TTC on Honeymoon?

MotherOfFreels

I will be getting married and going on my honeymoon in a week and my fiancé and I really want to start a family right away. We are 27 and 28, and have been together for two years. I find it ironic when people ask as soon as your married or right before, "When are you planning on having kids?" most couples will say a couple of years, leaving the asker disappointed. Yet, when we are asked and answer that we want to start a family right away, they are shocked and are more or less against it, saying you need to time to get to know each other. It feels like there's kind of a lose/lose mentality on the matter. We are both really mature, financially ready and ready to start that chapter in our lives. So is it so bad for wanting to start a family right away? 

irohspupil

You're going to have to learn to stop caring about what other people think of your life choices 

Have fun on the honeymoon! 

ETA: you're ready when you're both ready. Not when others say you're ready.

varimama

I hate when people ask questions like that or when are you buying a house? etc... I usually want to yell none of your business! But I actually respond with some cliche like oh we're just happy being married or its so nice not having to mow a lawn etc...

Of course it's not bad if you want to start a family right away. If you're both ready then that's what matters not what anyone else thinks. 

Congrats and and have an awesome wedding and honeymoon!

doodleoodle

I think people say that because generally the first year of marriage is hard and having a baby is unbelievably hard and it takes a toll on your marriage. When you're pregnant you'll hear people say, "Oh enjoy sleep now while you can." And you'll roll your eyes and move on. I really wish someone had told me that I really will never sleep again. My baby is 5 months old. I haven't slept well since my 2nd trimester of pregnancy. I'm grumpy. DH is grumpy. It can be rough. With that being said, it's no one's business and if you're ready then you're ready. It will be really hard no matter when you decide to have a baby, but it is also incredibly rewarding and worth it.

Skyjewell23

We got pregnant 6 months into marriage and haven't regretted a moment. It's your life and your decisions. You know what is best for you. Good luck!

MrsFL2015

This is why I opt for the phrases, "Time will tell" or "We'll see"  It sort of leaves the asker without an answer.  No answer means no judgements, no unsolicited advice and not follow-up questions.  You are also more than welcome to say that the subject is a private matter between you and your husband and you're not discussing it with others.  When you're pregnant, they'll know and that's all that matters. 

TwizBeans

micshi said:

You're going to have to learn to stop caring about what other people think of your life choices 

Have fun on the honeymoon! 

ETA: you're ready when you're both ready. Not when others say you're ready.

This.

Nelbetron

Some people like to poo-poo no matter what you say... you say black, they say white. That's just the way people are... when you guys are mentally ready, you're ready! Sounds like you know what you're doing! You know what they say- opinions are like ........ everyone's got one.

dfulton808

besides the fabulous ladies here, only my closest confidants even know we're talking about TTC. Everyone else? Their 2 cents ain't paying my bills.