Intro - New to this and IVF

EMZ1023

My name is Erin and we've been TTC for almost 3 years. We've been completely unsuccessful with every month bringing the same disappointing news.  We are trying IVF this cycle for the first time and today was our transfer day.  We transferred 2 blastocysts.  
I'm nervous that I'm getting my hopes up.  I'm almost scared to get too excited for the first blood test in 10 days.  Any advice for me to keep my hopes realistic? 

kangastein

How did your embryos look before transfer? 

2MomsHoping

@EMZ1023 its such a fine line to walk between being hopeful and protecting your heart.  I admit I have not found the balance as I swing from convinced my dreams are coming true to believing this whole fertility think in a money making sham.  Though I can't avoid my thoughts what does help me is trying to stay insanely busy.  Like list of projects from dusk to dawn busy.  Social engagements every night busy, and ordering organizers to give your kitchen pantry a makeover busy. 

Also (and this may not be a popular opinion) let yourself dream a little.  I have had very little joy in my fertility journey and the shimmers of hope and excitement in the 2WW are sometimes fleeting but a little break from the sadness.  And lets face it pretty much everyone on this board could use a break!

dadezbombz

@EMZ1023 .. welcome even though none of us wanted to actually ever be here! I understand exactly how you feel.  it is  best to just take care of your mind and body during the next week or2. my best advice is to have realistic expectations, that it might not work the 1st time,  everyone is different!!! you never know!!!! how did the embryo grading go, did they tell you? how many cells were in each blast ? how was your lining? i am on attempt #4. first 3 proved to be duds .  I remain totally optimistic .  I hope you can find some solace in the fact that your not in this alone! 

oxinfree

@EMZ1023 - it's totally natural to get your hopes up. It's just so hard. You really want to stay positive and optimistic (the mind is a powerful thing) but at the same time we are so inclined to protect our hearts and prepare for the worst. I can tell you no matter what I have "prepared" myself for in the past, hope was always in the background. So enjoy being pupo (pregnant until proven otherwise) if you can and find ways to distract yourself during the wait. Try to stay away from google, and DEFINITELY try to avoid symptom spotting.. being on meds messes with our bodies and minds. Easier said then done. Wishing you a quick wait, and excellent news at the end of it xx

EMZ1023

kangastein said:

How did your embryos look before transfer? 

1st was a grade 1 blastocyst and the 2nd was an early blastocyst grade 1 .  I'm going to google that. Hopefully that's ok

kangastein

@emz1023 those are great grades! I mean you can still fail with good embryos but you have a good chance too! How long until your beta? It's so hard to wait and not know but unfortunately that's all you can really do. The other girls gave great advice!

EMZ1023

I agree that everyone gave great advice ! I purposely over planned my day today and it helped :-)   it's such a hard time because we have had good numbers before without success but we have never had embryos before. I don't think I can cross my fingers any harder lol !