I have spent the whole day thinking back on my dr.s appt yesterday. And the more that I think of it, the more I am upset about it. Although I had good news, I left feeling rushed, manhandled and stupid.
I think I've always was a bit dissatisfied (saw him for routine annuals and BC scripts for like 10 years but never needed him to counsel or be nurturing- it was always uneventful) but now that a baby's involved, it changes everything.
Some highlights from yesterday:
I asked my doctor about the CVS test (like I dutifully read in WTEWYAE). He said that the test is antiquated and he doesn't know of anyone who does it anymore. I said really? I just read about it and my sister had one. He said the book WTEWYAE is outdated. "It was written before you were born". Really? I have the 4th ed. Is this true? Why am I reading so much about it?
I asked if he can give me info on my hormone levels, is everything progressing normally etc? He said everything is fine. He said I don't need to worry about those types of questions since I am further along. Huh?
I asked if he can give me info on the baby's heartbeat. Like how many beats per minute. He said no. It was too soon to tell. Really, is it?
I wanted a copy of the U/S and the nurse made a very poor quality photo copy on 8X11 paper. I made the nurse give me the pic and gave her the photocopy.
Finally (Warning this is jarring), the nurse ends up chatting me up and telling me that pg women very often have bladders that fall out of their vaginas and look like lemons coming out of there. WTF?!? This is horrible. This can't be true, I've never heard my mom or grandma talk about this and NO ONE is taking about this on the bump. OMG, like I need something else to worry about. Seriously, I couldn't make this stuff up.
Okay, I'm not crazed pg woman right? This is unacceptable, right? I feel so stupid, and so angry that he ruined the moment for me and my DH. We saw the baby for the first time and also saw "his" HB, but I felt so awkward, I held my tears back. My DH and I looked at each other so confused and robbed of the moment.
I guess my real question (after ALL that)is what is the ettiquette? Do I inform him of the change? I am a firm believer in avoidance. I practice it often. Do I HAVE to say anything?
I already have an appointment with another ob/gyn, who comes highly recommended. She is young and just had her first baby. I hope she works out.
Why am I stressed out about this?!?! Sorry for the hormonal rant, I can't help it.