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5 weeks pregnant...is it okay to have one glass of wine?
Hi,
I have a work happy hour I have to go to tonight and I haven't told anyone from work that I am pregnant yet. I decided to wait until after the first trimester to make sure everything is okay. If I don't get a drink it will look really suspicious because I always have a drink or two with everyone. It is a really small group going so I can't slip away and have the waitress change my order without someone noticing. Can I have one glass of wine or is it too early in the pregnancy?
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Re: 5 weeks pregnant...is it okay to have one glass of wine?
Every Doctor is different some say 1 glass once a week some say none. Mine says none. Also since that little bean is in one most crucial time of development I wouldnt but thats just me.
I didn't know I was pregnant until I was in my fifth week, so I had alcohol until then. However, had I known, I would not have been drinking. I do have a glass of wine maybe once a week (closer to every two weeks), but that didn't start until semi-recently.
Most people probably don't pay that much attention to whether or not they're drinking. If they do and ask, tell them you're taking medication or something. Or just tell them you don't feel like having a drink.
I definitely wouldn't.
Your baby's organs are forming right now... don't do it. And who cares if it looks suspicous, just say you don't feel like drinking. They won't kill you if you just say no.
I wouldn't. I was surprised with this pregnancy so had been drinking for the first few weeks and I feel horrible about it.
My go-to excuse if I'll need one is that I'm trying to lose weight and just started some diet or something. I think it'll work well since I already look and feel 5lbs heavier!
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The what to expect when you're expecting book says that a half a glass of wine for special occassions is ok.
I would probably opt for half a beer though because that has less alchohol content.
Ditto!
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That book is kind of crap in a lot of ways. And the matter is extremely controversial. Some think it's ok, some don't. The bottom line is, there is no evidence that ANY amount of alcohol is safe during pregnancy, despite the fact that some babies come out fine even with mothers who drink throughout pregnancy. You just never know, so it's always better to be safe than sorry.
Personally, I wouldn't. I think it's a slippery slope! (But maybe that's just me)
I totally understand the small happy hour thing, it's really tricky. Last time I had to do that, I used Lent as an excuse! Maybe start now complaining of a headache? Then your coworkers won't be surprised if you say you just took headache meds.
Drinking just to hide the pregnancy is silly.
If it matters to you to not drink, don't do it.
My OB is fine with very small amounts of wine here and there...admittedly I had about one glass total my first pregnancy (split up 4 times), and had less than a half of a glass of red wine a week ago and will likely not have any more anytime soon. My rule is any more than a taste is too much for me...I know many women think even this is too much.
Thank you... nuff said.
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Controversy about WTEWYE (taken from Wikipedia with cited sources)
"What to Expect When You're Expecting has been criticized for promoting paranoia and fear among pregnant women for focusing on complications and for its extremely strict dietary guidelines. Murkoff also has no medical training and has been further criticized for stating she asks obstetricians to comment on manuscripts only late in the writing and editing processes.[2] With the first publishing of the book being in 1984, one reason it is considered problematic is due to the many old and unrevised printings in public circulation. Although wording is revised with each new edition to respond to critiques, older copies are passed down by women to their pregnant peers.[2]"
My SIL's copy of WTEWYE says that a baby can drown during an underwater birth. Umm, yeah if you are completely incompetent, cut the umbilical cord and leave the baby in the water.
I would not trust everything you read. You are growing a child in your womb. A little common sense goes a long way.
This. 100% this. I wouldn't risk it.
I'm guessing that woman had more than one night of fun in her pregnancy. A lot of women have more than one night of fun and end up with perfectly normal babies because they do not know they're pregnant until after the fact (I am not advocating binge drinking during preganancy).
They don't have any definitive answers on how much alcohol (if any) is "safe" during pregnancy, but the research (or what they can do of it) seems to show that it takes a LOT of alcohol in frequent doses during development to cause full-blown FAS.
That said, this is my opinion to the OP:
I wouldn't do it- not at 5 weeks. Too much is forming. This is how I weigh these situations: "I know it would probably be fine, but I could never forgive myself if something went wrong." I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life wondering if I could have prevented a defect or something.
Well, I guess I'll be the outcast with my opinion, but I honestly don't think an occasional glass of red wine will harm the baby. (Occasional does not mean binge drinking! FAS has been clearly established for >5 drinks/week situations, but that is clearly not what we are talking about here.)
In France, when a woman gets pregnant, the Dr. recommends the mother to drink more wine and eat less salad (due to possible bacteria on the uncooked vegetables). And healthy babies are born in France all the time. I think a lot of this hysteria over foods is just that -- hysteria. No one is ever going to do a study where they purposely feed pregnant women dangerous foods, so it's always going to be the safe answer to avoid EVERYTHING that could be REMOTELY dangerous.
Now, having said all that, I think the question you need to ask is IF something were to happen (god forbid), would you be always regret that glass of wine? I think a lot of us would say yes, and that's why I would avoid wine, sushi, etc. Logically, I truly believe that the chances of harm from a piece of yellowtail and a glass of merlot are so infinitesimal that riding in a car would be far more dangerous. But if something happened, I wouldn't want to keep thinking "What if..."
Here's what I did with my CW's before I spilled the beans: Ordered a bottled beer, and then just pretended to take sips. If you get a dark enough bottle, no one can even see if you've really taken any out of it. Or get something, pretend to take a sip, and then stop. If somone says something, say "It tastes gross, I don' t like it" or something like that.
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Sorry, but it stands true that NO amount of alcohol is considered safe, and this woman did not repeatedly drink while pregnant -- she is very honest about how her son got to his current state and is very active in FAS groups. Yes, a large number of children are born without symptoms even with the mothers' choice to drink while pregnant, but the children who are affected suffer forever. ?