So this is just really bothering me today, and I wanted to write about it. I've been friends with "Sue" since first grade. We went to different colleges, have lived in different places, etc., since then, but we always stayed close. She was the maid of honor in my wedding.
As recently as May, things were great between us. We'd had a couple of visits lately (she lives about an hour away), and we were planning to go to a big concert together in October. Then I told her that I was pregnant.
Sue has always been an independent, career minded person. Pretty much all of her friends are childless and/or single. Since I told her I was pregnant, she hasn't returned any calls or voicemails. And one of them concerns a check I sent her for the concert tickets...it hasn't been cashed (it's been a few months, and I had emailed her the day I sent it to let her know it was in the mail, and to let me know if she didn't receive it). She isn't even responding to emails that say "can you at least let me know if you don't have the check so that I can stop payment on it. I'm worried it's lost."
I realize that this is really her problem, not mine. It just makes me really sad. Is 28 years of friendship really out the window just because I'm having a baby? When I do email her, I don't mention the baby at all...so I know this isn't because "all I do is talk about the baby."
She did stop talking to another mutual friend several years ago right around the same time she announced her pregnancy with her first child. But she had all sort of excuses for why they no longer talked, which had nothing to do with a baby. I just decided then that what ever was going on between the two of them was between the two of them, and I wasn't going to get in the middle of it. Now, looking back, I wonder if that really was just because of the baby, too.
Thanks for letting me vent. Any insight/advice would be appreciated. I'm just really in a funk about this today.