I was talking to a friend today and she'd mentioned how pacifiers were a complete life (and mind) saver when she had her LO. I told her my fiance and I aren't planning on using them all the time, just when we're on the phone and for whatever reason can't leave the baby and she says we're making a big mistake. All I said was "I just don't think they should be used excessively, its just another thing we'll have to break them from later if we do" and she went off on me saying I called her a bad mother. Then when I sat there with a look on my face like "where the heck did that come from?" she started saying I was looking at her like she was stupid or something. I just kind of wrote it off because she's pregnant too so it might have just been hormones.
We believe its not a mistake in doing that because we've done it successfully 4 times already with our foster kids and all of them were born drug addicted and had special medical needs when we got them.
So what're your opinions on pacifiers? When should or shouldn't they be used?