And it's really ok to tell me if I am. My mom is throwing me a shower this weekend (my first) and I am soooo excited. DH's sisters and mom were invited, but none of them are coming for reasons that are just stupid. I'm upset that they're not coming, but whatever. I'll get over it. But what really makes it worse is this - they've all said that they're not planning to send gifts, either. Now, the way I was raised is that if you are invited somewhere (showers, etc) and can't go, you send a gift in your place - especially if it's family. DH asked his family if they were planning on sending gifts and they said "no, why would we? we aren't coming!" I was actually pretty hurt by this! Not only for me, but for DH. That's his family and our son is their grandson/nephew!!! Am I overreacting? Should I not be upset about this?