Hospital you Hate or one you love?

ambuchick

My last delivery was 53min of Active labor. I'm trying to decide if I should take a chance making it to the hospital I love but that is 30+ mins away or the hospital I hate but has the security of being 15 minutes away. Which would you choose?

nopegoat

What are the reasons you hate the closer hospital?

DobbysSock

Yea I need to know the reasons you hate/love the hospitals before I can decide if it's worth the risk. I want to say closer hospital but it depends how bad it is

fleurdelakeview

I agree - need to know why before I can make a decision. 

mrsmommya

I live 2 blocks from our towns hospital and 40 min from a larger hospital.  I had my DD at the larger one and will do the same this time around.  They have a NICU and more capabilities if there were complications.

BostonBaby1

Yes, why do you hate the closer hospital? Which one has better care if baby or mama has an issue?

I'm sorry that you have to make this decision.

PugsandKisses

Yes, I agree. I need more information. I can only deliver as certain places. The closest hospital that my insurance approves does not have a NICU. Nice hospital, but just 'too small'. It is 4 miles away.

I work at the largest hospital in our system. I trust so much as the staff and providers there. However it is 40 miles one way. Just to far for an emergency for my comfort.

So I picked the middle ground. Same system, with a Level II NICU, 24 hour anesthesia. I know some staff there too. It is 15-20 miles? This one wins.

BostonBaby1

^^ good point! Are you a low risk pregnancy? Unfortunately, I'm not so I wanted to make sure that I picked the hospital that I go to most often and they have my records and all of my doctors on staff. They also have a level III NICU & are in the same area as Children's Hospital.

*typo

Croscrew

While I do not hate the hospital in town, I delivered at the farther away hospital with DD and know the ONe who deliver, so we are choosing to deliver 25 minutes away.

PugsandKisses

BostonBaby1 said:

^^ good point! Are you a low risk pregnancy? Unfortunately, I'm not so I wanted to make sure that I picked the hospital that I go to most often and they have my records and all of my doctors on staff. They also have a level III NICU & are in the same area as Children's Hospital.

*typo

I am high risk. My system uses on big EMR (electronic medical record), so I can go to any Dr's office, Urgent Care and hospital and every one can see my records. We just bought out a smaller system in the area. So once that 'merger' is complete, we will he 20k employees and 11 hospitals strong (plus tons of Dr's offices). So I have to use one of my work's Dr's, and hospitals. Which is fine with me.

BostonBaby1

PugsandKisses said:

BostonBaby1 said:

^^ good point! Are you a low risk pregnancy? Unfortunately, I'm not so I wanted to make sure that I picked the hospital that I go to most often and they have my records and all of my doctors on staff. They also have a level III NICU & are in the same area as Children's Hospital.

*typo

I am high risk. My system uses on big EMR (electronic medical record), so I can go to any Dr's office, Urgent Care and hospital and every one can see my records. We just bought out a smaller system in the area. So once that 'merger' is complete, we will he 20k employees and 11 hospitals strong (plus tons of Dr's offices). So I have to use one of my work's Dr's, and hospitals. Which is fine with me.

Sounds like you're in great hands!!!

stillcozy

Where is the OP?

PhoebeJune1984

I would be like everyone else, and would like to know why you don't like the other hospital...before I cast my vote. 

I have two hospitals within 10min of my house. Within 20min of my house, there are 5-6 more hospitals (but they are not in my insurance network), and then the one I am going to go to, is 40-50min from my house. That being said, I am choosing that hospital because of its ratings, and what people are saying about this hospital when they rate it. My pregnancies aren't high risk, and this will be a RCS, with my last labor being 28 hours long before I had the c-section. In my eyes, I have plenty of time to get to the hospital whether I make to to my RCS date, or not. They also do family-centered c-sections, which is what I want, unlike the hospitals by me that only do standard c-sections. 

Being that your labor with your first pregnancy was so short, I would probably shoot for the hospital further away, but have it in the back of my mind that if things progress quickly, I might have to go to the nearest hospital instead of the one that I wanted. Most of my friends/family, had shorter labors with each subsequent child, so there is a chance your labor could be even shorter with this baby. 

BostonBaby1

Lindsayleigh1989 said:

Where is the OP?

My thoughts exactly. Post and run?

stillcozy

BostonBaby1 said:

Lindsayleigh1989 said:

Where is the OP?

My thoughts exactly. Post and run?

It's just weird to post a poll give zero info and never return...

fleurdelakeview

Lindsayleigh1989 said:

Where is the OP?

My thoughts exactly. Post and run?

It's just weird to post a poll give zero info and never return...

I agree. It makes me wonder if there isn't really a reason and she is just looking for validation to make the choice for the hospital she loves. Obviously that's complete speculation and I could be totally wrong but why post a poll and then never come back to comment on the discussion? 

stillcozy

Could be a lurker only comes on occasionally? Or left because you know how "mean" we all are

LinzerBinzer

I so wish we could delete this one. I hate that it keeps popping up and I keep checking to see if it's OP and it never is. Frickin ding dong ditch.

ambuchick

Actually sorry guys I didn't ditch my phone went on the fritz and while I was on holiday vacation I did not have any other means of getting on til I got home. To answer your questions yes I am high risk, and the hospital closer has no nicu as well as my husband and I have received less than adequate care in our opinion and the way we are treated is even worse it's like they don't care. My husband is extremely upset every time we leave after an appointment and I hate feeling like I am just a number. 

dolewhipper

ambuchick said:

Actually sorry guys I didn't ditch my phone went on the fritz and while I was on holiday vacation I did not have any other means of getting on til I got home. To answer your questions yes I am high risk, and the hospital closer has no nicu as well as my husband and I have received less than adequate care in our opinion and the way we are treated is even worse it's like they don't care. My husband is extremely upset every time we leave after an appointment and I hate feeling like I am just a number. 

Uh, DEFINITELY go to the one farther.

LinzerBinzer

Agree. ^^

stillcozy

Farther !

DobbysSock

Yes with the new information I agree go to the one further away. I just wouldn't plan to try to labour at home for too long once things start happening.

TattoosandLace

My hospital is an hour and fifteen minutes from my house. My dr told me to come in at the first sign of anything once I was past a certain point in pregnancy. It's doable. I would definitely go with the NICU hospital!

PugsandKisses

I could never deliver at a place with out a NICU, even a small one.

Also, please pick a Dr and facility that you are comfortable at. Many many studies show that if a women is anxious and upset going into labor, she tends to have more issues. While if a woman is more comfortable and relaxed, her labor tends to be easier and calmer. Going into what you perceive as a hostile environment will only do more harm than good.

ambuchick

Thanks guys my husband and I agree. I think he is just more nervous because the midwife told him last time to prepare to possibly have to deliver by himself next time (this time). But I agree I will not be comfortable there and I could see that causing problems! Thanks for helping me think it through!

BostonBaby1

ambuchick said:

Thanks guys my husband and I agree. I think he is just more nervous because the midwife told him last time to prepare to possibly have to deliver by himself next time (this time). But I agree I will not be comfortable there and I could see that causing problems! Thanks for helping me think it through!

Definitely definitely go to the one that's further away! And I wouldn't worry too much about having to deliver on your own provided that you have emergency services in your town? You could always call 911. They could come and try to get you to the hospital in the ambulance. Or at least come and help get you delivered. But, I agreed to go in at the first signs. If you feel that you're going into labor but just not progressing, you could think about staying in an inexpensive hotel near the further hospital? Would that work for you guys for the night? Maybe two?

ambuchick

For me yes if I have someone near that can watch my older two for more than the actual labor. My husband being military means we do not live near family sadly. but I still have some time to plan. :}

PugsandKisses

ambuchick said:

For me yes if I have someone near that can watch my older two for more than the actual labor. My husband being military means we do not live near family sadly. but I still have some time to plan. :}

If you are in a military town, hook up with the other spouses. Many of them have a group thing set up for things like this. Military families get each other, tend to be very supportive of each other and protective.