Let me preface this by saying that this isn't a vent and I'm not upset about this at all--I'm just trying to figure out whether my social etiquette barometer has been thrown off by being raised by generations of etiquette-nazi Southern women!
So DH has a friend we've both known for years and years (we all went to high school together) who still holds a weird little grudge against me ever since our wedding (two years ago). In a nutshell, DH and I had mutually decided to just have a best man/maid of honor and not a big wedding party, since we wanted a very small, simple ceremony. The friend decided this was all my evil plan to prevent DH from having him as a groomsman, and still makes comments about it under his breath every time he sees me. Whatever, not really my problem.
Anyway, this friend is having a birthday party this week. His friends and their wives, his family members, etc. are going, and the friend's wife will be there. He called DH a few days ago and invited him--just him, not me. DH very pointedly said, "I can drop in for one drink, but I'm not going to leave my pregnant wife at home alone all night." Friend either didn't get the hint or ignored it. So the invitation to his party stands for just DH.
I'm not going to throw a fit or tell DH he can't go or anything like that, just wondering if this is legitimately rude (to invite someone but not their spouse when other spouses are invited) or if it's fairly normal and my instincts are just being overly influenced by my Great-Gramma's manners lessons . WDYT?