Etiquette: Proper wording on Baby Shower Registry for College Fund???
Hello ladies - here is a question that I need help on - we are having a baby shower in August and my SIL has given us almost everything we need already for our first baby! 
I am very blessed - My mother however wants to officially throw us a Baby Shower (bless her) so we are registering for some things that we know we will need.... so we have started the process (very overwhelming - oh my goodness)
My question is - we would rather our family and friends give us money towards the College Fund that we are setting up for our baby daughter - what is the proper etiquette to handling this? Also on the Registry - if you go online or go to the store and print - there is a message on there - we thought if we worded it correctly, we could post something along the lines of asking people to contribute to the college fund instead of physical gifts - what are your thoughts? What is the best way to word it so people don't get insulted???? Really could use your guidance on this one! Thanks!
Re: Etiquette: Proper wording on Baby Shower Registry for College Fund???
Ditto. Plus, this is the thing about showers- people like to bring an actual gift and like to see it being opened. Peopel will feel REALLY weird about coming w/o a gift. And as such, probably will still bring a gift.
So, either tell your mom a firm "thanks but not thanks", or suck it up and accept the shower and the gifts you'll get graciously!
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Our registry (myregistry.com) had a feature that allowed us to add "College Fund" as a gift option
I was in the same boat, where truly we did not need any more "stuff" but wanted to give people the option to give us something that we would actually use/need
Unfortunately I got more clothing/bibs/bottles than even someone with quadruplets would ever be able to utilize
I returned anything I could, and put that money (or the equivalent in gift cards) into a fund for baby
People love to shop for baby stuff, and you will most likely get more physical goods than cash, just an FYI
Simply put - there is no etiquette on asking for cash b/c it's not a polite thing to do.
You can't start a college fund until the baby is born and has a SSN.
Other ideas -- have a diaper/wipes shower since you have most everything you need. Or you can opt of the gifts and have your mom throw a party instead of a shower.
If you don't register, or for not enough stuff - then you up the chances that you will get a lot of stuff that you don't know where its' from, you can't return it, or... what have you.
The more you actually register for, you may have a better chance of being able to return it.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Totally agree. Its so funny that the people with so few posts are the ones actually who think these off the wall ideas are great!