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An open honest question, not trying to judge

For people who plan ahead to formula feed...why have you chosen that beginning for your baby?
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Re: An open honest question, not trying to judge

  • I chose to formula feed DS #1 because I wanted to. No other reason.
  • image eamyg7:
    For people who plan ahead to formula feed...why have you chosen that beginning for your baby?

    Sounds judgy to me. Because there couldn't be any medical reasons attached to someone's reason to FF right?

  • I am breast feeding, but up until i was 7 months i was 100% planning on formula, and my reason was.... for me, breast feeding seems soooo unnatural and i just had no desire to do so.  I know its completely natural but for me, it just sounded like nothing i could or wanted to do... however, i guess hormones kicked in and made me okay with it so i changed my mind...  but i coudl never judge a women for not breast feeding because i completely understand not wanting too... its something you really need to want to do in order to do it in my opinion!
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  • I will attempt to BF again... but if that doesn't work out again then I'm fully prepared to supplement with formula if necessary.

     

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  • Sounds judgy to me. Because there couldn't be any medical reasons attached to someone's reason to FF right?

     

     

    Of course there could be medical reasons, my question was for women who PLAN to formula feed before they even try breastfeeding.

  • I am totally "pro-boob"  but I also have no desire to sh!t on someone for making another choice.....I think people have a huge range of reasons....from not feeling comfortable to not having the support, to previous breast surgeries...and so on.  Again...I am totally for breastfeeding, think it is great, the best, all that stuff...and I loved nursing my daughter...but I am not going to make anyone feel bad for using formula...I have dealt with plenty of negative comments about breastfeeding and have no desire to make another mom feel bad about formula...
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  • image eamyg7:
    For people who plan ahead to formula feed...why have you chosen that beginning for your baby?

     

    I think this is where you might have failed at being non-judgemental...

  • :::eye roll:: ?I agree with PP, sounds judge~y to me. ?I guess your baby will have a much better beginning than mine.?
  • I'm not sure if you want people like me (breast and formula) to answer, but I thought I'd throw in my two cents...

    I will be EBF for the first couple weeks and then supplementing with formula. Honestly, there are three reasons why I want to do this. First, so DH can feed our little boy without the need to have me pump. Second, I like the idea of formula feeding because we can do it easily out in public without needing to find a private place or purchase some sort of boob cover (I'm not comfortable whipping out a boob at the mall- kudos to women who are). Third, (this one's a bit selfish) I have really big boobs to begin with and I hate the idea of having even bigger boobs for breastfeeding.

    So, that's why DH and I have made the choices we have!

  • a girl in my childcare class's reason was " I'm 17, I have a life, I'm busy I need something you can shake and go".  I think it is necessary for some people.  My mom went back to work 9 days after I was born and couldn't pump.  Formula was a great option.  Some people also aren't comfortable with it, or they just don't want to.  I'm going to try but I also am aware that I may not be able to.
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  • Why do you have a picture of the Octo mom as your profile pic?

     

     

    Its my head.

  • Why not?   Baby is getting fed and is happy and healthy.   Why does there really have to be much of a reason?   Breast is best; however, it is marginally so.   Formula has come leaps and bounds over the years, and although not natural, it is healthy.    So, if a woman chooses to formula feed, I really don't think there needs to be a reason other than that's what she would prefer to do.   For me, I hated breastfeeding my first child, so this time I opted for formula.  

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    Sounds judgy to me. Because there couldn't be any medical reasons attached to someone's reason to FF right?

     

     

    Of course there could be medical reasons, my question was for women who PLAN to formula feed before they even try breastfeeding.

    You are clearly trying to start something, but if you honestly DO feel strongly that every mother should BF, this is NOT the way to go about getting moms "on board"   Women need to feel comfortable and have lots of support if they are going to breastfeed...even more so if they are at all hesitant about it.   Educating (and I am not saying others are not educated) women about breastfeeding and the benefits vs FF is going to be much more effective than whatever it is you are trying to do.   

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    image eamyg7:
    For people who plan ahead to formula feed...why have you chosen that beginning for your baby?

    Sounds judgy to me. Because there couldn't be any medical reasons attached to someone's reason to FF right?

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  • :::eye roll::  I agree with PP, sounds judge~y to me.  I guess your baby will have a much better beginning than mine. 

     

    Im just wanting to hear peoples answers honestly. I plan to breastfeed and am so stuck on the idea that if theres any reason i cant Im going to feel like a failure. In the event of that happening, Id like to have a bunch of positive things in my head about formula.

  • :::calls child protective services on all of you who are not breast feeding:::

    haha  Devil

  • We've decided to EP, but I have an open mind, to formula. Mainly because I'm nervous I won't produce enough milk for 2, but hoping upon all hope I can EP. We'll see.
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    Sounds judgy to me. Because there couldn't be any medical reasons attached to someone's reason to FF right?

     

     

    Of course there could be medical reasons, my question was for women who PLAN to formula feed before they even try breastfeeding.

    regardless, your "open, honest question" where you were not trying to "judge" just fell flat. People have their reasons for choosing how to feed their children.

    Women are judged enough in their lives. We're judged for staying home instead of working, working instead of staying home, bottle feeding, diapering, disciplining, etc. Why even start with this?

  • A friend of mine FF because she had to be on blood thinners for a few months. She knew that prior to giving birth so FF was always her plan.

    My SIL FF fed simply because she was not comfortable with BF. Some women just really just don't want to do it, and I feel strongly that it is their right to choose what they are most comfortable with. There is nothing wrong with choosing to FF. My nephews certainly didn't suffer because they weren't BF.

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    :::eye roll:: ?I agree with PP, sounds judge~y to me. ?I guess your baby will have a much better beginning than mine.?

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    Im just wanting to hear peoples answers honestly. I plan to breastfeed and am so stuck on the idea that if theres any reason i cant Im going to feel like a failure. In the event of that happening, Id like to have a bunch of positive things in my head about formula.

    Then I hope you don't have trouble. ?There is no reason to feel like a failure. It's actually, IMO, posts like this that make people feel bad for FF and not BFing. It's not for everyone. It's not going to work for everyone. And I get the whole "breast is best" thing.. but the kids in my family who were BF are much sicker and have more illness throughout the year than the ones who were FF... so I just don't buy it. I say, do what you want to do.?

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    I am totally "pro-boob"  but I also have no desire to sh!t on someone for making another choice.....I think people have a huge range of reasons....from not feeling comfortable to not having the support, to previous breast surgeries...and so on.  Again...I am totally for breastfeeding, think it is great, the best, all that stuff...and I loved nursing my daughter...but I am not going to make anyone feel bad for using formula...I have dealt with plenty of negative comments about breastfeeding and have no desire to make another mom feel bad about formula...

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  • "People have their reasons for choosing how to feed their children."

     And I wanted to hear form some mothers what those reasons were.

     

    "Women are judged enough in their lives. We're judged for staying home instead of working, working instead of staying home, bottle feeding, diapering, disciplining, etc. Why even start with this?"

    Like I said, I wanted to hear some solid positive reasons for formula feeding to try to change my negative opinions about it, just in case I end up not being able to breastfeed.

     

     

  • yikes. this post was a bomb.

    I have to ask you, why do you feel it's okay to ask someone why they chose to make such a personal decision? 

  • i don't have a problem with it. it's just not my thing so i ff. i did with my first and she was healthier than any of the kids i know that were bf. if for some reason dd has to be bf i will but that's not any the plans right now.
  • I am planning on trying to breastfeed however I may end up switching to formula. My reason is that if breastfeeding is not coming easily for me and LO I don't want to spend my entire maternity leave frustrated about it. In addition I will not be able to pump once I go back to work. The only two private places at the store I work are not well heated and it will be January in MN, it just won't work. I would love to give my LO the benefits of breast milk, but if it doesn't work than I am comfortable with formula. I was formula fed, I turned out fine and I am positive that science has advanced in formula far past what I was given 20 some years ago.  

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  • pretty much my response is "none of your business" 

     thanks...that is all!

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    image eamyg7:

    :::eye roll::  I agree with PP, sounds judge~y to me.  I guess your baby will have a much better beginning than mine. 

     

    Im just wanting to hear peoples answers honestly. I plan to breastfeed and am so stuck on the idea that if theres any reason i cant Im going to feel like a failure. In the event of that happening, Id like to have a bunch of positive things in my head about formula.

    Then I hope you don't have trouble.  There is no reason to feel like a failure. It's actually, IMO, posts like this that make people feel bad for FF and not BFing. It's not for everyone. It's not going to work for everyone. And I get the whole "breast is best" thing.. but the kids in my family who were BF are much sicker and have more illness throughout the year than the ones who were FF... so I just don't buy it. I say, do what you want to do. 

    Awww...elle...my daughter was never sick...and still hardly ever gets sick :(  

    That isn't meant to crap on you....I heart you....

    I just think people should mind their own business (not you...you said do what you want to do..and I agree).  My MIL drives me nuts about this whole topic....

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  • image eamyg7:

    "People have their reasons for choosing how to feed their children."

     And I wanted to hear form some mothers what those reasons were.

     

    "Women are judged enough in their lives. We're judged for staying home instead of working, working instead of staying home, bottle feeding, diapering, disciplining, etc. Why even start with this?"

    Like I said, I wanted to hear some solid positive reasons for formula feeding to try to change my negative opinions about it, just in case I end up not being able to breastfeed.

    If you're looking for "solid positive reasons" perhaps you should rethink the way you phrase your question. I'm done.

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