June 2016 Moms
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How has your pregnancy/motherhood changed you?
UseTheTriforce94
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One of the biggest things I hear is that motherhood teaches you how to be patient. I'm curious, how do you feel you've changed since either becoming pregnant or having children if you aren't a FTM?
Re: How has your pregnancy/motherhood changed you?
It's so different with your own kid(s). I'm not a huge fan of kids in general (I like a couple besides my own basically) so I was always kinda worried I was gonna be a terrible mom, but you should really believe people when they say it's different with your own.
I still don't like other people's kids though... Haha
Mrs. H
Crohn's Dx: August 2008
Endometriosis Dx: May 2010
Married: 05/19/2012
TTC #1: June 2013
BFP: December 2013
DS: Born 08/29/2014
TTC #2: July 2015
BFP #2: September 25, 2015
I will have to say my anxiety went through the roof in the newborn stage and I hope I can relax more the second go round.
Sgoldberg247 I feel you. I have my U/S for gender in almost a week and I'm just like urrrrrgh I want it now!
NLewis1 Yes!!
HeartLikeMine3 Anxiety from colic/not sleeping/being an FTM or something else?
>-More tolerant and appreciative of everyone's particular personalities, gifts and quirks (read: annoying stuff)
-Have a real fear of death for the first time in my life, because I can't leave them without a mother. After my daughter was born, I had a serious fear of drowning for a few years - I've grown up with the ocean my whole life, and am a strong swimmer
-I now understand unconditional love. I think it only comes with your own children & dogs
-Exhausted. The last time I was well-rested was 2004;)
I'm REALLY hoping baby girl is a better sleeper than her brother....
Mrs. H
Crohn's Dx: August 2008
Endometriosis Dx: May 2010
Married: 05/19/2012
TTC #1: June 2013
BFP: December 2013
DS: Born 08/29/2014
TTC #2: July 2015
BFP #2: September 25, 2015
I think the biggest change is just adjusting my life to accommodate this little person who is so reliant on me. My sense of myself as an independent person changed. It was a struggle at first. Every once in a while I want a minute alone, but they need you. It's hard to find a balance that works.
I'm cleaning out our third bedroom for a nursery (I was using it as a large walk in closet and dressing room) so I had to get rid of so much stuff to make room for baby. Nothing like throwing out purses and shoes to realize baby comes first!
Baby #2 Due 3/7/20
I also feel a lot more grateful for things in my life. I really appreciate my family and the support and love they give to me, my husband, and my child. I appreciate the time I spend with my daughter and also the quiet moments when it's just me and my husband or when I'm just relaxing by myself. The pace of life feels a lot faster so I tend to take it for granted less.
It's also rearranged my priorities so I get less worked up about trivial stuff. I'm much more calm about work, money, etc. Everything seems "small" in comparison to the importance of family. I'm much busier these days but also more relaxed. I guess you could call it patience
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>I no longer poop alone, unless I'm at work. I shower once on the weekends. My immune system has seen a library of viruses I didn't know existed. I realized that much of my nice personality is predicated on me having consumed caffeine. I haven't seen a movie in years. I appreciate a date night like never before. I learned how to function on no sleep. I simultaneously don't care about fashion but appreciate feeling fresh and pulled together like never before. I was too hot for a minivan, now I'm hot enough to still be hot with a minivan. My body is not what it used to be but I'm proud of what it's done for me and my family. I'm a more conscientious spouse, making sure I feed our relationship. I've become a momma bear. I put my kids need before my own - most of the time. I don't have time or energy to be anything but confident and I don't have time for BS. I love my kids on a whole new and deeper level than I even knew existed.