Hey girls...this is really stressing me out...I am totally greatful for everything everyone is doing for us, and I really appreciate the fact that my mom and MIL are hosting a baby shower for us, BUT...my mom has this idea in her head that it has to be a surprise, and it's not coming from a place of good-natured fun. The thing is, her mom (my gram) surprised her with a baby shower, my gram and mom surprised my aunt with a wedding shower, and now they think they should do it to me. Here's the catch...My mom, aunt and I all work at our family-owned garden center/florist/landscaping business. I wear crappy jeans to work and whatever t-shirt fits me, with flip flops or gym shoes I don't mind getting soaked while watering the greenhouse. We do not look/feel/smell nice after work, but it's part of the job!
My mom has told me a million times how upset she was that my grandma tricked her into showing up at her baby shower looking/smelling/feeling like crap, especially being 8 months pregnant. When they did it to my aunt and she showed up to a "party" to deliver "anniversary flowers" and realized it was actually her own bridal shower, she started crying, went home and showered and got cute, and came back. I know my mom's plan is to have me come by her house (4 min from work) to do the same to me and I just can't help being so upset by it. It's a cruel thing to do and it's for the purpose of humiliating me in front of a large group of people for a laugh. She hated it done to her, my aunt hated it done to her and has been telling my mom it's a terrible thing to do to me when I am pregnant and already feeling like crap, hot and sweaty and gross from working all day, etc...But she has her mind set on it. I can't seem to get through to her, and I don't want to come off as ungreatful, so I really have been trying to watch what I say. I just know she's going to do what she wants to do anyway and I am at the point where I just think it's such a mean thing to do to someone that I am not even excited about having a shower at all. If you have made it this far, thank you for reading, and no flames please!?