Hi...
We have been TTC for just about 20 months now with all BFN results. I am now 32 and I had been on BCPS for more than a decade and stopped taking them about a month before we really started TTC. There were some months where we weren't really where we were supposed to be in terms of hitting the timing mark, but after more than 12 months we got a referral to get DH tested. We were informed that he has "borderline" male IF. After that I had several tests done and everything seems to be where it should be on my end.
We just did our second IUI with Clomid yesterday, 1/11/16. RE said it looked like there "might be" two follicles when we did the ultrasound on Friday, we were set for IUI Tuesday, but I had O w/o HCG trigger on Sunday 1/11/16. The first IUI was a BFN (on Christmas Day, I should just have waited for the day after) and DH was very disappointed, even though statistically the success rate for IUI doesn't seem great. Disappointed to the point where it felt like I had no outlet for my own feelings of disappointment because I had to be positive for the "team". On the first round RE said the sperm count was 22M, but I'm not sure if that was post wash or pre-wash. This time he said that the count was 6.5M post-wash.
I remember being really excited to start TTC, and we had jazzy positive thoughts going in, but now I feel like we will never get a BFP. But I feel like I can't express this feeling to DH because it would discourage him more than I can bear. Looking for support / thoughts / outlet here.
Me: 32
DH: 46 - Borderline Male IF
Married to DH since 9/13
TTC since 5/14
12/15 1st IUI BFN (Clomid)
1/16 2nd IUI BFN (Clomid)
2/16 3rd IUI BFN (Clomid)
3/16 4th IUI BFN (Clomid)
7/29/16 - 1st IVF - Transferred (2) 6 day blastocysts, PGS. One Frozen 6 day blastocyst. - BFP
Beta #1 - 8/10/16 - 10dp6dt - 481; Beta #2 - 8/17/16 - 17dp6dt - 6,635; Ultra Sound - 8/26/16
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Me - 28, Lean PCOS
DH - 31
Married June 2010, TTC since March 2014
Blog: ourbinarystar.com
FET cycle #3 Transfer July 28th 2016, Triplets born healthy on February 26th 2017 at 33w1d!
Me: 32
DH: 46 - Borderline Male IF
Married to DH since 9/13
TTC since 5/14
12/15 1st IUI BFN (Clomid)
1/16 2nd IUI BFN (Clomid)
2/16 3rd IUI BFN (Clomid)
3/16 4th IUI BFN (Clomid)
7/29/16 - 1st IVF - Transferred (2) 6 day blastocysts, PGS. One Frozen 6 day blastocyst. - BFP
Beta #1 - 8/10/16 - 10dp6dt - 481; Beta #2 - 8/17/16 - 17dp6dt - 6,635; Ultra Sound - 8/26/16
Me - 28, Lean PCOS
DH - 31
Married June 2010, TTC since March 2014
Blog: ourbinarystar.com
FET cycle #3 Transfer July 28th 2016, Triplets born healthy on February 26th 2017 at 33w1d!
TTC - since 2014
7 rounds of Clomid - BFN
IUI #1 - October 2015 - BFN
IUI #2 - November 2015 - BFN
IUI #3 - December 2015 - BFN
IVF #1 - March 2016
Retrieval #1 - April 2016
FET #1 - May 2016 - BFP!!! DS - Born January 2017
Trying for baby #2...
FET #2 - January 2018 - BFN
No more embryos left; switched to a new RE
IVF/Retrieval #2 - January 2019
IVF/Retrieval #3 - March 2019
FET #3 - April 2019 - BFP!!! - DD: Born December 2019
Trying for baby #3...
FET #4 - October 2021 - BFP!!! - Due June 2022
Our sperm count seems to be pretty similar to yours (at our IUI we had 7 million post wash), and rather than continue with IUIs and having less than a 10% chance of success with those numbers, we decided to take our RE's referral to a urologist who specializes in male infertility. My DH also suffers from low T and the urologist said that the supplement he was taking to increase T (androgel) is likely causing low sperm count. So he took DH off androgel and prescribed him clomid instead to increase T. We're hoping this will help, but we won't find out until 1/28 when he gets another SA.
Did your RE recommend that you meet with a urologist?
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014
IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs
IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos
FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17
FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN
FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
DH: 36, No known issues
TTC since 11/2014
1000mg Metformin daily
Oct-Dec 2015: Letrozole 5mg, Ovidrel, TI = BFN x 2
Feb-May 2016: Letrozole 5mg, Ovidrel, TI, Prometrium = BFN x 3
August 2016: Clomid 100mg no response, Letrozole 5mg, Ovidrel, TI, Prometrium = BFN
wifeinraleigh28 our RE has not made any other recommendations yet.
We did a lot of testing...and found out I had lost immunity to Rubella. So I got re-vaccinated and since it's a live vaccine had to wait 1-month before trying again. He also recommended a supplement for DH, which I suspect accounts for some of the difference between IUI #1 count and IUI #2 count because he has fallen off taken them on a regular basis.
I am shocked at the grief I felt. I was so hopeful, and that first BFN after IUI #1 was so emotional. Even more than any of the other months of trying and BFN.
I'm also just not sure if continuing with IUI makes sense or if there are other options to boost his count before we go to IVF, which I'm not sure if we can really afford (we are paying out of pocket).
Me: 32
DH: 46 - Borderline Male IF
Married to DH since 9/13
TTC since 5/14
12/15 1st IUI BFN (Clomid)
1/16 2nd IUI BFN (Clomid)
2/16 3rd IUI BFN (Clomid)
3/16 4th IUI BFN (Clomid)
7/29/16 - 1st IVF - Transferred (2) 6 day blastocysts, PGS. One Frozen 6 day blastocyst. - BFP
Beta #1 - 8/10/16 - 10dp6dt - 481; Beta #2 - 8/17/16 - 17dp6dt - 6,635; Ultra Sound - 8/26/16
At the beginning I've heard it is fun (DH has azoospermia, so, BDing is just for fun) but it definitely becomes more and more stressful. As long as you both are doing what you can to help the situation, I think you should express these feelings with him. Like @wifeinraleigh28 said, it's both of you in it together, it wouldn't be fair to just dump on him, but you should both be able to talk about what's going on in a way that isn't pointing fingers at each other.
Me: 32
DH: 46 - Borderline Male IF
Married to DH since 9/13
TTC since 5/14
12/15 1st IUI BFN (Clomid)
1/16 2nd IUI BFN (Clomid)
2/16 3rd IUI BFN (Clomid)
3/16 4th IUI BFN (Clomid)
7/29/16 - 1st IVF - Transferred (2) 6 day blastocysts, PGS. One Frozen 6 day blastocyst. - BFP
Beta #1 - 8/10/16 - 10dp6dt - 481; Beta #2 - 8/17/16 - 17dp6dt - 6,635; Ultra Sound - 8/26/16
5/2/16: 2 heartbeats
5/11/16: Baby A hb180, Baby B hb166
Due 12/22/16 with two!
Me: 32
DH: 46 - Borderline Male IF
Married to DH since 9/13
TTC since 5/14
12/15 1st IUI BFN (Clomid)
1/16 2nd IUI BFN (Clomid)
2/16 3rd IUI BFN (Clomid)
3/16 4th IUI BFN (Clomid)
7/29/16 - 1st IVF - Transferred (2) 6 day blastocysts, PGS. One Frozen 6 day blastocyst. - BFP
Beta #1 - 8/10/16 - 10dp6dt - 481; Beta #2 - 8/17/16 - 17dp6dt - 6,635; Ultra Sound - 8/26/16
Jan 10, 2016: Cycle 16. Femara 5mg + IUI #3 - BFN.
Feb 10, 2016: Cycle 17. No IUI or meds. Taking a break - Natural BFP Mar 5, 2016!!!! EDD Nov 16, 2016
Moving to IVF March 2016
Beta at 10dpo: 21, Beta at 12dpo: 98, Beta at 14dpo: 264, Beta at 16dpo: 745
U/S 6w6d: single beautiful heartbeat of 121bpm - It's a boy!!!!
Nov 3, 2016: Our family became complete. Welcome DS #2.
Me: 32
DH: 46 - Borderline Male IF
Married to DH since 9/13
TTC since 5/14
12/15 1st IUI BFN (Clomid)
1/16 2nd IUI BFN (Clomid)
2/16 3rd IUI BFN (Clomid)
3/16 4th IUI BFN (Clomid)
7/29/16 - 1st IVF - Transferred (2) 6 day blastocysts, PGS. One Frozen 6 day blastocyst. - BFP
Beta #1 - 8/10/16 - 10dp6dt - 481; Beta #2 - 8/17/16 - 17dp6dt - 6,635; Ultra Sound - 8/26/16
Married February 2014
Me:34 DH: 34
TTC since May 2014
Jan. 2016: 1st round of Clomid - stopped due to OHSS
Feb 2016: 1st RE apt - diagnosed with PCOS still possible uterine septum. Put on BC for cysts, HSG will be in March
March 2016: HSG showed both tubes blocked (right tube holding fluid), no uterine septum, need surgery
April 2016: Surgery to remove right (hydrosalpinx) fallopian tube and adhesions from the left - all went well!
May 2016: Waiting to start 3 months of un-monitored cycles in July with metformin and letrozole. If no success, going straight to IVF!
Started TTC April 2011
Me: 32, DH: 32
Diagnosis: Endometriosis
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But this is temporary state only. As we have to stay strong whatever happens on our path.
I've also heard IUI rates are not very high but I suppose it to be so due to individual reasons each couple has. If this treatment is ineffective a good expert doesn't suggest it. Exapt the cases one wants to loom your money..
Welcome to this board! It's really a nice place to be in. You're just sure to share your feelings and expectations without fear of being insulted - this makes good.
People here are in the same boat with you, so they're understanding and supporting enough to bring you at ease. This is so important sometimes..
Briefly about myself. 6 years ago faced 2 miscarriages in a row. Was diagnosed on endometriosis and PCOS. Had unsuccessful surgery - left ovary scarring. Cycles of DE in biotexcom fertility center - am 25 weeks pregnant.
Wish you all the best and feel free to ask everything you're interested in. Strong hugs for you xx
Me: 27, Endometriosis
DH: 30
Married: 06/2012
TTC #1 since 09/2014
10/2015 1st IUI BFN (Gonal-F & Ovidrel)
07/2016 2nd IUI BFN (Femara, Gonal-F, Ovidrel & Progesterone)
08/2016 3rd IUI BFN (Femara, Gonal-F, Ovidrel & Progesterone)
Planned IVF in Summer 2017
Surprise BFP 11/28/16: Beta 1 - 2311, Beta 2 - 6049; EDD 8/4/17
My husband I and seem to trade off being the disappointed one. Maybe when he's feeling better you can let him know how your feeling? You shouldn't bottle it all up though I bet he appreciates your positivity when he's having a hard time.
I don't know how helpful my response is but I just wanted to thank you for posting. I haven't been able to find many posts from women who only have been dealing with MFI and not PCOS or another complicating factor (no offense to those ladies who have those conditions!). I feel very alone in my own situation/frustration and I thank you for sharing your story.