Okay, so my MIL and FIL do NOT get along at all... when DH and I were engaged they pretended to be happy about it, however they would call him weekly and say "she's not right for you. you need to know if you make this choice there's NO WAY that we will support it or you." Fast forward to the months before the wedding... I start getting death threats via email and telephone... DH answers and gives them a piece of his mind. It was his family. So, obviously cops were called and then our numbers were changed. They do NOT know where we live other than the town, and that will never in a million years change. Fast forward to the wedding day... his aunt and uncle showed up at the wedding, and that was it for his family. His *lovely* (heavy on the sarcasam) father decided it would be a WONDERFUL time to call DH and this was the just of what was said... "I have to support your mother in times like this, I won't be at the wedding. This is your final chance to back down and do the right thing." His parents are divorced. I added fuel to the fire by calling him back... I said "don't you think it's about time that you man up and accept your responsabilities as a father? She's alwasy going to be your EX and he's always going to be your SON. Maybe it's time for you to decide where your loyalties lie." I was furious with him, the wedding day is NOT the proper time to make that type of a phone call. Its supposed to be one of the happiest days of your life... not one of the most upsetting ones. Anyways... fast forward to Christmas... I should mention at this point that the only family he had contact with were his grandparents and the aunt and uncle who attended the wedding... his grandpa passed away... we went to the memorial. His step mother approached me and said "I'm terribly sorry for the way that you've been treated by this family. It's not right, and it's not fair at all." I said "I appreciate that, and you're right." that's about all that was said... then his mother emails me...(my emails come directly to my cell phone, so it opened immediately and i went to delete it however figured something must be up if she was actually emailing me, and his gramma is in failing health so I read it...) "I wanted to let you know how deeply it touched me that despite how horrible we've been to you in the past you put that aside to attend my dad's funeral. It was so nice to see you. You looked absolutely gorgeous. Congratulations on the pregnancy, I know you'll be a lovely mother." WTH... anyways... then she emails me again "I really want to put the past in the past for the sake of the baby. I want to show you I mean this. I want to throw you a baby shower. Which date works best for you?" So after careful thought I wrote back "I appreciate the offer, and I appreciate that you want to put the past in the past. I'm not going to snub you off with this, I will give it a chance and see where it goes... yes I will attend however your son does not wish to see you at this point so he said he will not accompany me... would it be alright for my mom to come with me?" and she said that was fine. *insert side note* MIL has commented time and time again that she wants to put the past in the past and I always agree to try for sake of DH and my sanity... anyways... we went to the shower, and it was really awesome, no complaints at all... awkward but really nice. I thanked them profusely and said that I really was touched by this, (which i was) and that it was very nice of them to do. Then SIL goes out to a party and sees DH's friend... this friend is very very angry with DH as he did not come down. SIL says "oh yeah, my mom said that the hosebag (that'd be me) forced him to stay home and do house work today." Now, SIL tends to lie a lot, but that sounds exactly like something MIL would say... now DH is hopeful that things will get better with his family, and I still have extreme reservations... I told DH that i absolutely refuse to ever let them see the baby without us being present, DH agreed totally... My question is DH wants to call them when I have the baby, and they want to come to the hospital... I really don't want them there... wwyd???
Am I just being cranky and emotional??