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People touching my **8** week "belly"

Um, there IS no belly! But, I've had two people touch it anyway. Strange because I don't remember people touching my belly when I was pregnant with DS until I was reeeeeally pregnant and a) they were good friends and b)they asked first. But for some reason, this time it's starting early I guess. I thought of the boards because when I was here with #1 there were always posts of people complaining about unsolicited belly touchers and I could never relate. It doesn't really bother me much but it's funny when you aren't showing yet!

Anyone else have this experience before it was warranted?

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  • um yes. at christmas dh's uncle reached down and touched me. i was 7 weeks. wtf? i was like, why is he touching me? and i remembered i am pg, but still?!?! he didnt ask either, just reached down and patted. awkward. without the belly i feel like you are just touching too close to my vajayjay. kthanksbai. so i know how you feel.
  • I love my boss, but she does the same. Im like that is just fat and bloat, not a bump
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  • My sister did that at 9 weeks and I said "Um what are you doing your just touching my fat thanks!!" She said "oh i didnt know."
  • My friends are doing that to me already. It's so annoying, and even worse I haven't told everyone I'm pregnant so it kind of gives them a good hint...

    On New Years my friend did that and then tried to play it off as a dance move, which was hilariously ackward. 

  • my mom did a couple weeks ago and I think i jerked away like wtf was that! lol only dh should be touching my fat right now LOL
  • umm...yes...at 4 weeks!  basically a day after my BFP!  and i was sitting there stuffing my face, and REALLY bloated, and our male friend kept patting my belling, and i'm like, "um, that's just my fat gut filling up with food that you're touching!"
  • My friend also did that at 9 weeks - patted my completely flat belly. I said there is nothing there, and she said "Well, there must be SOMETHING"...sure there is something, just not touchable yet. Odd...
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  • My mom touched mine, but it was a sign of affection and caring.  I guess I don't care, but like others said, it is simply a little pudge of fat right now.
  • My patient did... awkward.  I know I touch their mouths (I'm a dentist), but I don't want them randomly touching my pooch from IVF.  That was at 6w.  My assistants were saying yesterday that I have a cute little belly... UMM THAT IS FAT.  I gained weight from IVF that they are mistaking for a bump.  I am ready to have a real bump, thank you very much!


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  • I haven't been touched, but my brother in law, who is 22, saw me after Christmas and bends down and says to my belly "How are you doing?" Without thinking I snapped, rather indigent, "Don't be looking my pudge!" He looked shocked, but was apparently quite amused later and is now calling the baby "pudge." Hopefully it isn't a name that will stick once he/she is born Stick out tongue
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  • When I was visiting my sisters, they all did the same.  They were talking about the baby while touching my stomach and I was only 5 weeks at the time. I go back to work on Tuesday and I?m now wondering how I?ll react when the teachers find out and start touching my stomach.

  • This is my fourth pregnancy, and I think I can count on one hand the number of belly touches I've had (I've been told I give off a "***" vibe; that's fine with me if it means they keep their damn_ hands off me).  However, my brother in law is the biggest offender!  I'm "showing early" (I look pregnant now because the fat and bloat just automatically go out front that way now lol) but it's still. just. fat. and bloat.  Not baby.  Fat.  Last weekend he was over and he reached out and started rubbing!  Ugh.  I started backing up and he kept doing it!  I feel bad because I know he's not being dirty or anything; he's just a really affectionate guy.  But I am NOT a touchy-feely kind of person at all, and I get even more adverse to it when I'm pregnant.  I don't rub his belly!!  Why is it ok to rub mine?? AARRRRRGGGGHHHHHH

    Whew.  I'm glad you posted this.  I've been meaning to post this rant for a long time. lol

  • LOL  That should say "b!tch vibe"
  • I read somewhere that when people do that without asking, you should just grab their crotch...lol. Violation results in violation.,
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  • Guess I've been lucky. Only my best girlfriend and the daddy have wanted to touch my belly so far ... and with them it's sweet.
  • YES! My mother does it every time I see her. It's very annoying.
  • haha, it's so funny reading these. i've only been patted once, by my dh's cousin. she touched my stomach when i was 5 weeks along and not any bigger than i normally am, and goes oh my gosh! i feel a baby! it bothered me more than i thought it would! i know this pregnancy i'm going to feel "hands off!" the whole 9 months.
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    I read somewhere that when people do that without asking, you should just grab their crotch...lol. Violation results in violation.,

    I like that! Just pictured it and it's so funny. I'll try it the next time.

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  • At Christmas I was 10 weeks and my aunt (after she had some drinks) started kissing my stomach. ?I just stood there, wishing she would stop. ?It was weird, but I guess she's just excited.
  • Yes! ?They are all friends, but at the same time... I'm only 11 weeks pregnant. ?There is no bump, only bloat. ?It's kinda uncomfortable having someone touch my bloated belly!!!
  • We told our family at Christmas that we were pregnant and my 10yo cousin comes over and starts rubbing my belly, it took everything I had not to pop him.  His mother was mortified, I understand he doesn't know, in his world that's just what you are supposed to do when people are pregnant.  I've already found a shirt that says Don't touch the bump at cafepress.com.
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    I read somewhere that when people do that without asking, you should just grab their crotch...lol. Violation results in violation.,

    ROFL!!! I almost pee'd myself!!!  I dont think that would go over well with my MIL, but the mental image would have been total worth it!!  Thats awsome

  • I had some one touch my stomach today!! I was just like ummmm im only 9 weeks Im not showing and please dont touch me..
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  • Ew-I know what you mean.  When I was 12 weeks with DD, and barely showing, I had just started a new job.  My boss introduced me to his wife, at a company outing no less, and he patted my belly when he introduced me and told her I was pregnant.  I was ABSOLUTELY horrified, but I totally hid it and just smiled.  It was gross.

  • I had an acquaintance reach out towards my belly like she was about to pat me or something, and I backed up really fast and asked what she thought she was doing. All I have is fat right now. I am absolutely not cool with people randomly touching my stomach, even if it's after I'm showing. It just seems rude to me. I like to adhere to the personal space rule.
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    I read somewhere that when people do that without asking, you should just grab their crotch...lol. Violation results in violation.,

     

    Quote of the day! Hysterical! 

  • I haven't had anyone touch my belly yet but when they do I am going to have that mental image and will probably start laughing.  Thank you for that, it will help me deal with the inappropriate touching!

  • I had someone I didn't know congratulate me on my pregnancy today! Nobody knows yet except close family. I look exactly the same as before I was pregnant. I just looked at her dumbfounded and said "well, no one knows yet, and I'm not showing," to which she replied "really?"

    You can only imagine how I felt!



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