Whenever MIL comes over, I let her hold DD (usually). But if she starts to fuss, my mom alert goes off and I need to take over. I try to give MIL a chance to calm her down, but after maybe 10 seconds, I go over to her and take DD away. She doesn't cry much, so when she does, I can easily figure out what's bothering her and I can fix it instantly. MIL tries to sing to her.
Tonight DD fussed, I went over to get her, and MIL tried to turn her back on me so I couldn't get to DD. I told her "I need to soothe my baby" and I took her away... I knew she was hungry so I went upstairs to the nursery and fed her... and I made the feeding last until MIL went home (the nursery is off-limits to everyone but DH when I'm nursing). Am I a bad DIL for stealing my baby away from her grandma?