Ok, so, I’m going to be a new dad very soon. Have I been doing my research? You bet I have. I have spoken with as many parents as I can to get all the ins and outs, the dos and don’ts and major pitfalls that I can before the baby arrives.
Besides the sly comments around the lack of sleep that will engulf my life for the next year or so, there seems to be a recurring theme when it comes to the comments of working parents.
Not to sound too sinister, but parents never mention this in large groups, it’s always when I’m alone with a parent and they feel safe in the knowledge their gripes cannot be heard by other passing ears.
I’m also by no means delusional as to how hard it must be to stay at home and look after a child. However on this occasion I thought I’d write a little extract of comments I seem to hear on a daily basis.
The Working Parent
Having paraphrased all of the above from comments I hear at work from existing or new parents (I’m yet to find out myself I’d like to point out),
there is no way I think looking after a child all day would be an easy task!
Not having time to go the bathroom because the baby is in constant need of attention certainly does not sound like fun. It almost sounds like torture and I’m not really sure how anyone does it.
Making me write down the points of the working parent and thinking in depth about the counter arguments from the stay at home parents perspective really drives home how its easy to depressed or helpless. I know my role must be supportive, patient and understanding whether i go to work or stay at home with the child.
Please read the counter argument for a stay at home parent on the following link:
https://thestir.cafemom.com/baby/124135/this_is_what_a_stayathome
Choco
(Given the choice, I’d rather be the working parent, sounds a lot easier)
Re: The Working Parent: Is The Grass Always Greener?
The second you have a newborn in your arms all of that goes flying out the window in a tidalwave of shit and vomit.
The first six months of having a baby is like a war: any plan or idea of what you think it's going to be like goes to pieces the moment you start.
The bottom line is that you andthe mom are going to find your groove - find out what works for you and what works for your baby. The mom will probably carve a groove first, and I would suggest you follow her lead as if she is with the kid more, she know what the kid needs and is used to.
you of course can make some of your own moves but just know most of the planning goes out the window when the kid has completely overflowed diaper with a brown (or yellow... or what have you) substance, all over your couch at 3.30am and you havent had any sleep that day yet, and you only got two hours the night before.
It's a war. It's going to be hard - but you're going to get through it!