I don't know how to say this without sounding ungrateful but I just found out that my sister is planning a baby shower for me. She knows I don't like surprises so she told me she was planning one (all great so far) but when I asked her when she was planning the shower for she said that she was thinking ... (yeah nothing final) - just thinking about the first full week of April. I told her that, that was a bit late (I will be 37 weeks by then) and that I am not feeling well as it is now. I am exhausted all the time (which I know is normal) but with my 3 hour commute to work (1 1/2 hours each way), all I do is sleep on the weekends. I get up at 3 am every night and I am not able to get back to sleep... I will be discussing this with my doc but my point is that my third tri is kicking my butt and I am not sure if the baby will come early since this is my first, so the last thing I want to think of is having a baby shower at 37 weeks. When I told my sister how bad I was feeling, she said... "oh don't worry about it, you will be fine it's just brunch you can handle that - wait till the baby comes and you will not be sleeping at all" - I understand this to be true from other moms, but I thought it was a bit insensitive. I know she is trying and I appreciate that but at the same time, I can't help to feel the way I do, maybe I am just being hormonal... by the way, I only have like 5 girlfriends... hubby is my best friend and we don't have this huge circle of people we socialize with - we both work long late hours and unfortunately so do our friends... we keep in touch when we can and most of our families are spread out over the U.S or in other countries... so in other words - all of this for 5 people that I can see at any given time... and to top it off I now feel like a jerk because I know she is trying but I really feel like telling her not to worry about it and thank you for the effort... Is this mean?