DH and I have a mutual friend(she's my BFF and he was friends w/her before he knew me) and she told us she really wants to host a shower for us. In fact, she's lovingly adamant about it and that it be a [gift-giving]shower. I'm a little uncomfortable with this because, just 2 years ago we had a huge shower when I was pg with our first daughter.
As DD got older, we gave away or sold most of our baby items(as she outgrew them) figuring that Allison would be our only. We have most of the smaller items still and almost all of her clothes/shoes(many gently/never worn) to pass down to this daughter.
Yes, our situation is unique(see my tickers) and I fully understand that she is super excited to celebrate this new arrival. I've bounced this idea off of a few people, and they seem to think it's sweet of her and rallied behind her. Even DD's medical team/nurses have asked to be invited to a shower for this baby if we have one. I haven't declined, but I haven't agreed yet either. I still feel like it's our responsibility to furnish these items ourselves, because this baby is still a second child.
One idea I figured MIGHT be ok, is to have the party and request no gifts, or maybe just the practical things, like a diaper/formula/bottles sprinkle or something. I'm just so uneasy. I guess I just need some outside thoughts and opinions on the issue. help?