Baby Shower Blues

shpinz13

So, my MIL called me telling me she wants to throw my baby shower. I love my MIL dearly and I am very honored that she wants to do it and that she is so excited about it. The problem is that my mother is in the south helping my sister with her first baby and won't be back until around the first of July. I don't think this would upset my mother but I don't want her to come back and have everything already decided without her knowing. I kind of wanted to wait until I am in my second trimester to start thinking about a shower, since we all know that the first trimester is a delicate time, and by that time my mother will be back. I'm at a loss. I'm just trying not to hurt anyone's feelings. Any help would be appreciated

juggalettemommy2010

i would just explain to your mother in law why you feel this way surely she will understand you don't wanna do this with out your mother

MrsPreK

Tell her you don't feel comfortable planning without your mother being present and you'd like to be in the 2nd trimester and out of delicate (LMAO btw) territory

Smores730

would your MIL be interested in putting a shower together with your mom (as in duel host)?

 

ReeseM

I would just tell her you want to wait until you are in your second tri to even talk about it. 

gdssofshdws

Wow. This is REALLY early for a baby shower. Unless you plan on getting everything unisex. Tell her you would love one, but not so soon.

Giggity19

Why can't she hold off on planning until July?  Say your shower is in Oct-Nov.  That still gives 3-4 months for planning.

houndbaby

Are you wanting to have one big shower? If your Mom wants to do her own thing she doesn't have to co host with your MIL. I had separate showers for my family and dh's family. And starting to plan a shower during the 1st tri is really early. My showers were in Nov and Dec and no planning was started until Oct.