Sorry this is long, but please bare with me.
We had a long day at the Community Pool today and left when it was getting dark. My husband and I were carrying the cooler, bags and boxes out to our car so my brother's girlfriend was holding DD for us. They parked one side of the parking lot while we parked at the other end on the other aisle.
I dropped off the bags to the car for my husband to put away. I turned around to walk back to my brother's car to pick up DD. As I turned to walk back, he revs up his Porsche and proceeds to back out of the stall (his gf had DD in her lap). I yell out to him to STOP and started running towards them waving my arms. He keeps driving and even passes me.
The gf opens the door and I see both of them smiling like it's a big joke. I grab DD out of the gf's arms and went off on them. I said, "STOP. DON'T do that! You can't drive with a baby in your arms! I don't do that - you can't do that!" My brother said, "Geez, I'm only going 2 mph". I said, "I'm not worried about you - there are other people leaving too. What if they back out and they didn't see you?" He was like, "Geez, fine, sorry" and took off in a huff - zoomed out of there - the gf didnt even have a chance to close the door before he started driving.
I text him later and wrote, "I didn't mean to get upset at you but I take DD's safety and well being very seriously as a new mom. I hope you can understand that."
He responds, "Then you should know that drowning is the second leading cause of death in children... think about that next time you take her out to the kiddie pool. Nite." I'm not going to respond to that. He thinks I'm being irresponsible by taking her to the pool?
Did I overreact by being upset that my brother drove with her even at 2 mph? Should I have let it go?
I guess part of the issue is that he doesn't take what I say very seriously so I may have blew up over a range of other issues. When I say no, he says "it's ok" and continues doing it. He gives her bags of hard candy (Sweet Tarts) or mini boxes of Nerds to play with (she's broken through them before). He offered her Doritos today. Thinks it's not a big deal if she tries it. He truly loves her the most and wouldn't do anything to harm her but doesn't see some things as potentially harmful.
Again, sorry so long, but I'm upset right now and just wanted to get it out.[Poll]