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Its a religious thing?

Is having godparents for your baby a religious thing? I was lurking on another board and some one said "we arent religious so we arent picking godparents" I thought it was more main stream and not so religious now... WDYT?
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Re: Its a religious thing?

  • I can only speak for myself - we're catholic and the role of godparents is to help raise the child(ren) in the faith.  I have no idea what the role of "godparent" would be otherwise.  
  • We are Jewish and the role of a godparent for us is some one who will raise our kids in the event of our death. But its not really religious...
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  • image DaniLorello:
    We are Jewish and the role of a godparent for us is some one who will raise our kids in the event of our death. But its not really religious...

     This is what I've always heard. Sometimes it's just an honorary thing.

  • Since DH is in the military, everyone over here has godparents to raise their children in case both parents die. We aren't religious at all, it's all for legal reasons.
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  • We are Catholic. Our godparents are a religious thing. They help raise our children in the faith. For us, they are not necessarily the people who would take our children in case of death.
  • image APTR:
    I can only speak for myself - we're catholic and the role of godparents is to help raise the child(ren) in the faith.  I have no idea what the role of "godparent" would be otherwise.  

    This is me, also.

     

     

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    We are Catholic. Our godparents are a religious thing. They help raise our children in the faith. For us, they are not necessarily the people who would take our children in case of death.

    this, but I do believe traditionally in the past, the role of (Catholic) god-parents were typically the guardians if there were a death. 

  • I've heard both definitions -- the legal (orphaned children) and religious ones. But often non-religious parents don't have godparents for their children. We're not planning any.
  • I am a godparent to my bff's daughter.  She was raised Catholic but they now attend a Methodist church.  I've always been Methodist. 

    For us, it seems more symbolic.  I 'watch over' Evie but just to love her and make her feel special.  All 3 of their kids have different godparents and I think it's just a nice way of sharing your love.


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  • I'm not Catholic but folks in our church still will occassionally have godparents who help their children grown in their faith.  I'm not anyone's godparent but have been asked by two separate people (SIL and a friend) to be their children's guardian if they both were to pass away.
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  • I have been wondering about this as well.  My question is this.  When you have more than one child and they have different God Parents, if you believe the God Parents become their guardians then the kids get split up right?  I wouldn't like that!  Oh and what happens if you chose a friend and your relationship with that friend ends?

    For us, it is more of a faith thing.  My oldest son's God Parents are my sister and DH's brother.  My younger son's God Parents are my brother and my best friend.  With the baby, I am thinking of having my nieces be Co-Godmothers.  I am kind of disappointed that we asked my BIL and my friend.  They just aren't that involved in their lives!  

  • I still thought it was a religious thing.
  • My husband and I are Godparents, but not in a religious way. We are responsible for our friend's son in the even that something may happen to them. We'll be signing legal documents in the next month or so.
  • For us it is a religious thing. DH is catholic and DS's godparents are there to help raise him in the faith in case we were to be failing in that area. They will not be the ones to raise DS if anything were to happen to DH and I.
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  • I am somewhat religious, we have choosen godparents, and in my family it is an honour and we choose people who will help love support and shape our children not only religiously but in all aspects so it is a little religious but not completley.
  • We have asked my brother-in-law and sister-in-law to be the baby's guardians if anything happens to us, but we wouldn't use the term godparents because of its religious connotations.
  • I thought it was a Catholic thing. We're going to write who gets nugget in our will.
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  • Godparents, traditionally are for religious purposes.  There role is to guide the child(ren) spiritually in their religious faith if the parents are unable to do so.  They have absolutely no legal standing to raise the child(ren) in the event of the parents death.

    A Legal Guardian is who takes care of the child(ren) in the event of parents death and legal documents must be filed.

    We are not religious and therefore our children will not have godparents.  We will file the necessary legal documents for guardianship in the event we die.

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  • My parents were not religious so we did not have godparents.

    They did specify in their wills who would get custody of us if something happened.

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  • Lurking from 1st tri - In the Catholic faith we chose godparents for our children at baptism
  • image DaniLorello:
    Is having godparents for your baby a religious thing? I was lurking on another board and some one said "we arent religious so we arent picking godparents" I thought it was more main stream and not so religious now... WDYT?

    We have guardians in our will. Godparents is a religious term to me. Even you have godparents the title doesn't have an legal standing.

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    Since DH is in the military, everyone over here has godparents to raise their children in case both parents die. We aren't religious at all, it's all for legal reasons.

    wouldn't they be legal guardians then?

    To me, Godparents represent the religious "upbringing" of the child.  Legal guardians would be used in the event of the parents dying.  A child can have one set of Godparents & one set of Legal Guardians recognized in a legal sense...

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    I can only speak for myself - we're catholic and the role of godparents is to help raise the child(ren) in the faith.  I have no idea what the role of "godparent" would be otherwise.  

    This is me, also.

     

     Me too, except I'm Lutheran.  

    We also have people picked out who would raise the kids in the event of our death.  They are completely different than the Godparents we chose.

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  • We have a godmother and my husband and I are agnostic and Buddhist. Though for Religion it is raising the child in the faith, now a days Godparents take on a role of an extra loving aunt or uncle. My best friend and my son's Godmom also is in our wills as the trustee to our son if something should happen. Someone to help take care of him if we were to die.
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  • I've always thought Godparents were a religious thing. That if something happened to the parents then the Godparents took care of them and raised them to be a part of the church.  We asked my BIL if he would take Nugget if something happened to us, but we aren't assigning him the title of Godparent
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    image kristin2t:
    Since DH is in the military, everyone over here has godparents to raise their children in case both parents die. We aren't religious at all, it's all for legal reasons.

    wouldn't they be legal guardians then?

    To me, Godparents represent the religious "upbringing" of the child.  Legal guardians would be used in the event of the parents dying.  A child can have one set of Godparents & one set of Legal Guardians recognized in a legal sense...

    This has always been my view on it, as well.

  • It's both.

    Godparent's can be a religious thing, as in helping raise a child in the communal faith, and also a practical thing, as in who will raise your children in the event you pass away.

     DH and I are Catholic, but my family in particular is multi-faith, so we tend to see godparenting in both lights.  It should be noted that my Godmother took over raising me for a while when my parents got divorced so that my mother could get back on her feet.

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  • This is so crazy. I never thought of it as a religious thing- even though God is right in the word! My family is not really religious and I do have godparents. They are my parents best friends from college.  

    I suppose the original purpose was more of a religious thing but I think it's fine to do whatever you are comfortable with. 

  • (Excuse my lurking from the Name Board).

    Godparents are supposed to be there for the religious upbringing of the child. In churches that baptize infants, they stand and promise to support the parents and encourage the child to grow in faith.

    Some people who aren't particularly religious still go through the ceremony of infant baptism and ask godparents to stand as a way of honoring their role in the child's life.

    A non-religious godparent is an oxymoron. It's just the term being used incorrectly. Maybe because it has more affection attached to it, people choose to use it instead of "legal guardian," or some other way of identifying loved ones as important people in the child's life. It's like a child referring to a family friend as "Aunt" or "Uncle." The term is incorrect, but it gives the family a way of communicating important people in the child's life.

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  • In my husband's family it is a huge deal and yes there is a bit about religion when they stand up in church and say we will support the child's faith but as a godmother I can say I have done nothing of the sort nor as my husband done anything of the sort nor has any of his realtives taken that kind of role in their godchild's life.  In their family it is more, someone that always sends the god child a card on a holiday or presents for important events.  We havent really decided what we are going to do because we don't go to church and I refuse to lie about anything to get my kid baptized/godparents so it shall be interesting haha.
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