GTKY: Tell us your worst/best breakup story! I know everybody's got at least one juicy one... <img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/7n/nt8jiwkc91j8.gif" alt=""> Eta gif
R/R: Alright, I think all my hope for this cycle is gone now. It's CD 23, there has been no temperature spike. My OPKs are fading out. And my CM is moving into creamy, which it will stay for the rest of my cycle usually. I'm still waiting for the test results. I took it on Friday so I wasn't expecting it over the weekend. It really looks like I'll be moving on to an RE. And you know what? I'm not upset about it. Maybe the RE will actually talk to me like they want to try to get me pregnant, will explain what's going on, and maybe they'll put me on Letrozole, which I read is more responsive for women with PCOS that don't respond to Clomid.
CS/Q:
GTKY: I have only had 3 boyfriends in my life. One of those I married. The first boyfriend I was eleven. He tried to break up with me because he wanted to date someone else, so he accused me of cheating on him because someone in his class told him they saw me with another guy. I had moved to my mom's so we were 30 minutes away from each other. My cousin convinced him not to break up with me. But then he told me he was moving to Washington, and then he did and we never really broke up.
My next boyfriend was when I was 16 or 17. We made out all the time. I eventually broke up with him because another girl was literally putting herself between us to flirt with him. And when I told him about it he did nothing to stop her or make it clear that he was with me. So I told him, alright. It's clear you're not really serious about this. And it hurt me bad. And he started dating her almost immediately. And we were still friends. So it was baaaaad. He took her to prom and she hated him by that point and I got to laugh as I had a GREAT time with my date (who was just my friend.)
I dated him again later. I knew it wasn't a permanent thing. He ended up never making time for me, completely ignoring me. My husband filled in for events he was missing. So I broke up with him and then a few months later started dating my husband. The rest is history.
I hope you enjoy my novel.
Husband & I married May 26th, 2012
Me 28 Him 28
TTC #1 since January 1st 2016
Anovulatory with PCOS Clomid 50;100;150;200: No O TSH 3.75 Put on 50mg levothyroxine 1500 MG Metformin 7.5 MG Letrozole: No Follicles 9 MG Letrozole: 21mm Follicle no pregnancy 4 cycles at 9 MG Letrozole, No pregnancy
WAYDTGKU: Started temping again this morning and hopefully all the other stuff will follow...
R/R: Went baby clothes shopping yesterday for a gift and DH came with me so I wasn't able to buy myself a little something too. He was side-eyeing me the whole time. There was so many cute things and the store was having a huge sale! On the plus side, it is a 5 min drive from our house, so I might have to go back on my own. Also, I spent way too much time yesterday reading up on CD (Thanks @BusinessWife) I am totally hooked! lol DH totally thought I was going crazy when he caught what I was looking at. He was all like " You do know your not pregnant right?!" and I was all like " I gotta start building my stash now!!" hahaha
CS/Q: Well I caved and signed up for FF VIP again, so let the BSC begin.
GTKY: I don't really have any stories to add here, but I always like hearing others. Mine are all lame stuff that happened in high school.
WAYDTGKU: nothing now except temping. Once AF stops, checking CM and HIO
R/R: My temps are still jumping all over the place. I think that it's because I keep waking up at 3 and then my alarm to temp goes off at 5. I don't know why, maybe because I know I'm going to temp? Can't figure it out. I don't normally have sleep problems. At least it's not a huge deal because I'm still on AF.
CS/Q: Nope
GTKY: Well, I had one ex in college that cheated on me with a girl in a sorority (we went to a small school, the kind where everybody knows everybody's business) and then whenever she ran into me on campus she was super nasty to me, rubbing it in how she "took him" and she got her whole sorority to hate me. That one sucked, especially because I was 18 and naive and he was my first real love. but then Karma came around and they got engaged just a couple months after they hooked up, then they both cheated on each other and broke up. So. What? I'm not bitter on anything...
Me: 26 DH: 27 Married 6-15-13 DS born 4-9-15 Septate Uterus BFP 10/12/16--EDD 6/24/17
R/R: CD1 was expected but it still sucks. It was 2 days later than FF had predicted but I'm pretty sure it was a day early on my O and I have switched to a 14 LP as opposed to 12. Adjusting for that then it was right on time. Yay?
When I checked my potential FW, it fell during the exact time my mom, dad, sister, and her kids were going to be here. Now that I started a couple days later, we will actually have a chance at some decent timing without having to sneak it in with my parents in the next room.
CS/Q: nope.
GTKY: Tell us your worst/best breakup story! I know everybody's got at least one juicy one...
I wish my period would break up with me... I'll have to think on this one though.
Married 07.21.07 DS#1 01.23.09 DS#2 08.01.11 TTC#3 08.31.15 Laparoscopy/Hysteroscopy/HSG 05.16.17 Hysteroscopy 10.04.17 10.05.17 Laparoscopy/Hysteroscopy/HSG 01.10.19 Left tube removed dx: Endometriosis, Adenomyosis BC: February-October 2019 TTA: November-December 2019 NTNP: January 2020!
R/R: I'm cleaning all day today because we are moving in the morning, which is good because it is keeping my mind off TTC, for the most part....but here I am.
CS/Q: Does a drop in temperature prior to ovulation have any meaning?
GTKY: Tell us your worst/best breakup story! I know everybody's got at least one juicy one...
I actually don't have one. My husband was my first serious relationship. But I do have a worse date story.
We went to a movie and as he went to put his arm around me he smacked me in the head. About 20 minutes into the movie, (Cloverfield) he got motion sickness and left me there. Oh I also had to pay for my own ticket.
@linzrunz Ugh, so sorry to see you here, but hey! <img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/dr/woyyhlftnqlu.gif" alt=""> One down!!! @DoctorDonna!!! Five to go! Right, @felix08 @MelissaM090 ?! ;)
@PepperAT That is a drag that DH was cramping your style, but hey browsing = research, so it's all good! I have not bought any clothes except for wool diaper covers/longies that work as bottoms/pants, so that's my one saving grace. I spent way too much time on my spreadsheet yesterday though, but I managed not to actually buy anything, so #winning! That is cool though if it seems like your DH will be supportive of CD ...when the time comes....
WAYDTGKU: Temping, CM, plan to HIO ED starting CD 12 until I get CHs.
R/R: Still have 3 more days until we start to HIO. The earliest I've ever seen any noticeable CM is CD 14, so that's still a ways away. My TTC life is boring right now.
CS/Q: None today.
GTKY: Tell us your worst/best breakup story! I know everybody's got at least one juicy one...
I never really had many serious boyfriends. After the breakup with my 1st boyfriend (almost 3 years of dating), my little heart turned icy. I didn't want another BF. I spent the next 2 years of my life just having fun and not getting serious with guys. At the end of that 2 year timeframe I started to get to know someone that began as just a hook up. But we became close and really enjoyed each other's company. We were exclusive to each other by choice, but we're never official. I pushed the point of becoming more official and he just didn't want too. He told me many times that he didn't want kids and we both knew we didn't agree on that MAJOR point. He knew that I was ready to move forward in a relationship and we broke up because he wasn't going to be "the one." I don't talk to him anymore out of respect for DH. @BusinessWife I try to FB stalk him but he has his profile on private, so I don't see much of anything. I still have a huge amount of respect for him and look back on our "relationship" fondly. He helped me thaw my icy heart and made me realize what I really wanted in a relationship. Six months later, DH and I started dating.
WAYDTGKU: Temping, Checking CM, Vitex, Sex and Waiting for a Dr. appt.
R/R: AC is still out. The company we called is about to lose a customer because their website says 24/7 service, we called at 3:00 yesterday (and 5, and 7) and left a message and haven't heard back at all. It got down to 72 last night so with fans and such it wasn't too terrible, but tomorrow is supposed to be a high of 93 so I really want it fixed by then. This is really interfering with all my BD plans too because it is way too warm in our house to even consider having sex.
CS/Q: My temp went back down from my unusually high temp yesterday thankfully. Now that I know our AC is out I wonder if that had anything to do with it being so high yesterday.
GTKY: Tell us your worst/best breakup story! I know everybody's got at least one juicy one. DH was my only boyfriend. We broke up briefly in college but got back together and that was way more painful than juicy so not worth sharing.
As a heartbreak story: When I was in 7th and 8th grade I had a huge crush on a guy in high school. He was two year ahead of me in school. I went to a private school and we were all in the same building. We ran track together and worked in the library at school together and I was pretty certain he liked me too. In 8th grade he asked me to our school's Winter formal. This was only for high schoolers so it was a big deal to go in Jr. High. A couple weeks later he started dating another girl in his class. I called him and told him he should go to the formal with her and he told me his friends had pressured him into asking this other girl out but he really wanted to go with me. I was very young and stupid, so I went. Once we got there he ignored me the whole time and dropped me off at my house early to go to an after party at his own house with his girlfriend.
Me: 29, DH: 32
Married: July 22, 2008 Fur babies: Phoenix and Yeti (both cats).
TTC#1 since: May 2015 September 2016- Infertility Testing dx: Low Progesterone, Vitamin D Deficiency, Borderline PCOS Treatment: October 2016-January 2017- Metformin, Clomid/Letrozole, hcg trigger, progesterone IUI- 2/17/2017 BFP 3/2/2017!
R/R: Excited for af to be done today or tomorrow so we can get this party started. *wink wink
CS/Q: None today.
GTKY: Tell us your worst/best breakup story! I know everybody's got at least one juicy one... I don't really have anything juicy or exciting. I dated random guys on and off in college. Nothing serious. The guy I dated before my husband cheated on me the blamed it on me saying I pushed him to do it? He was such a manipulative person with the biggest ego ever. Then when I found out, he actually had the audacity to say, ''Good luck finding someone better then me.'' My response was........
And the woman he cheated on me with then later cheated on him. Yeah, karma is a b*tch dude. Then I met my dh about a year later and the rest was history.
@linzrunz Sorry you're here, but... I love the idea of AF breaking up with me! I giggled
Such great stories today! I agree with @swanbrooner , you guys are killing it!
Cycle/Month: 2/2
CD: 17
WAYDTGKU: Temping,
CoQ10, green tea, HIO
R/R: DH's sister came to visit us for the weekend and we spent yesterday at the beach. Why do we not go the beach more? It's only a half hour away.
CS/Q: For those of you who get ovulation pain, how long does it last?
I had it last cycle for two days, and this morning I thought it might have started again but I'm not sure. (I haven't had any CM whatsoever since a small amount CD12 so I'm really interested in looking for other potential signs to help me contextualize my weird temps this month.)
GTKY: I dated this guy off and on junior and senior year of high school. We really liked each other but we were both really headstrong about stupid topics and would break up and get back together at least every couple months. We broke up a little before junior year prom because we had a big argument about our different opinions on Dostoyevsky's Crime and Punishment. I have to laugh now at how insufferable and dramatic we were at 17. I wonder what ever happened to him...
GTKY: Tell us your worst/best breakup story! I know everybody's got at least one juicy one... My first boyfriend broke up with me by changing his FB status (we were 22 so he should have known better). When I finally got in touch with him to ask what the heck was going on he was a huge jerk and told me he met another girl that was better than me in every way and would do things that I wouldn't. About 6 months later he called me up and asked if I'd be interested in a threesome with him and the girl he left me for. I said no.
<b>CD</b>: 11 </div><div> </div><div><b>WAYDTGKU</b>: <span>Almost done with my 11-day course of antibiotics. HIO, Temping, Charting on paper and with FF, CM with Creighton method, CBAdv OPK's, PNV's, DHA, 200mg B6, 2000 iu Vitamin D, Selenium, Zinc, Co-Q10, Fertilitea (2x) CD1-16, 4th cycle of FertileCM, 3rd cycle of Ovaboost, Mucinex for CD6-16, Preseed and HIO during FW, third cycle of 100mg oral Progesterone 3-12DPO …and praying. Added 500mg Vitamin C to DH's vitamin regime, since I already had it on hand. </span></div><div> </div><div><b>R/R</b>: Third day of blinkie-smiley and 3 BD's in, we may take a night off just so we don't tire ourselves out before Peak. Right now my instructor only wants us to BD PM so that doesn't interfere with my CM observations for the rest of the day, but DH often prefers to HIO in the morning, and I also heard something like every 36 hours is ideal. So Hopefully when I see her tomorrow she will clear us for AM BD as well. ;) I made the mistake last night of mentioning DH's hernia scars and asking him again how old he was when he had those or what happened to cause it, so now he is (needlessly) paranoid that that's the reason we're not PG yet. :( Took a while to let him get in the mood after that. And I brought it up in the first place because...??? <img src="https://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m6w7k24Gqx1r4ayc1.gif" alt="">
</div><div><b>CS/Q</b>: None today.</div><div> </div><b>GTKY</b>: So the one with the ex I mentioned on FFFC was not pretty. In fact, there were aspects of it that make it like, really not nice to talk about. BUT! He was my big college love, and I will say that he was/is a really good and decent guy, just clearly not completely right for each other. And there were lots of times as I was getting to know DH that I saw things in him that I remember loving about my college ex before him, so that is kind of nice to think I ended up with the "new and improved" version of him in some ways - and in the Most Important way, because DH and I are actually totally crazy about one another <3 but I digress.
One yucky one that was actually kind of fun and fierce was this jerk I had been dating less seriously about a year or two before I met DH. We were on and off b/c it Wasn't really that serious, and I finally broke it off at one point because I found out he was totally with someone else and didn't tell me. Uhm, yeah. So whatever. It was a this really tough transition part of my life and I had just gotten home from a visit with my folks. I guess we knew my dad didn't have much time left. The guy wanted me to stay at his place that night, even though I had literally just gotten in from the airport, and I'm like, No, I'm pretty sure I want to sleep in my own bed tonight and sleep in a bit before I have to get up and go back to work on Monday. It was very important to him that I help him clean HIS APARTMENT before we left to my place. Okay. Whatever. We FINALLY get to my place and whatever argument that happened at like three in the morning - I think he had woken up hungry and was crunching all these chips or something IN MY EAR, IN THE BED and woke me up!!! - so I was just done and I'm like you need to leave, NOW! You're not leaving fast enough, GO! So he got out.
Then he texts me from the car outside. He's all, "can we be adults about this and just Talk? If you don't text me back in the next five minutes I'm leaving forever and that's it we're totally through." And I was lying there in my bed, thinking to myself, hmm. Should we be talking this over? Do I really want to text him? <img title="Image: https://cdn3.teen.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/09/britney-spears-x-factor-funny-confused.gif" src="https://cdn3.teen.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/09/britney-spears-x-factor-funny-confused.gif" alt=""> I did a body-check. I don't know what else to call it, but like, stopping to observe the sensations in my body and what I am feeling in my heart, and I was like, Ah! This! This is RELIEF. I am RELIEVED that you are gone and I am not going to trade this feeling I have right now for Anything.
So I just, didn't reply. I'm assuming he drove off, I drifted peacefully off to sleep and that was that! Holy cow, what a victory that was for me, and a huge turning point in me not taking crap from guys like that Ever Again! <img title="Image: https://25.media.tumblr.com/a5d049f12c674a10292b1115962be713/tumblr_mj1odr6oFw1qdcxoeo1_500.gif" src="https://25.media.tumblr.com/a5d049f12c674a10292b1115962be713/tumblr_mj1odr6oFw1qdcxoeo1_500.gif" alt="">
R/R: It's been so humid lately, I've been stuck in the house and I'm starting to get cabin fever! Bleh!
CS/Q: I did OPKs on Friday. First one was a bit short of positive, but by late afternoon it was very positive! I did another that night fairly late and it was already fading out and very negative by Sat morning. So that's helpful to know, BUT my temps are all over the place and probably not very accurate (have not been able to temp at consistent times), so I just feel like I'm missing a piece of the puzzle, which is frustrating. And then DH works this whole weekend which doesn't help either.
GTKY: Tell us your worst/best breakup story! I know everybody's got at least one juicy one... Hmm, I think I'm pretty boring in this respect. lol Just your usual drama-filled HS crap which generally consisted of me just fading out when I lost interest. So rude and immature, I know.
@adirat Regarding ovulation pain, I think I feel it some cycles and not others. When I do, it seems pretty short though. Like a focused short-lived twinge-y kind of pain, if that makes sense. Of course, I don't even know for sure that's what it is, but sometimes the timing coincides, so I'm suspicious of it.
R/R: So not looking forward to the week ahead. I have to work some today but we're going to see Secret Life of Pets tonight finally!!
CS/Q: nope.
GTKY: If I had three hours... I'll give you the short of it. I dated the same guy all through law school. He was a year behind me in school so when I moved out of my apartment he took it over including all my stuff. We talked about getting married all the time and I thought that's where we were headed. One night I stayed over the apartment. He had basketball and I had to work so I used his computer. He had always been weirdly private about his Facebook and email. Something just told me to look. Basically that night and over the next few days I discovered that he had been cheating on me all three years with many many women. I didn't know all the details of course. I got bits and pieces from gchat conversations and fb messages. I didn't confront him right away because honestly I didn't know what to do and was sort of in denial at first. On NYE we went to NY where my sister lived and sometime after midnight he confronted me about dancing too promiscuously on the dance floor (with my sister and our girlfriends) and I lost it. I whispered in his ear that I knew about x,y,z and I could see the vein in his neck throbbing. I knew it was all true at that point and we broke up on the spot. He took a train home by himself and went into my parents house via garage code and took the iPad I gave him for xmas. The next day my brother, sister and I went to the apartment and filled two pick up trucks with all my stuff. The bed, tv, dishes furniture etc. My brother broke a chair and that's what he was left with - a three legged chair. He admitted to hooking up with my bff from law school, getting oral from a girl he worked with and cheating with multiple other people. He claimed he was a sex addict and an alcoholic and went to counseling. He begged for me back. I found out he also hid he was smoking behind my back too. Crazy huh? He is married now and has his own law practice and a baby. I hope he changed for their sake. Trust your instincts ladies. That's all I have to say about that.
@aboxofchocolates The pre-O dip doesn't always appear in BBT charts, but when it does, it's just a nice heads-up that O may be on its way, because still - you can really only confirm in hindsight. I have had that pre-O dip fake-out too, with a slow rise, so it doesn't necessarily mean O will be the next day, but other than that, it doesn't have any particular significance. Not entirely sure the specific hormonal mechanism that may be causing it, but there is a spike of LH and FSH just prior to O, so maybe that's what does it? <img title="Image: https://media.giphy.com/media/l0O9x9xAq6fvottFC/giphy.gif" src="https://media.giphy.com/media/l0O9x9xAq6fvottFC/giphy.gif" alt="">
@adirat I am the same as @alysapuggles I'm never really sure if what I'm feeling is really O-pain, but sometimes the timing of those little stabby twinges make me suspicious if that's what's really going on...
@MandyBeeSLP I'm not sure. I have heard anecdotally that extreme differences in ambient room temp can have an impact on temps, but mostly in the pre-O phase, for myself personally, I tend to see a big zig-zag anyway, even when the room temp is totally consistent. Case in point this cycle: <img title="Image: https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/xu/myfvhbu8qohz.jpg" alt="" src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/xu/myfvhbu8qohz.jpg"> And then my temps will often smooth and mellow out as they rise post-O. Here's a classic example from two cycles ago: <img title="Image: https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/73/wvgucd21bs52.jpg" alt="" src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/73/wvgucd21bs52.jpg"> But everybody's trends are different, and literally no two cycles are alike, so BOTTOMLINE, - and this totally applies too for the above question from @aboxofchocolates - Try not to worry too much about any one individual temp being high or low, it's all about stepping back and seeing the big picture... ;)
I finally thought of a good one. It's not exactly a break up story but... It's funny. Anyway..
Freshman year of college I went up to a party in a dorm a couple floors above mine. There was this cute guy. A bottle of Hot Damn was consumed and we were totally hitting it off (or so I thought). He asked for my number before I left and promised to text me the next day. And he did! We made plans for lunch that day and I was super excited. We met at the restaurant, sat down, and the waiter came over to take our drink order. After the waiter leaves, my "date" decides this is a good time to tell me he's gay. And the waiter is his boyfriend.
Um, what?? He was just as clueless as I was because he had no idea I had been flirting with him. We ended up becoming really good friends and he would call me to help him iron his shirts and tie his ties before dates.
Married 07.21.07 DS#1 01.23.09 DS#2 08.01.11 TTC#3 08.31.15 Laparoscopy/Hysteroscopy/HSG 05.16.17 Hysteroscopy 10.04.17 10.05.17 Laparoscopy/Hysteroscopy/HSG 01.10.19 Left tube removed dx: Endometriosis, Adenomyosis BC: February-October 2019 TTA: November-December 2019 NTNP: January 2020!
Lurking from TWW! (It feels so good to finally say that).
@pepperat I started researching CDing like a month ah probably. I have seriously fallen down the rabbit hole. I've watched so many CD videos in the last two days. It's out of control. I actually ordered one yesterday from Amazon, you know just to see what it looks like I finally told my DH yesterday that I think I want to CD and he actually took it really well. I was expecting some pushback about it but he seems game.
GTKY: Tell us your worst/best breakup story! I know everybody's got at least one juicy one...
At one point in college, I had three guys trying to win me over at the same time. One was my ex-boyfriend from high school, the other was a "super hot" guy I dated who dumped me (I suspect because I had put on weight) and a third guy that was a "new friend" that kept asking me out on dates. The super hot guy was leaving love letters and flowers at my dorm asking to get back together (at this point I had lost a lot of weight). My high school boyfriend was a basket case that claimed I was ruining his life and emotionally scarring him because we had a "on-again-off-again" relationship. The third guy was a "new friend" that I met that kept asking me out and I kept saying "no." In the end, I told my high school ex to get lost and the "super hot" guy I wasn't interested because he already dumped me once and I wasn't going to play that game. I ended up dating the "new friend" and the rest was history. The "new friend" ended up being DH.
@alysapuggles and @BusinessWife Thanks to you both. Really helpful. I did some additional research today and it seems that longer, more painful ovulation pain like I think I've been having may be a symptom of endometriosis, which I have. Sigh. Worried this means there are endo deposits on my ovaries or fallopian tubes.
In good news, though, I had some EWCM this afternoon, so back to HIO!
R/R: lower temp today so I'm not sure what FF will do, almost positive yesterday OPK but Friday was too hard to tell because I have a UTI and was peeing all the time!
CS/Q: just waiting for my temps to confirm
GTKY: Tell us your worst/best breakup story! I know everybody's got at least one juicy one... At work so I don't have time to do details. Buy I generally was the heartbreaker!
But really, I currently CD and absolutely love it!
Cycle/Month: 1/1
CD: 11
WAYDTGKU: pnv, hio, checking cm
CS/Question: None today
GTKY: My high school bf and I ended up going to the same college. He didn't have a car but I did so we carpooled to school. Well, I had to be at school a month early for a class so we drove my car up there and he took it back home so he could move all of our stuff when the semester actually started a month later. I knew I didn't want to be with him but I also didn't want to move all my crap by myself. So I was an ass and waited to break up with him after all of my things were in my dorm and I had my car keys back.
@BusinessWife - I get a very mountain-ous chart a lot too.
@aliciagoose - what is CDing that you're reading about? I'm always up for some good research...
Cycle/Month: 2/4
CD: 7
WAYDTGKU: BBT, CM, OPK, HIO
R/R: Rave- for the first time in....well, ever since starting to take BBT before we were officially TTC my temps have been consistent with each other! They've been within 0.1 since the start of the month. This is something ridiculous to be excited about, but I am. Haha. Usually it's all over the board. I live in a climate where it's pretty normal to not have A/C, so we just sleep with the windows open, so I think that was throwing it off for the last 2 months and lately the temps have been PERFECT sleeping weather. It's the little things in life, right?
CS/Q: none.
GTKY: Tell us your worst/best breakup story!: I have two. In high school, I went to prom with a guy who had dated one of my friends...dumb me. The building our prom was in had about 8 stories, and the first one was for dancing, second was for sitting and having hors d'ouevres and then above that was kinda just empty. So one of my friends we ran into made a joke about "all the dark corners of the upper levels". I went to call our groups limo towards the end of the night to get picked up, and went up to the 4th floor so it was quiet. When we were about to get on the elevator he goes "So, want to make use of these dark corners?". I kinda got on the elevator and didn't respond. By the time we got back to my house for our "after party" I made one of my friends go tell him to leave.
Second one is shorter - I dated a guy in college, who lived 30 min from my family in the summer. I didn't hear from him for 3 months. When I asked him about it back at school, he told me he lost his cell phone. LAME! No. You didn't lose your cell phone for 3 months. Also you had facebook and email and knew where I lived. Clearly, no loss there.
@BusinessWife This adorable EcoAble charcoal bamboo AIO!
@KhRun17 Cloth diapering! It's a little cart before horse but I'm seriously obsessed. I've read an insane amount of articles and watched a ton of videos.
@AliciaGoose Squeeeeee!!!! I love it, and I love the colours! I don't think I've really looked at that one yet... I was mostly just doing nb AIOs to help out when they are tiny, but sticking with prefolds and covers for the bulk of my OS stash. :p
I peeked in at 10am thinking it would be another slow Sunday but it was BUMPIN in here, so I had to wait til after my workout to come back lol
@linzrunz sorry for CD1 but yay that upcoming FW might be well-timed? @adirat I keep trying to figure out if I have O pain but I have GI issues and chronic pain so it's really flipping hard to tell. Like I've been having what feels like they could be O pain since CD9 and that just can't be right lol (and I just read your update and I've been checked for endo in the past...I'm sorry this might be the answer for you, tho ) @AliciaGoose YAY! In the nicest way possible...I'm SO GLAD YOU'RE GONE!! lol
Cycle/Month: 2/2 TTCAL (loss was feb 25, this is 4th cycle temping but might have had bad thermometer for 2, 2nd cycle TTCAL...not that anyone cares haha)
CD:11
WAYDTGKU: BBT, PNV, DHA, Maca, RRLT, green tea, other bevs, tracking CM/CP, fertility meditation when I remember/have time alone, HIO AMAP, trying OPKs but having a hard time?
R/R: can't really complain right now; enjoying our "staycation"
CS/Q: I think I asked too late yesterday so I'll try again: Just struggling with diluting/holding my pee to take OPK and wondering how you ladies do it (how long do you hold it for or not drink)? What's the best time (they're dollar store ones until I order Wondfos and say not to use FMU). Literally have considered leaving cups of pee in the bathroom *justincase* I can get a more diluted batch later...sigh, I'm sure I'm overthinking this.... THANKS in advance!
GTKY: Tell us your worst/best breakup story! I know everybody's got at least one juicy one... Okay, this is a good one because it sort of involves me being a badass instead of just getting screwed over by douchebags like most of the stories lol I was dating this guy (bouncer) from a bar I worked at. I wasn't interested at first but he wore me down. Then, I'm pretty sure we were all but broken up, but he somehow managed to break his leg breaking up a bar fight and all the feels came back and I went to the hospital with him and then he had complications after they put pins in it (compartment syndrome) and had to have a skin graft and all that. I went full Florence Nightingale and was taking care of him best I could. He didn't know what he was going to do because he wasn't going to be able to work and couldn't get any compensation because he got paid under the table. I stupidly told him he could move in with me until he healed up. He quickly ended up being THE WORST. He was mean to my dog, grumpy/a jerk to me, I was paying for everything, including cigarettes which if I remember correctly he smoked in the house (barf) (oh and when I bought cigs for him when he was still at the hospital and the next day he had like none, he told me that he'd sold them for cash and I'm like wtf?) and THEN I found out that he was completely lying about his previous living situation and was NOT paying any rent and was basically couch surfing and there was no reason for him to have moved in AND that his buddies had been giving him money the whole time and there were other weird lies coming out, too. I am typically nice to a fault and get taken advantage of a LOT and didn't know what to do because he was basically in a wheelchair and what kind of a person would I be to kick him out? But when I found out the part about him lying and that he absolutely had somewhere to go, I finally came home one day and told him I couldn't do it anymore. My heart was beating out of my chest and he got angry, but I stood my ground and started putting his stuff in garbage bags. I told him I'd call him a cab or he could wait for a buddy to pick him up, but he insisted on leaving in his wheelchair, with his bags of crap. And as pp mentioned, that sense of overwhelming RELIEF let me know I'd done the right thing and it was one of my most satisfying breakups haha Funniest part was, his friends teased me a bit about being the girl who kicked out a dude in a wheelchair but they were ALLLL on my side, because they knew what he was like
@BusinessWife I haven't decided what I want to do yet. I think DH would prefer if we stuck to AIOs or pockets. But I am afraid to pull the trigger on anything in particular in case I don't actually like it down the line if / when I get my take home rainbow. I just couldn't resist getting this one because I thought it was the perfect unisex pattern! And because I just wanted it. I have a feeling now that I got one I won't be able to stop though. I haven't even started to look into newborn size AIOs yet. There aren't as many options for those!
@rainbowturtles Thanks. My endo is not surgically verified, which is technically the only way to get an "official" diagnosis, but my gynecologist now (as well as the one I saw before her when I lived in another state) said I almost certainly have it since I had all the symptoms and responded to the treatment of constant BCP without placebo week. She warned me I should expect to have trouble TTC, which is why when DH and I were ready, I went kind of crazy with temping and tracking from cycle one. My first two periods off of BCP were not terrible, so I was getting hopeful until I started thinking about this o pain situation.
Sorry to hear endo is something you've been checked for. I find it so frustrating that it's often too small to find on an ultrasound so there's no reliable way to know without laparoscopy, which obviously isn't something I want to jump to!
Regarding OPKs, I don't think I've ever been able to do more than a three-hour hold. I have to pee like a zillion times a day (because I am always thirsty and drink a LOT of water) so even with reducing intake for OPKs, that's all I can manage!
@AliciaGoose I went mostly with the Sweetpea for nb AIOs (I have 20, was going to add four more), but I was thinking of also getting half a dozen each of the imagine bamboo snap ones, which do have the umbilical snap (even though the sweetpeas "should" fit underneath), and half a dozen totsbots minis since a mom I know who uses a bit of EVERYTHING says the Totsbots are hands down her favourite AIOs. @PensiveCrayon went with the Thirsties nb aios, and I have heard lots of good things about blueberry simplex, too!
For the most part though, I went with prefolds and covers, so the nb aios I got just as a bonus for ease of use in early days, and what with extra caregivers who will likely be around at that time. ;)
@adirat I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling It's annoying that laparoscopy is the only true indicator, I know. I had a laparoscopic surgery on my intestines and wish they would have checked then lol If they'd seen anything I'm sure they'd have let me know, but if they're not looking for it, you know? I don't think it is endo anymore, based on my symptoms, my symptoms are just so tricky sometimes that they've checked for many things. I have connective tissue disorder (which causes the pain, among other things it causes) and celiac disease, which is autoimmune and tho it is controlled by diet, it is soooo easy to get accidentally contaminated so that's a concern, too. So I am doing the exact same thing....all the tracking and temping and anything I can think that might help and trying to remain positive and believe everything is working properly. I've had two mc's overall, and I feel like I could explain both away for different reasons but who knows. I just keep hoping...for all of us!
And oh crap, 3 hours? I can barely make it to 1hr when it comes to pee holding lol (typically go at least every 30min )
@BusinessWife Yes! Thank you. Now I know what to research for the newborn AIOs. At this point I can't imagine myself doing anything other than AIOs or pockets, so I am going to start there, and then if / when future LO is here I'm going to try other things and see if there's anything I like!
@AliciaGoose Ahh!! Too cute! I haven't got up the courage to actually order one yet, but I have a couple sitting in my cart. Surprisingly DH was on board with it too and said he had thought out it before but he thought I was crazy for thinking of actually buying one.
@AliciaGoose For me, I felt like having prefolds as the basis of my stash just made sense. Like these are the kind of diapers our mothers and grandmothers might have used - only with much better absorbancy fabrics than I'm thinking they ever got to enjoy!
So I splurged on really high quality, highly absorbent prefolds (geffen, but people also love osocozy and green mountain) because I feel like it's more versatile. Hypothetically, prefolds and covers ought to be a cheaper alternative to pockets/AIOs (unless you do like me and totally over-buy on covers. People generally are going for say 24-36 prefolds per size and maybe 6-8 covers. I am on track for more like 36/24 ratio for newborns (Plus AIOs) - to be fair, I started with just the 12 thirsties snap covers, but then I accidentally ordered the sweetpea velcro covers and decided to keep them (and build up to 12 because round numbers), in case for whatever reason at whatever stage, one were to fit better than the other. - and 24 small+24 med prefolds with 24-32 covers lol I think I will try to stop there tho... maybe 40. MAX. As long as they all fit in the drawer IDC because I figure seasonally I may go more for certain colours, or say I want to leave a stash at grandmas, some may live in the diaper bag, whatever.) I am admittedly ridiculous.
BUT! At the end of the day, if one type of cover works better on one baby, I can put the rest away for baby No.2, who may be built differently enough that the other type fits better. Or say I feel like I just LOVE one certain kind of cover I happen to try and I want to just sell the rest on ebay and replenish with just my ultimate faves. Or say I were the type of mom who wanted to be really girlie or really boyish, you could have your 6-8 girl covers, and then pick up 6-8 boy covers when LO No. 2 rolls in the door, and you still are using all the same insides of the diapers. You can mix up the look while just keeping all your same tried and true diapers "in the family" so to speak. AND, as far as fit and leaks, there are so many ways you can fold a prefold for various stages of their growth, that I think that's cool. With decent covers you should really never have a problem with leaks because if one fold isn't working perfectly, you can try a different one. Or say if I like the angel-wing fold and dad just wants to trifold, cool! Putting a trifold into a flip or a thirsties is so super easy.
Some people love pockets, while others feel the time to stuff them is a pain and/or handling them to pull out the insert gets messy etc. What do you think, @JackieMarie1989 What kind of pockets do you use? What have you tried that you did or did not like as much and why? For me I guess I am old-fashioned and I just felt like pockets were too high-tech! lol
Re: WTO Sunday
CD: 23
WAYDTGKU: Clomid and all the crazy things
R/R: Alright, I think all my hope for this cycle is gone now. It's CD 23, there has been no temperature spike. My OPKs are fading out. And my CM is moving into creamy, which it will stay for the rest of my cycle usually. I'm still waiting for the test results. I took it on Friday so I wasn't expecting it over the weekend. It really looks like I'll be moving on to an RE. And you know what? I'm not upset about it. Maybe the RE will actually talk to me like they want to try to get me pregnant, will explain what's going on, and maybe they'll put me on Letrozole, which I read is more responsive for women with PCOS that don't respond to Clomid.
CS/Q:
GTKY: I have only had 3 boyfriends in my life. One of those I married. The first boyfriend I was eleven. He tried to break up with me because he wanted to date someone else, so he accused me of cheating on him because someone in his class told him they saw me with another guy. I had moved to my mom's so we were 30 minutes away from each other. My cousin convinced him not to break up with me. But then he told me he was moving to Washington, and then he did and we never really broke up.
My next boyfriend was when I was 16 or 17. We made out all the time. I eventually broke up with him because another girl was literally putting herself between us to flirt with him. And when I told him about it he did nothing to stop her or make it clear that he was with me. So I told him, alright. It's clear you're not really serious about this. And it hurt me bad. And he started dating her almost immediately. And we were still friends. So it was baaaaad.
He took her to prom and she hated him by that point and I got to laugh as I had a GREAT time with my date (who was just my friend.)
I dated him again later. I knew it wasn't a permanent thing. He ended up never making time for me, completely ignoring me. My husband filled in for events he was missing. So I broke up with him and then a few months later started dating my husband. The rest is history.
I hope you enjoy my novel.
Clomid 50;100;150;200: No O
TSH 3.75 Put on 50mg levothyroxine
1500 MG Metformin
7.5 MG Letrozole: No Follicles
9 MG Letrozole: 21mm Follicle no pregnancy
4 cycles at 9 MG Letrozole, No pregnancy
CD:7
WAYDTGKU: Started temping again this morning and hopefully all the other stuff will follow...
R/R: Went baby clothes shopping yesterday for a gift and DH came with me so I wasn't able to buy myself a little something too. He was side-eyeing me the whole time. There was so many cute things and the store was having a huge sale! On the plus side, it is a 5 min drive from our house, so I might have to go back on my own.
Also, I spent way too much time yesterday reading up on CD (Thanks @BusinessWife) I am totally hooked! lol DH totally thought I was going crazy when he caught what I was looking at. He was all like " You do know your not pregnant right?!" and I was all like " I gotta start building my stash now!!" hahaha
CS/Q: Well I caved and signed up for FF VIP again, so let the BSC begin.
GTKY: I don't really have any stories to add here, but I always like hearing others. Mine are all lame stuff that happened in high school.
10/2/10
Me:29 H: 31
TTC#1: Aug 2015
https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5e3072
CD: 3
WAYDTGKU: nothing now except temping. Once AF stops, checking CM and HIO
R/R: My temps are still jumping all over the place. I think that it's because I keep waking up at 3 and then my alarm to temp goes off at 5. I don't know why, maybe because I know I'm going to temp? Can't figure it out. I don't normally have sleep problems. At least it's not a huge deal because I'm still on AF.
CS/Q: Nope
GTKY: Well, I had one ex in college that cheated on me with a girl in a sorority (we went to a small school, the kind where everybody knows everybody's business) and then whenever she ran into me on campus she was super nasty to me, rubbing it in how she "took him" and she got her whole sorority to hate me. That one sucked, especially because I was 18 and naive and he was my first real love. but then Karma came around and they got engaged just a couple months after they hooked up, then they both cheated on each other and broke up. So.
What? I'm not bitter on anything...
Married 6-15-13
DS born 4-9-15
Septate Uterus
BFP 10/12/16--EDD 6/24/17
CD: 1
WAYDTGKU: not enough apparently
R/R: CD1 was expected but it still sucks. It was 2 days later than FF had predicted but I'm pretty sure it was a day early on my O and I have switched to a 14 LP as opposed to 12. Adjusting for that then it was right on time. Yay?
When I checked my potential FW, it fell during the exact time my mom, dad, sister, and her kids were going to be here. Now that I started a couple days later, we will actually have a chance at some decent timing without having to sneak it in with my parents in the next room.
CS/Q: nope.
GTKY: Tell us your worst/best breakup story! I know everybody's got at least one juicy one...
I wish my period would break up with me... I'll have to think on this one though.
Married 07.21.07
DS#1 01.23.09
DS#2 08.01.11
TTC#3 08.31.15
Laparoscopy/Hysteroscopy/HSG 05.16.17
Hysteroscopy 10.04.17 10.05.17
Laparoscopy/Hysteroscopy/HSG 01.10.19
Left tube removed
dx: Endometriosis, Adenomyosis
BC: February-October 2019
TTA: November-December 2019
NTNP: January 2020!
CD: 14
WAYDTGKU: PNV, BBT, OPK, CM, CP, EOD
R/R: I'm cleaning all day today because we are moving in the morning, which is good because it is keeping my mind off TTC, for the most part....but here I am.
CS/Q: Does a drop in temperature prior to ovulation have any meaning?
GTKY: Tell us your worst/best breakup story! I know everybody's got at least one juicy one...
I actually don't have one. My husband was my first serious relationship. But I do have a worse date story.
We went to a movie and as he went to put his arm around me he smacked me in the head. About 20 minutes into the movie, (Cloverfield) he got motion sickness and left me there. Oh I also had to pay for my own ticket.
Edited for redundancy that my English teacher self couldn't stand to read back.
Enjoy a few cold Mike's today, if you can! Heck, I will even have one for you.
10/2/10
Me:29 H: 31
TTC#1: Aug 2015
https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5e3072
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One down!!! @DoctorDonna!!! Five to go! Right, @felix08 @MelissaM090 ?! ;)
@PepperAT That is a drag that DH was cramping your style, but hey browsing = research, so it's all good! I have not bought any clothes except for wool diaper covers/longies that work as bottoms/pants, so that's my one saving grace. I spent way too much time on my spreadsheet yesterday though, but I managed not to actually buy anything, so #winning! That is cool though if it seems like your DH will be supportive of CD ...when the time comes....
I put my Mike's in a wine glass because I'm classy. Or something.
Married 07.21.07
DS#1 01.23.09
DS#2 08.01.11
TTC#3 08.31.15
Laparoscopy/Hysteroscopy/HSG 05.16.17
Hysteroscopy 10.04.17 10.05.17
Laparoscopy/Hysteroscopy/HSG 01.10.19
Left tube removed
dx: Endometriosis, Adenomyosis
BC: February-October 2019
TTA: November-December 2019
NTNP: January 2020!
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
CD: 10
WAYDTGKU: Temping, Checking CM, Vitex, Sex and Waiting for a Dr. appt.
R/R: AC is still out. The company we called is about to lose a customer because their website says 24/7 service, we called at 3:00 yesterday (and 5, and 7) and left a message and haven't heard back at all. It got down to 72 last night so with fans and such it wasn't too terrible, but tomorrow is supposed to be a high of 93 so I really want it fixed by then. This is really interfering with all my BD plans too because it is way too warm in our house to even consider having sex.
CS/Q: My temp went back down from my unusually high temp yesterday thankfully. Now that I know our AC is out I wonder if that had anything to do with it being so high yesterday.
GTKY: Tell us your worst/best breakup story! I know everybody's got at least one juicy one.
DH was my only boyfriend. We broke up briefly in college but got back together and that was way more painful than juicy so not worth sharing.
As a heartbreak story: When I was in 7th and 8th grade I had a huge crush on a guy in high school. He was two year ahead of me in school. I went to a private school and we were all in the same building. We ran track together and worked in the library at school together and I was pretty certain he liked me too. In 8th grade he asked me to our school's Winter formal. This was only for high schoolers so it was a big deal to go in Jr. High. A couple weeks later he started dating another girl in his class. I called him and told him he should go to the formal with her and he told me his friends had pressured him into asking this other girl out but he really wanted to go with me. I was very young and stupid, so I went. Once we got there he ignored me the whole time and dropped me off at my house early to go to an after party at his own house with his girlfriend.
Fur babies: Phoenix and Yeti (both cats).
September 2016- Infertility Testing
dx: Low Progesterone, Vitamin D Deficiency, Borderline PCOS
Treatment:
October 2016-January 2017- Metformin, Clomid/Letrozole, hcg trigger, progesterone
IUI- 2/17/2017 BFP 3/2/2017!
CD: 6
WAYDTGKU: Yoga, opks, preseed
R/R: Excited for af to be done today or tomorrow so we can get this party started. *wink wink
CS/Q: None today.
GTKY: Tell us your worst/best breakup story! I know everybody's got at least one juicy one...
I don't really have anything juicy or exciting. I dated random guys on and off in college. Nothing serious. The guy I dated before my husband cheated on me the blamed it on me saying I pushed him to do it? He was such a manipulative person with the biggest ego ever. Then when I found out, he actually had the audacity to say, ''Good luck finding someone better then me.'' My response was........
And the woman he cheated on me with then later cheated on him. Yeah, karma is a b*tch dude. Then I met my dh about a year later and the rest was history.
Such great stories today! I agree with @swanbrooner , you guys are killing it!
Cycle/Month: 2/2
CD: 17
WAYDTGKU: Temping, CoQ10, green tea, HIO
R/R: DH's sister came to visit us for the weekend and we spent yesterday at the beach. Why do we not go the beach more? It's only a half hour away.
CS/Q: For those of you who get ovulation pain, how long does it last?
I had it last cycle for two days, and this morning I thought it might have started again but I'm not sure. (I haven't had any CM whatsoever since a small amount CD12 so I'm really interested in looking for other potential signs to help me contextualize my weird temps this month.)
GTKY: I dated this guy off and on junior and senior year of high school. We really liked each other but we were both really headstrong about stupid topics and would break up and get back together at least every couple months. We broke up a little before junior year prom because we had a big argument about our different opinions on Dostoyevsky's Crime and Punishment. I have to laugh now at how insufferable and dramatic we were at 17. I wonder what ever happened to him...
<b>CD</b>: 11
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Charting on paper and with FF, CM with Creighton method, CBAdv OPK's, PNV's,
DHA, 200mg B6, 2000 iu Vitamin D, Selenium, Zinc, Co-Q10, Fertilitea (2x)
CD1-16, 4th cycle of FertileCM, 3rd cycle of Ovaboost, Mucinex for CD6-16, Preseed
and HIO during FW, third cycle of 100mg oral Progesterone 3-12DPO …and praying. Added 500mg Vitamin C to DH's vitamin regime, since I already had it on hand.
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</div><div><b>R/R</b>: Third day of blinkie-smiley and 3 BD's in, we may take a night off just so we don't tire ourselves out before Peak. Right now my instructor only wants us to BD PM so that doesn't interfere with my CM observations for the rest of the day, but DH often prefers to HIO in the morning, and I also heard something like every 36 hours is ideal. So Hopefully when I see her tomorrow she will clear us for AM BD as well. ;) I made the mistake last night of mentioning DH's hernia scars and asking him again how old he was when he had those or what happened to cause it, so now he is (needlessly) paranoid that that's the reason we're not PG yet. :( Took a while to let him get in the mood after that. And I brought it up in the first place because...???
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</div><div><b>CS/Q</b>: None today.</div><div>
</div><b>GTKY</b>: So the one with the ex I mentioned on FFFC was not pretty. In fact, there were aspects of it that make it like, really not nice to talk about. BUT! He was my big college love, and I will say that he was/is a really good and decent guy, just clearly not completely right for each other. And there were lots of times as I was getting to know DH that I saw things in him that I remember loving about my college ex before him, so that is kind of nice to think I ended up with the "new and improved" version of him in some ways - and in the Most Important way, because DH and I are actually totally crazy about one another <3 but I digress.
One yucky one that was actually kind of fun and fierce was this jerk I had been dating less seriously about a year or two before I met DH. We were on and off b/c it Wasn't really that serious, and I finally broke it off at one point because I found out he was totally with someone else and didn't tell me. Uhm, yeah. So whatever. It was a this really tough transition part of my life and I had just gotten home from a visit with my folks. I guess we knew my dad didn't have much time left. The guy wanted me to stay at his place that night, even though I had literally just gotten in from the airport, and I'm like, No, I'm pretty sure I want to sleep in my own bed tonight and sleep in a bit before I have to get up and go back to work on Monday. It was very important to him that I help him clean HIS APARTMENT before we left to my place. Okay. Whatever. We FINALLY get to my place and whatever argument that happened at like three in the morning - I think he had woken up hungry and was crunching all these chips or something IN MY EAR, IN THE BED and woke me up!!! - so I was just done and I'm like you need to leave, NOW! You're not leaving fast enough, GO! So he got out.
Then he texts me from the car outside. He's all, "can we be adults about this and just Talk? If you don't text me back in the next five minutes I'm leaving forever and that's it we're totally through." And I was lying there in my bed, thinking to myself, hmm. Should we be talking this over? Do I really want to text him?
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I did a body-check. I don't know what else to call it, but like, stopping to observe the sensations in my body and what I am feeling in my heart, and I was like, Ah! This! This is RELIEF. I am RELIEVED that you are gone and I am not going to trade this feeling I have right now for Anything.
So I just, didn't reply. I'm assuming he drove off, I drifted peacefully off to sleep and that was that! Holy cow, what a victory that was for me, and a huge turning point in me not taking crap from guys like that Ever Again!
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CD: 14
WAYDTGKU: temping, chart, cm, opk
R/R: It's been so humid lately, I've been stuck in the house and I'm starting to get cabin fever! Bleh!
CS/Q: I did OPKs on Friday. First one was a bit short of positive, but by late afternoon it was very positive! I did another that night fairly late and it was already fading out and very negative by Sat morning. So that's helpful to know, BUT my temps are all over the place and probably not very accurate (have not been able to temp at consistent times), so I just feel like I'm missing a piece of the puzzle, which is frustrating. And then DH works this whole weekend which doesn't help either.
GTKY: Tell us your worst/best breakup story! I know everybody's got at least one juicy one... Hmm, I think I'm pretty boring in this respect. lol Just your usual drama-filled HS crap which generally consisted of me just fading out when I lost interest. So rude and immature, I know.
Me: 36 DH: 41
@JackieMarie1989 The crazy temps are so frustrating!
@adirat Regarding ovulation pain, I think I feel it some cycles and not others. When I do, it seems pretty short though. Like a focused short-lived twinge-y kind of pain, if that makes sense. Of course, I don't even know for sure that's what it is, but sometimes the timing coincides, so I'm suspicious of it.
Me: 36 DH: 41
CD: 11
WAYDTGKU: BBT, CM, Vites etc.
R/R: So not looking forward to the week ahead. I have to work some today but we're going to see Secret Life of Pets tonight finally!!
CS/Q: nope.
GTKY: If I had three hours... I'll give you the short of it. I dated the same guy all through law school. He was a year behind me in school so when I moved out of my apartment he took it over including all my stuff. We talked about getting married all the time and I thought that's where we were headed. One night I stayed over the apartment. He had basketball and I had to work so I used his computer. He had always been weirdly private about his Facebook and email. Something just told me to look. Basically that night and over the next few days I discovered that he had been cheating on me all three years with many many women. I didn't know all the details of course. I got bits and pieces from gchat conversations and fb messages. I didn't confront him right away because honestly I didn't know what to do and was sort of in denial at first. On NYE we went to NY where my sister lived and sometime after midnight he confronted me about dancing too promiscuously on the dance floor (with my sister and our girlfriends) and I lost it. I whispered in his ear that I knew about x,y,z and I could see the vein in his neck throbbing. I knew it was all true at that point and we broke up on the spot. He took a train home by himself and went into my parents house via garage code and took the iPad I gave him for xmas. The next day my brother, sister and I went to the apartment and filled two pick up trucks with all my stuff. The bed, tv, dishes furniture etc. My brother broke a chair and that's what he was left with - a three legged chair. He admitted to hooking up with my bff from law school, getting oral from a girl he worked with and cheating with multiple other people. He claimed he was a sex addict and an alcoholic and went to counseling. He begged for me back. I found out he also hid he was smoking behind my back too. Crazy huh? He is married now and has his own law practice and a baby. I hope he changed for their sake. Trust your instincts ladies. That's all I have to say about that.
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@adirat I am the same as @alysapuggles I'm never really sure if what I'm feeling is really O-pain, but sometimes the timing of those little stabby twinges make me suspicious if that's what's really going on...
@MandyBeeSLP I'm not sure. I have heard anecdotally that extreme differences in ambient room temp can have an impact on temps, but mostly in the pre-O phase, for myself personally, I tend to see a big zig-zag anyway, even when the room temp is totally consistent. Case in point this cycle:
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And then my temps will often smooth and mellow out as they rise post-O. Here's a classic example from two cycles ago:
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But everybody's trends are different, and literally no two cycles are alike, so BOTTOMLINE, - and this totally applies too for the above question from @aboxofchocolates - Try not to worry too much about any one individual temp being high or low, it's all about stepping back and seeing the big picture... ;)
Freshman year of college I went up to a party in a dorm a couple floors above mine. There was this cute guy. A bottle of Hot Damn was consumed and we were totally hitting it off (or so I thought). He asked for my number before I left and promised to text me the next day. And he did! We made plans for lunch that day and I was super excited. We met at the restaurant, sat down, and the waiter came over to take our drink order. After the waiter leaves, my "date" decides this is a good time to tell me he's gay. And the waiter is his boyfriend.
Um, what?? He was just as clueless as I was because he had no idea I had been flirting with him. We ended up becoming really good friends and he would call me to help him iron his shirts and tie his ties before dates.
Married 07.21.07
DS#1 01.23.09
DS#2 08.01.11
TTC#3 08.31.15
Laparoscopy/Hysteroscopy/HSG 05.16.17
Hysteroscopy 10.04.17 10.05.17
Laparoscopy/Hysteroscopy/HSG 01.10.19
Left tube removed
dx: Endometriosis, Adenomyosis
BC: February-October 2019
TTA: November-December 2019
NTNP: January 2020!
@pepperat I started researching CDing like a month ah probably. I have seriously fallen down the rabbit hole. I've watched so many CD videos in the last two days. It's out of control. I actually ordered one yesterday from Amazon, you know just to see what it looks like I finally told my DH yesterday that I think I want to CD and he actually took it really well. I was expecting some pushback about it but he seems game.
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
CD:
WAYDTGKU: vitamins, OPK, temping/charting, diet & exercise.
CS/Q: none
GTKY: Tell us your worst/best breakup story! I know everybody's got at least one juicy one...
At one point in college, I had three guys trying to win me over at the same time. One was my ex-boyfriend from high school, the other was a "super hot" guy I dated who dumped me (I suspect because I had put on weight) and a third guy that was a "new friend" that kept asking me out on dates. The super hot guy was leaving love letters and flowers at my dorm asking to get back together (at this point I had lost a lot of weight). My high school boyfriend was a basket case that claimed I was ruining his life and emotionally scarring him because we had a "on-again-off-again" relationship. The third guy was a "new friend" that I met that kept asking me out and I kept saying "no." In the end, I told my high school ex to get lost and the "super hot" guy I wasn't interested because he already dumped me once and I wasn't going to play that game. I ended up dating the "new friend" and the rest was history. The "new friend" ended up being DH.
In good news, though, I had some EWCM this afternoon, so back to HIO!
CD: 16
WAYDTGKU: lots
R/R: lower temp today so I'm not sure what FF will do, almost positive yesterday OPK but Friday was too hard to tell because I have a UTI and was peeing all the time!
CS/Q: just waiting for my temps to confirm
GTKY: Tell us your worst/best breakup story! I know everybody's got at least one juicy one...
At work so I don't have time to do details. Buy I generally was the heartbreaker!
But really, I currently CD and absolutely love it!
Cycle/Month: 1/1
CD: 11
WAYDTGKU: pnv, hio, checking cm
CS/Question: None today
GTKY: My high school bf and I ended up going to the same college. He didn't have a car but I did so we carpooled to school. Well, I had to be at school a month early for a class so we drove my car up there and he took it back home so he could move all of our stuff when the semester actually started a month later. I knew I didn't want to be with him but I also didn't want to move all my crap by myself. So I was an ass and waited to break up with him after all of my things were in my dorm and I had my car keys back.
@linzrunz - that break up story is ridiculous!
@BusinessWife - I get a very mountain-ous chart a lot too.
@aliciagoose - what is CDing that you're reading about? I'm always up for some good research...
Cycle/Month: 2/4
CD: 7
WAYDTGKU: BBT, CM, OPK, HIO
R/R: Rave- for the first time in....well, ever since starting to take BBT before we were officially TTC my temps have been consistent with each other! They've been within 0.1 since the start of the month. This is something ridiculous to be excited about, but I am. Haha. Usually it's all over the board. I live in a climate where it's pretty normal to not have A/C, so we just sleep with the windows open, so I think that was throwing it off for the last 2 months and lately the temps have been PERFECT sleeping weather. It's the little things in life, right?
CS/Q: none.
GTKY: Tell us your worst/best breakup story!: I have two. In high school, I went to prom with a guy who had dated one of my friends...dumb me. The building our prom was in had about 8 stories, and the first one was for dancing, second was for sitting and having hors d'ouevres and then above that was kinda just empty. So one of my friends we ran into made a joke about "all the dark corners of the upper levels". I went to call our groups limo towards the end of the night to get picked up, and went up to the 4th floor so it was quiet. When we were about to get on the elevator he goes "So, want to make use of these dark corners?". I kinda got on the elevator and didn't respond. By the time we got back to my house for our "after party" I made one of my friends go tell him to leave.
Second one is shorter - I dated a guy in college, who lived 30 min from my family in the summer. I didn't hear from him for 3 months. When I asked him about it back at school, he told me he lost his cell phone. LAME! No. You didn't lose your cell phone for 3 months. Also you had facebook and email and knew where I lived. Clearly, no loss there.
Dating: 11/14/2010
Married: 10/18/2014
TTC April 2016
BFP: 5/12/2016 ~ MC: 5/25/2016
@KhRun17 Cloth diapering! It's a little cart before horse but I'm seriously obsessed. I've read an insane amount of articles and watched a ton of videos.
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
@linzrunz sorry for CD1 but yay that upcoming FW might be well-timed?
@adirat I keep trying to figure out if I have O pain but I have GI issues and chronic pain so it's really flipping hard to tell. Like I've been having what feels like they could be O pain since CD9 and that just can't be right lol (and I just read your update and I've been checked for endo in the past...I'm sorry this might be the answer for you, tho )
@AliciaGoose YAY! In the nicest way possible...I'm SO GLAD YOU'RE GONE!! lol
Cycle/Month: 2/2 TTCAL (loss was feb 25, this is 4th cycle temping but might have had bad thermometer for 2, 2nd cycle TTCAL...not that anyone cares haha)
CD:11
WAYDTGKU: BBT, PNV, DHA, Maca, RRLT, green tea, other bevs, tracking CM/CP, fertility meditation when I remember/have time alone, HIO AMAP, trying OPKs but having a hard time?
R/R: can't really complain right now; enjoying our "staycation"
CS/Q: I think I asked too late yesterday so I'll try again: Just struggling with diluting/holding my pee to take OPK and wondering how you ladies do it (how long do you hold it for or not drink)? What's the best time (they're dollar store ones until I order Wondfos and say not to use FMU). Literally have considered leaving cups of pee in the bathroom *justincase* I can get a more diluted batch later...sigh, I'm sure I'm overthinking this.... THANKS in advance!
GTKY: Tell us your worst/best breakup story! I know everybody's got at least one juicy one...
Okay, this is a good one because it sort of involves me being a badass instead of just getting screwed over by douchebags like most of the stories lol
I was dating this guy (bouncer) from a bar I worked at. I wasn't interested at first but he wore me down. Then, I'm pretty sure we were all but broken up, but he somehow managed to break his leg breaking up a bar fight and all the feels came back and I went to the hospital with him and then he had complications after they put pins in it (compartment syndrome) and had to have a skin graft and all that. I went full Florence Nightingale and was taking care of him best I could. He didn't know what he was going to do because he wasn't going to be able to work and couldn't get any compensation because he got paid under the table. I stupidly told him he could move in with me until he healed up. He quickly ended up being THE WORST. He was mean to my dog, grumpy/a jerk to me, I was paying for everything, including cigarettes which if I remember correctly he smoked in the house (barf) (oh and when I bought cigs for him when he was still at the hospital and the next day he had like none, he told me that he'd sold them for cash and I'm like wtf?) and THEN I found out that he was completely lying about his previous living situation and was NOT paying any rent and was basically couch surfing and there was no reason for him to have moved in AND that his buddies had been giving him money the whole time and there were other weird lies coming out, too. I am typically nice to a fault and get taken advantage of a LOT and didn't know what to do because he was basically in a wheelchair and what kind of a person would I be to kick him out? But when I found out the part about him lying and that he absolutely had somewhere to go, I finally came home one day and told him I couldn't do it anymore. My heart was beating out of my chest and he got angry, but I stood my ground and started putting his stuff in garbage bags. I told him I'd call him a cab or he could wait for a buddy to pick him up, but he insisted on leaving in his wheelchair, with his bags of crap. And as pp mentioned, that sense of overwhelming RELIEF let me know I'd done the right thing and it was one of my most satisfying breakups haha Funniest part was, his friends teased me a bit about being the girl who kicked out a dude in a wheelchair but they were ALLLL on my side, because they knew what he was like
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
Sorry to hear endo is something you've been checked for. I find it so frustrating that it's often too small to find on an ultrasound so there's no reliable way to know without laparoscopy, which obviously isn't something I want to jump to!
Regarding OPKs, I don't think I've ever been able to do more than a three-hour hold. I have to pee like a zillion times a day (because I am always thirsty and drink a LOT of water) so even with reducing intake for OPKs, that's all I can manage!
For the most part though, I went with prefolds and covers, so the nb aios I got just as a bonus for ease of use in early days, and what with extra caregivers who will likely be around at that time. ;)
And oh crap, 3 hours? I can barely make it to 1hr when it comes to pee holding lol (typically go at least every 30min )
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
10/2/10
Me:29 H: 31
TTC#1: Aug 2015
https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5e3072
Married 6-15-13
DS born 4-9-15
Septate Uterus
BFP 10/12/16--EDD 6/24/17
Married 6-15-13
DS born 4-9-15
Septate Uterus
BFP 10/12/16--EDD 6/24/17
So I splurged on really high quality, highly absorbent prefolds (geffen, but people also love osocozy and green mountain) because I feel like it's more versatile. Hypothetically, prefolds and covers ought to be a cheaper alternative to pockets/AIOs (unless you do like me and totally over-buy on covers. People generally are going for say 24-36 prefolds per size and maybe 6-8 covers. I am on track for more like 36/24 ratio for newborns (Plus AIOs) - to be fair, I started with just the 12 thirsties snap covers, but then I accidentally ordered the sweetpea velcro covers and decided to keep them (and build up to 12 because round numbers), in case for whatever reason at whatever stage, one were to fit better than the other. - and 24 small+24 med prefolds with 24-32 covers lol I think I will try to stop there tho... maybe 40. MAX. As long as they all fit in the drawer IDC because I figure seasonally I may go more for certain colours, or say I want to leave a stash at grandmas, some may live in the diaper bag, whatever.) I am admittedly ridiculous.
BUT! At the end of the day, if one type of cover works better on one baby, I can put the rest away for baby No.2, who may be built differently enough that the other type fits better. Or say I feel like I just LOVE one certain kind of cover I happen to try and I want to just sell the rest on ebay and replenish with just my ultimate faves. Or say I were the type of mom who wanted to be really girlie or really boyish, you could have your 6-8 girl covers, and then pick up 6-8 boy covers when LO No. 2 rolls in the door, and you still are using all the same insides of the diapers. You can mix up the look while just keeping all your same tried and true diapers "in the family" so to speak. AND, as far as fit and leaks, there are so many ways you can fold a prefold for various stages of their growth, that I think that's cool. With decent covers you should really never have a problem with leaks because if one fold isn't working perfectly, you can try a different one. Or say if I like the angel-wing fold and dad just wants to trifold, cool! Putting a trifold into a flip or a thirsties is so super easy.
Some people love pockets, while others feel the time to stuff them is a pain and/or handling them to pull out the insert gets messy etc. What do you think, @JackieMarie1989 What kind of pockets do you use? What have you tried that you did or did not like as much and why? For me I guess I am old-fashioned and I just felt like pockets were too high-tech! lol