Well, after only 1 month of my mother finding out I was pregnant she was already talking about my shower. I thought it was sweet that she was so excited, but knowing my mom and how she tends to be a bit over the top, I wanted to let her know that I really wanted to have it at my house and not for it to be a surprise. Anything else could be up to her. I didn't want a lot of drama and just wanted to keep it low key. I have let my mom pretty much have what she wanted, keeping my wishes to myself for years. She even planned my wedding with my dad. This time around I thought she would understand and respect my wishes. Well, she didn't....and it became a huge crowd that received "save the date" emails from my mom at a fancy inn far from my home. She ignored my wishes and even told me my friends were being selfish after I found that she chose a date to suit the place and not them. Most of my friends could not make the date she chose. I told her that my friends were most important to me. Well, I finally confronted her and she became super dramatic and upset telling me she was giving me everything I wanted, when it was the opposite of anything I had asked. The next day my Dad called me to tell me I got what I wanted and the shower was cancelled, clean slate. She even was going to invite the guys, which would make it super huge and uncomfortable for me since I know many of them wouldn't want to be there. My best friend is now hosting my shower and I am having it at my home. I am hoping my parents will come around so that my mom can still be a part of it, but as of now, they told me I pretty much need to get over it. I just wish they would understand where I was coming from, give me a bit of closure so I can move on. All my life I have been there for my mom, and never asked for a thing. It hurts me that this most important time in my life when I do ask for what I want she makes me feel selfish for doing so. Thanks for listening.