So I have held firmly that Im not having a shower since no one has offered or brought it up. I have people ask me all the time when itll be & about registering, etc and I answer that I dont think Im having one. The one day my dh kept making faces when I was responding this way & then said something to the effect that "something was in the works".
I just dont see how someone could throw me a shower (or who would do it) without consulting me on a date or a guest list since there are HUGE family issues on both sides of our families. Then I got to thinking 'god i hope dh didnt start this' since I didnt confide in him that I was a little sad about not having one.
So my question is: would you question dh further about what is going on? Im sure if I pressed he would tell me, but if it is a surprise I wouldnt want to ruin it, but I also dont want him throwing me a shower or something stupid like that. Id also be concerned about how was/wasnt being invited & dh would never pay attention to these things. My dh has also been known to say stupid things, so there could still be no shower & he just made some stupid comment assuming someone might throw one & I would hate to get my hopes up only to still not end up having one. Gosh, I Hope that makes sense.
Re: shower related question
I would push, at the risk of ruining a little of the surprise. What if someone that you care about is forgotten? I'd feel bad.
My friend and my mom are planning mine, but I just asked that they let me give them a date and my list of names and they can add anyone else they want.
Or is there anyway you could leave a list...give to him in a "just in case" you know of someone that might want to know about who to invite to a shower?