Today I was talking with one of my good friends, (mother to a four and two year old girls,) and I mentioned to her that I've made my decision to formula feed. Ideally I would have opted to breastfeed, but due to medical reasons that's not practical. I asked her if she had any friends in her mothers group that used formula, and if so, what brand. She informed me that none of her friends used formula and left it at that. I spoke with her today and apparently she called the Le Leche in my town, (she lives three hours away,) and inquired about getting me some donor breastmilk. Apparently it would be shipped from another state and is rather expensive. I don't know if it's my hormones or if I'm justified in being really irritated that she didn't respect what I said, "I'm formula feeding," and went out of her way to get the information that she felt I should have. I hate that I'm overanalyzing things, but ugh, so irritated.
This conversation was also followed up with her telling me that when he's born, I should let him latch on for bonding and comfort. I told her, "so that i can take him off my boob and try to get him onto a bottle when I know I'll be bottle feeding him?!" The poor guy will have had a confusing enough day. Just because she's been a mom for four years doesn't mean her advice is needed or wanted.