Ok, I talked with DH about this but it still really bothers me! Tell me if I'm wrong to feel this way?!?!
Little background: My DH works days, and I work nights (3 pm-11pm) and we have worked out a system with my sister so that we dont have to take DD to daycare which is really nice! Anyway, my DH had to work late last night (arranged ahead of time) and my MIL came over to watch my DD around 4 to relieve my sister b/c she had prior plans. Well, my MIL is a smoker....I find out this morning that while watching DD last night she was smoking out of the sliding glass door! (Like open with 1/2 her body hanging out the door to smoke 'outside'). Even before DD was born, we spoke with her about her habit and said that if she needed a cigarette while over at our place, that she was to go out the front door of our appt. complex to smoke! Not only does that smoke roll in when she smokes out the door, but then its on her clothes and everything else! I find 5 cig butts in an ashtray out on our deck.
This is not the end! I was in the kitchen this morning and notice that our 2 bottles of wine are gone! And there are red wine stains on my counter. Not only was she smoking while watching DD, she was drinking!! And I know that my MIL left about 5 minutes after my DH got home b/c he got home so late, that there was no way that she waited to drink until after DD was asleep! Now, I have been guilty of having a glass of wine or two once DD goes to bed, and since she is STTN, I figure that its ok.
I talked to DH about it, and he said that he is greatful for him mom comming over to watch DD when we were it a tight spot and that I shouldnt complain, because she watched DD for like 5+ hours for us. But smoking and drinking?!?!?! Really??!!??!!? Should I be upset? Should I bring it up to her?
Thanks in advance for your opinions (sorry this is so long)