I'm still really early on in my pregnancy, and I'm already dreading telling my mom I don't want a baby shower. I have a lot of reasons why I really don't want one - some personal, and some practical (like the fact we'll be living on the other side of the country from where the party/guests would be and I don't want to worry about traveling in 3rd tri or having it in 2nd tri). My mom threw showers for my SIL for both her kids, and I'm worried she's going to feel very hurt and upset that I don't want one (this is our first).
Instead I'm going to suggest a 'Welcome Baby' party a few months after birth - just a casual backyard BBQ where any and all can come, I hope that idea would also help soften the blow.
Anyone else decide not to have a shower? Did you have a mom/sister/friend who was upset by it? How did you deal with it?