TMI: pregnancy and sex/orgasms

AOliveira11

As I get into my second trimester, I find that my libido has been more active than usual. I feel very strange having sex with DH or even going for a solo session. How do you ladies get over that fear that the baby is aware of what's going on? I know that it's not possible it has a clue of what's happening outside its tiny little bubble, but i'm still having issues getting over that thought in my head

kyraaD

knowing that baby is well protected & had no idea what's going on helped me get over this pretty quickly. plus, I'm usually a lot more focused on what's going on between me & my SO that it doesn't really cross my mind.

meggyme

Think back to your own first memory. I'll bet it wasn't in utero while your parents had sex. You don't have anything to worry about because your cervix is a physical barrier for baby. As long as it feels good, go for it. I've found sex to be a lot more pleasurable while pregnant.

doozer1345

A. Your cervix is closed so baby is "in another room" completely.
B. Your big O actually rocks LO to sleep most of the time. They say the rocking movement it creates is soothing.
C. Have at it girl. You won't be able to for a bit after LO gets here.

ETA: You may be one of the lucky ones in having multiple O's while pg. Why not try it out?

stillcozy

Baby is floating and happy in there and very unaware to what is going on it's one of the benefits to being pregnant so enjoy it!

AdorkablePixie

My libido has not changed at all and it's a little disappointing! I still love sex and we do it once or twice a week, but that's it. I just feel too tired most of the time. Either that or I've got another pain or issue I'm dealing with. The feeling of sex also changed after the first trimester. It felt AMAZING in the beginning, not that it wasn't before, but now it's kinda just back to normal.

groovylocks

My husband was like you.. In the end he was unable to perform for 9months. I was the one needing sex. It was frustrating but I didn't pressure him. Much.

If it's how you feel it's how you feel... But baby isn't aware, won't remember and be all "omg my folks did it when I was in there" (did you look back and remember it?) baby has no context or reference level for anything so if that helps. It didn't help dh.. I gave birth on Dec 10th and am awaiting our 6 week postpartum mark.

shani12345

Sex with penetration is more challenging and less pleasurable bc of the surrounding discomforts for us. however everything else I find is better. We do it less so when we do there is more passion and desire and orgasms are more intense than usual! Only had about 3 the whole preg though....

shani12345

I mean as opposed to when we were TTC and there was external pressure to conceive. now it's just for the fun of it

LaurenAsh23

Enjoy it while you can. Once baby is here things are a little more difficult. I also always find pregnancy sex to be better anyways. But like others said...if that's how you feel, don't worry, things will get back to "normal".

AOliveira11

I guess part of the reason im having issues is this is an IVF pregnancy that was successful on try number 3. The first two had stuck but after my DH and i had sex, a couple days later i miscarried both and i think i am just associating sex with a failed pregnancy/miscarriage. I love sex and being intimate but am so paranoid that something bad will happen even though we have the all clear