Sorry if this doesn't make a lot of sense. I am so mad right now I can't even see straight. Long story short, last summer DH's ex went through a "rough patch" and dealt with it by latching on to DH. She was texting him day and night, starting out using their sons as an excuse, but then getting into inappropriate personal things that she had no business texting an ex. Not excusing the fact that his lame ass went along with it because he didn't want to "upset her" any more. So, as of last August we agreed that there would be no more texting between them. If they needed to discuss an issue concerning the boys they could talk on the phone. My ex and I do not text and we coparent very effectively. It is not necessary.
Fast forward to saturday. DH's phone buzzes. He looks at it and says "oh, my phone is dying", not realizing that I can see he just got a text. I call him on it. He does his best to hide if from me but come to find out, it is from her. He swears up and down he has no idea why she is texting him out of the blue...they NEVER text. Riiiiight. I had a bad feeling about it then, but I gave him every opportunity to tell me then if he was still texting her. I told him that if it was nothing, they were texting about the boys or whatever, then there was no reason to lie to me about it. I also told him straight up that I was going to call Verizon and get the detail from the bill and that if he was lying to me I was done. Yes, I have issues, he knew that when he married me. Nothing on earth makes me more crazy than being lied to.
So as you might have guessed, when I called verizon today they confirmed that there has been a significant increase in texts between him and her since Oct 16th...right about the time we found out that she is pregnant. I've had an "off" feeling since about that time but we were in the process of moving, DH was interviewing for his new job, new baby on the way...lots of changes so I put it out of my mind. Silly me.
I don't know what I want to do at this point. The only thing I have proof of is the texting, but the lying makes me madder than anything. I am due to have a baby in 3 days and I am so mad I could honestly kick him out of the house a barely bat an eye.