I think that we all start our TTC journeys blissfully ignorant. We have the naive ability to be picky about when, how, where we get pregnant. We can say things like 'oh i have a trip planned so I really hope i don't get pregnant in April' or whatever. Those of us who struggle end up finding out who stupid that all is. Some women never have to find that out and its hard not to hate them for it a little bit. Big hugs to everyone having a tough time, it sucks more than anyone can put into words.
@canonmom413 I'm with your DH on this one. I think its so damn sweet that you are even considering it. But it is not selfish to put yourself first in this. A surrogate pregnancy would be hard enough emotionally, but if its medically unsafe for you I'd say gently tell her no. It sounds like she will have other options. But I think you have such a kind heart to even consider it.
@canonmom413 that is a very difficult situation and I'm sorry you have been put in that position. You certainly have to put yourself first. If you cannot medically be a surrogate, can you explain to her that that is the reason and then not go into more detail?
Me: 31 DH: 32 Dating since: 11/17/2001 Married: 9/26/2009 TTC: June 2016
@hartmich I saw that too (just read through the thread actually). I actually had to read through it a few times to make sure I didn't misread it. I think that particular person is using us as a replacement for an otherwise dead board (BOTB).
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Me: 38 DH: 38 Married 6/11/16 TTC Since 6/2016 12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal 3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve 8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC 7/2018 Clomid+IUI 11/2018 Letrozole+TI 12/2018 Letrozole+IUI 2/2019 NTNP 5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
oh I laugh about the "plans" and "rules" I made prior to TTC.
I didn't want to have the baby in late July-October because "then I'd be super pregnant when it's super hot and that would be uncomfortable"
Also didn't want a baby in November or December because it's too hectic.
Wanted a baby born in October so it would be oldest in its class about would be the first to do things instead of the last. (see point number one..... not sure how I rectified that in my head)
My high school had an AP teacher that timed all 3 of her children to the 3 weeks after the AP test. She wanted to get as much time off as she could (incorporating summer break), but didn't want to miss a day of prepping kids for that test. She was crazy, and extremely lucky it worked out for her.
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32 TTC Since 11/2015 #1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
@lulu1180@hartmich Sorry if I encouraged bad behavior on the TTA/Benched thread... I feel a little lonely sometimes because I can't actively TTC right now but I also have serious BOTB. I agree with you ladies though... if it wasn't a matter of putting my employment and financial security at risk I'd already be TTC. I have my FX to be KTFU at my friends wedding and bach party this summer!
@JJMNO1616 We aren't talking about you at all!!!! I'm sorry and didn't mean to make you feel bad. You're simply avoiding because of certain things. This person was planning on starting so that the baby would be due a specific time. Please don't feel bad!!
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Me: 38 DH: 38 Married 6/11/16 TTC Since 6/2016 12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal 3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve 8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC 7/2018 Clomid+IUI 11/2018 Letrozole+TI 12/2018 Letrozole+IUI 2/2019 NTNP 5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
Haha @lulu1180 that's adorable. Pee on it and walk away for 3-5 minutes, depending on what the box says? Also, am I losing it, or did the BGs completely delete the pee stick post from earlier today?
@jjmno1616 girl don't you worry. I'm sure you were just happy to have some company over there. I had to TTA early on because of Zika concerns and it suucckkked.
@lulu1180 OMG I forgot as well!!!! So excited!!!!! (this is assuming I stay awake to watch it...thank goodness for the DVR!)
**possible TW** Can I vent for a minute? So this woman I work with (same on who hid my shoes if you saw my post yesterday) started talking to me about babies and kids (our mutual friend's son just had a baby so we were talking about that). Then she starts asking what DH and I are going to do when we have kids and proceeds to list all of the challenges we will face when we do have kids. Such as we work long days, we live 1.5 hrs from where we work, we have no family around or ever close by except my MUCH younger sister, childcare is so expensive blah blah blah blah. And she can't possibly fathom how I'll be able to do it all without my Mother nearby... She then goes on to tell me that when she had her kids (20 years ago) her mother took them every weekend and her babysitter lived next door. And in her opinion I should quite my job and move back near my mother. I am not saying we wouldn't make sacrifices for our future LO, but I really just wanted to tell her to STFU! I think she is well meaning but it just annoyed me. Vent over. Thanks for listening. Here's a cute pic
@jess0211 I agree she's probably well meaning, but annoying nonetheless. The way she did it, 20 years ago, is outdated and actually kind of spoiled. For what its worth i live across the country from my mom and we do just fine. I hire a sitter when I need one and thats what most people I know do. I hate when people try to push their beliefs and ways of doing things onto others.
@heatherdubrow thank you, that made me feel better!!! I know DH and I will figure it out like we do everything else in life, her comments just rubbed me the wrong way... I almost felt like I was being lectured.
@jess0211 we don't live anywhere near family, but we have made friends here who have lent us a hand with the twins, you make it work. plus my mom is BSC so I wouldn't want her to take the kids... Your coworker is a TW.
*TW*
TTC 1/2012 Diagnosed : unexplained infertility 6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015 TTC #3 5/2016 Restarted Fertility tx IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
@hartmich I was one of those special people initially trying to avoid a due date that's around the holidays. But now the idea of TTA for the next few months is utterly laughable.
Am I missing drama somewhere? Or are you referring to people you know IRL?
DH is voting for Halloween this go. July 4th, December 25th and February 29th.
Does anyone remember months ago there was a drive-by thread here in TTGP from a woman who gave explicit detail about her sex schedule around O, then said she wasn't taking PNVs, and when people asked why she wasn't taking PNVs, she got all weird and said it was a personal decision and she didn't want to talk about it and some things like vitamins should be kept private between her and her doctor? I can't find it again.
Does anyone remember months ago there was a drive-by thread here in TTGP from a woman who gave explicit detail about her sex schedule around O, then said she wasn't taking PNVs, and when people asked why she wasn't taking PNVs, she got all weird and said it was a personal decision and she didn't want to talk about it and some things like vitamins should be kept private between her and her doctor? I can't find it again.
I am asking... for a friend...
Now my friend would like to know how a boinky schedule would be fodder for the masses, but a possibly/probably OTC vitamin that any one can go buy at Target/Walmart/Costco..... is highly personal information.
Is it just me or is everyone like SUPER on edge recently. Someone almost ran DH and I off the road the other night then followed us for awhile because DH flashed his brights when they cut us off.
Me 30 DH 36 Married 9/26/15 TTC 2/10/17 - BFP 5/5/17 - EDD 1/11/18
@haylsbayls That's definitely the one I was remembering. It must be that someone linked it as a classic drama thread at some point. Just like how the butt baby thread pops up every few months as a classic of the genre.
@lulu1180 I didn't forget, but I watch it on hulu and will be busy all day, so I absolutely can not watch till tomorrow evening... ***no spoilers!*** lol. I managed to get DH to watch the pilot with me, but I'm not sure he showed the appropriate level of enthusiasm. :/
@haylsbayls@adirat I wake up and see 10 new posts on here and then go down the rabbit hole of reading her posts. Man something like that would be kind of fun now. As long as it doesn't happen on a bad TTC day lol
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Me: 38 DH: 38 Married 6/11/16 TTC Since 6/2016 12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal 3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve 8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC 7/2018 Clomid+IUI 11/2018 Letrozole+TI 12/2018 Letrozole+IUI 2/2019 NTNP 5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
Lol @ those posts! The other day to amuse myself I went into the baby shower section and had a ball. People get VERY heated over there. And of course "the bump and bullies" is a classic thing to google to keep you amused for awhile
Re: Weekly Randoms - week of 1/9
Speaking from experience here
@canonmom413 I'm with your DH on this one. I think its so damn sweet that you are even considering it. But it is not selfish to put yourself first in this. A surrogate pregnancy would be hard enough emotionally, but if its medically unsafe for you I'd say gently tell her no. It sounds like she will have other options. But I think you have such a kind heart to even consider it.
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
My high school had an AP teacher that timed all 3 of her children to the 3 weeks after the AP test. She wanted to get as much time off as she could (incorporating summer break), but didn't want to miss a day of prepping kids for that test. She was crazy, and extremely lucky it worked out for her.
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
Also, am I losing it, or did the BGs completely delete the pee stick post from earlier today?
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
Also, you're right the BG deleted the pee stick post from this morning!
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
**possible TW** Can I vent for a minute? So this woman I work with (same on who hid my shoes if you saw my post yesterday) started talking to me about babies and kids (our mutual friend's son just had a baby so we were talking about that). Then she starts asking what DH and I are going to do when we have kids and proceeds to list all of the challenges we will face when we do have kids. Such as we work long days, we live 1.5 hrs from where we work, we have no family around or ever close by except my MUCH younger sister, childcare is so expensive blah blah blah blah. And she can't possibly fathom how I'll be able to do it all without my Mother nearby... She then goes on to tell me that when she had her kids (20 years ago) her mother took them every weekend and her babysitter lived next door. And in her opinion I should quite my job and move back near my mother. I am not saying we wouldn't make sacrifices for our future LO, but I really just wanted to tell her to STFU! I think she is well meaning but it just annoyed me. Vent over. Thanks for listening. Here's a cute pic
@redbreast35 I had the same thought about poas! @lulu1180 I still appreciate the inspiration though:)
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
At least it makes my RE and OB giggle.
I am asking... for a friend...
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
Married 9/26/15
TTC 2/10/17 - BFP 5/5/17 - EDD 1/11/18
EDD: March 24, 2018 - angel baby at 21 weeks
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/77425843#Comment_77425843
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/77743135#Comment_77743135
Eta: @adirat I deleted my last line so we can all enjoy it without that knowledge!
EDD: March 24, 2018 - angel baby at 21 weeks
EDD: March 24, 2018 - angel baby at 21 weeks
@haylsbayls We'll keep the knowledge to ourselves and save others the hassle.
EDD: March 24, 2018 - angel baby at 21 weeks
[spoiler]https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12460755/am-i-pregnant [/spoiler]
EDD: March 24, 2018 - angel baby at 21 weeks
TTC since August 2018
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
And oooohhh butt baby. So good.
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree