a counter suggestion at a time that's more comfortable for you. Suggest the last weekend in Sept and see what she says. She's probably not thinking practically from an expectant mom's POV.
ETA: "Wow! That's so nice of you to offer. I appreciate it so much. I was thinking sometime in September just in case baby were to decide to arrive early in October. "
If you have it the first week in October and she got invites out (or in the church bulletin) right away it would give people 3 weeks before the shower and you a month before your due date. I had 3 showers for my first baby and one was just one week before. Luckily I delivered just one day early. If that had been my second baby it would have definitel been a meet the baby party since he was born 3 1/2 weeks early. You just never know.
BTW...I had plenty of "energy" to get the things done before delivery. I had more energy just before delivery than I did any other time throughout my pregnancy - guess I was "nesting". lol
I work as an events manager at a venue and I have seen a couple of showers close to the mother's due dates and the moms-to-be look so incredibly miserable.
I also had mom-to-be go into labor the night before her shower--when she was two weeks out--and her mom just came in and thanked the guests and took the presents home. It wasn't fun.
I found it so awkward when my SIL asked when I wanted a shower. She only asked this at the end of last week, so when I was 30 weeks. I am very grateful that she is offering to host a shower for me, but it was weird when she asked "do you want it before or after your due date?", then when I said I'd prefer before, the only date she has available is October 24th (I'll be 37+ weeks). I definitely felt like I was imposing when I said I'd rather have it before, but she asked!
I'm a little nervous about having a shower so late in the game, since as previous posters have mentioned, this may turn into a 'meet the baby' shower. It's still awesome that SIL is wanting to do this for me, I will take it anyway it comes.