Keeping ultrasound pictures?

mrt

I happened to see the ultrasound pictures from Monday, when they said everything looked great, this morning before I left for work. I mentioned to my husband that I had an emotional morning because of it, and he said we should throw them away, that there's no reason to keep them. I immediately started to cry. I know he's coming from a good place, he doesn't want me to be upset, but I don't want to throw them out. If you got ultrasound pictures, did you keep them? My loss was on Tuesday at 8 weeks.

BornReady

I wish I had an ultrasound photo! My only ultrasound was while my loss was starting, with a still, barely beating heart. I am sad I didn't ask her to print a few photos even though I knew it was the end. This is a part of your life story, the good, the bad and the ugly. It's all part of it and worthy of recording.

valleric

I have one and I am so glad. It makes it more real, hey there was a live baby in there! It's in a dresser drawer. Too hard to look at it everyday.

kayham12

I'm keeping mine from both ultrasounds. The doctor actually asked if we would like to have a copy of the ultrasound that showed our baby's heart had stopped, I think of it as the last time I ever saw my baby. I'm planning on putting them in a frame and adding them to the gallery wall in my bed room. I think this is a personal decision though. I see it as a way of honoring my lost child, never forgetting that person, but I could also see it as a painful reminder of this loss for some. Maybe put them in a drawer for awhile or inside a book and then in a few weeks decide what to do? Grief is a very personal journey and there is no right way or wrong way to do it. 

mrt

This is what I said - I'll put them away somewhere so I don't see them every day. They were just still on the mantle where I had put them after getting home on Monday. Thanks.

susykat77

I've kept mine. Big hugs. 

rosieo52

I didn't get any and wish I had them. It would have been the only pictures of our nugget. But do what works best for you. 

Aera11

@mrt I've kept mine as well.  I couldn't bring myself to look at it anymore so it's in my baby memory box with my HPT, hospital band & a few other things that were intended for the baby we lost at 10w2d. The day we got the ultrasound and were happy, I had taken a picture of it on my phone...so if I'm ever feeling compelled to look, I can just pull it up. It's a happy reminder of a short life, and a sad memory of the baby sized hole in our hearts. 

ThePax89

Mine is in a frame that says "love at first sight" next to the ultrasound of my daughter in a similar frame. I won't remove it. It makes me sad to see it. 

Fwiw, I still have the positive pregnancy tests from both of my two previous losses that I can't part with. 

yolandamunoz

I just started thinking about this... I threw the pregnancy tests but kept pictures in my phone.

As for the u/s I still have them, but we never saw the embryo as I had a blighted ovum. No heartbeat. Just the empty sack. 

I think put them away in a special
notebook would be a good idea, not to see them every day but have the option to remember this.

22mango22

I still have one of mine, I wish I had one of all of the others. I still have it in my purse, when I have a bad day I look at if for a secobd and remember how happy we were, even if it was only for a few weeks.

kmolleltz

Right after my loss I deleted any and all pictures in my phone related to the pregnancy but I've kept my ultrasound picture... it's tucked away but there if I want to see it

jsl82

After my first my husband hid the ultrasound picture- so we would still have it, but I wouldn't see it.  I think he did the same this last time too.  It's hard- especially at first- but I am glad we didn't throw them away.  

briannef90

I wish I would have been able to have some. I would have definitely kept them, but it's different for everybody.

Wishilivedinflorida

I have mine. We were in the process of moving into our new house and I stuffed them in a dresser drawer because we didn't want anyone helping us around the house to find them. They are still there. Not sure what to do with them but I can't bear to part with them. 

pattygrazioso

I will always keep mine. ..

zrain

I got a tiny frame for mine and I have it sitting by my bed. I only have the one print out, no phone pictures or anything. The ultrasound tech wasn't going to give me one because it was a sad ultrasound but I asked for one anyway and I'm glad I did. It breaks my heart to look at but it reminds me that my baby was really there and gives me something tangible to remember him/her by since I don't have anything else.

tinypikachu

We kept ours from the loss and I'm going to put them in a shadow box in our bedroom along with other stuff we got (a blankie, a balloon I used to surprise DH with the BFP, etc). I had my loss in November and I'm still not ready to put it all together... but I have them for when I get there.

fivetimesnoluck

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SnobunnieMel

I to have my husband taken them off the fridge for me, looking at them
hurt to much. He said he would throw them away and I completely lost it. To me it was like he was just throwing away our baby. He has them hidden for me until I get the chance to put together a memory box. I have the positive tests still along with my hospital band from the d&c, 2 sets of photos and some other things that I'm going to put together and save. I don't think I could ever get rid of those photos. To me it's like saying the baby never existed. I would rather take the pain and honor it and how much we loved it in its short time. 

iceandsnowflakes29

I never received pics  I guess because it is a blighted ovum. Maybe I should pee on one more test to keep? I threw my others away. Now I want some sort of keepsake.