Prenatal Communication

Laurara45

Does anyone practice this? I was reading DH's pregnancy advice book and it says that the father should speak to the  fetus everyday for about an hour. Read a book or just talk. It says he should talk as loud as if he were talking to someone across the room. The benefit to this is so that the father starts to build a relationship with the child early on and so that the baby will know who the father is after he is born (since most of the bonding is between the mother and baby).

 Anyhow, DH is been trying to talk to the baby, but I can't help but crack up laughing cause he is just sitting there talking to my stomach. It feels too weird. 

Any advice on how to get used to talking to your baby during pregnancy?

PunkyBooster

I don't feel weird talking to it because I have conversations with the dog I also sing a lot so I guess that counts.

DH is not talking to my stomach. No way, no how is that happening. lol

Connys1976

JoannaJes

I really can't imagine DH spending an HOUR a day talking to our unborn child. I would be happier if he spent that time talking to our born child. I don't really see the point...your LO will have plenty of time learning people's voices when they come out of the womb...no need to rush it. It's not like they are going to love their fathers more if they recognize his voice right away.

ETA: Then again, if it's something the father can do that makes me feel more involved, go for it. It can be difficult for dads sometimes to feel like they are connecting with the baby.

Laurara45

It's just too funny...DH goes up to my bump and says "Landon can you heaarrrr meeee!" It's still too early for DH to feel kicks so he can't tell if there is a reaction to his voice.

Verbose

I'm sure the evidence is there (and I have heard of this), but this seems a little over-the-top to me...

My husband and I are not big TV watchers, so when he's home from work we talk to each other almost non-stop. The baby can hear his voice during this time. This is enough for my comfort level.

SpartanChick88

I imagine that regular conversation between you and your DH would suffice.  The baby isn't going to know who Dad is talking to - it's more of a voice recognition thing. 

If this helps - a couple weeks ago I went to visit my parents.  I was there for a week and then DH drove up to join us.  As soon as he started talking, little girl started moving like crazy.  She recognized his voice and reacted.  It was very weird, but tells me that it's the sound, not the words that matter.  He never talks directly to her unless it's right after he gets home when he says hi to me and then hi to her... and then hi to the dog

Venus04d

My DH talks to our baby from time to time, but certainly not for an hour or everyday. Just randomly if we're cuddling on the couch or something he'll talk to her and tell her things like "Your mommy always makes me watch this stupid show." or "Never forget daddy loves you the most." or "Remember we're Redskins fans..." etc. Just silly stuff. Not for the purpose of bonding or voice recognition, I think it's just a little fun way for him to feel involved with what is going on in there.

mrskjc

I am happy that my DH is now remembering whenever he tells me he loves me and SS to also lean down and say "love you too 'baby'" He's a big joker too so he cracks the occasional one to LO or will say "Daddy loves his little girl...or his mad little boy if Daddy's wrong" (Although he is convinced it's a girl he thinks if it's a boy he's probably making 'him' angry by now) lol

Since he works so much I try to put him on speakerphone as often as I can-the phone is louder than he normally talks to me and I can hold it near LO. Makes me feel like we're getting a little more bonding time anyway under the circumstances.  

Kitiara5512

DH talks to LO, mostly to tell him not to listen to mommy, but thats it. He will rub my belly before bed for a while, but we havent been feeling kicks on the outside yet, so its hard to tell if LO even notices or reacts to any of this.

MrsSarahL

My DH is actually really good about talking to my bump.  He kisses and says hello and goodbye everytime he leaves for work or gets home.  He also likes to read to the baby every night.  DH doesn't spend a full hour, but he does talk to her.  It's cute.

kikdoc

DH is talking to baby less than he used to. When I was really sick with m/s and having a hard time, he used to always ask my bump "Why are you doing this to your mommy?"