What a kick in the balls. DH is working on a project out of town that either has him staying overnight or gets him home so late I'm either already asleep or about to be. This is the second week with this client. When he told me about this job I said, "No! You can't! You need to be home at least at the end of the week." He said, "What am I supposed to do? Tell them you're ovulating?" YES! What do I care! LOL.
Ladies, tips on handling those "missed opportunity" days? It's looking like this month could be a bust, and I'm not happy about it. But what can you do? *le sigh*
@Schmoopie1 Tell that man to drive his butt home even if its late and stay up and do it. It doesn't have to be romantic maybe some naughty messages through the day so you are both worked up enough it can be quick and then off to sleep for you both
@Schmoopie1 We had a similar thing this month, but I was the one who had to travel. When I got home I was exhausted. Sexy time was not the first thing on my mind, but we did our best anyway. I just knew I'd be so disappointed if we didn't at least try.
Agreed! I told him I'd drive out there and come to his hotel haha. What an upset in our schedule, though. I really hope this isn't the case next month! If I had my way, he'd work from home that whole week! "You can stay on your conference call, just take your pants off quick..."
Sounds like you can still make it work even if it isn't the most fun or convenient. I was in Asia last cycle for work, so there was no way around that one LOL
Lurker from BOTB here- We'll be TTC next cycle and I anticipate encountering this problem regularly, as DH has a project that keeps him out of town Tuesday-Thursday most weeks. Here's hoping I pretty much never ovulate on Thursdays I guess!!
Me (28) & DH (35) Met 4/2010+Married 8/2014 TTC #1 August 2016. BFP 10/2016= DD Born 6.23.17
NTNP April 2018. BFP 5/2018 EDD 1.29.19 *Team Green*
My OH works away all week. I don't know how far away your man is, but I do make that drive to his hotel about 120 miles away. Did it night before last, as a matter of fact. I find that it's a little naughty fun, too...we call it filthy hotel sex even though it's not much different. I do send him little texts here and there, like this gif:
He's gone every week, so I schedule time when I think FW will be and go visit. I'm fortunate enough to have available vacation time to take so that I'm there two nights and one day, although this last time was literally driving there after work and driving straight to work in the morning. Totally worth it to feel like we gave this cycle our all...
Me: 45 OH: 42 Beloved SS: born 12/2011 TTC my bio #1/our #2 since January 2016 **TW** June 2016 had CP **end TW** August 2016 - dx with DOR Somewhere in here received recommendation to do IVF with donor eggs, elected not to; OH dx with Low T May 2017 - began freezing sperm June 2017 - OH began treatment for Low T July 2017 - began doing 1 IUI via a midwife and 1 at home insemination each cycle http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/6259ba July 2018 - exhausted frozen sperm, officially NTNP since OH is probably shooting blanks
I feel your pain! My DH is gone 2 weeks out of every month and timing always sucks. PP had great ideas to go visit him if you are able. Luckily my DH is within driving distance and we will rent a hotel every once in a while. It's actually kind of nice to be with him somewhere different. I hope everything works out for you!
Re: Ovulating and DH has to work out of town
Agreed! I told him I'd drive out there and come to his hotel haha. What an upset in our schedule, though. I really hope this isn't the case next month! If I had my way, he'd work from home that whole week! "You can stay on your conference call, just take your pants off quick..."
Met: 2003
Married: 2005
TTC #1: May 2016
Met 4/2010+Married 8/2014
TTC #1 August 2016. BFP 10/2016= DD Born 6.23.17
He's gone every week, so I schedule time when I think FW will be and go visit. I'm fortunate enough to have available vacation time to take so that I'm there two nights and one day, although this last time was literally driving there after work and driving straight to work in the morning. Totally worth it to feel like we gave this cycle our all...
Beloved SS: born 12/2011
TTC my bio #1/our #2 since January 2016
**TW** June 2016 had CP **end TW**
August 2016 - dx with DOR
Somewhere in here received recommendation to do IVF with donor eggs, elected not to; OH dx with Low T
May 2017 - began freezing sperm
June 2017 - OH began treatment for Low T
July 2017 - began doing 1 IUI via a midwife and 1 at home insemination each cycle
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/6259ba
July 2018 - exhausted frozen sperm, officially NTNP since OH is probably shooting blanks