Insensitive?

jasmuin

I bought a decorative set of blocks that spell out the word "Family". I was planning on using it for a Christmas gift for my sister in law but just found out yesterday that she had a miscarriage. It was her first pregnancy after trying for 6 years.
Would you think this gift was insensitive right after a miscarriage? (Especially coming from someone who is pregnant) I can't decide how I would have felt right after my miscarriage and wanted some opinions.
I didn't know she was pregnant when I bought it and was just thinking how cute it would look in the new house they just bought. I'm not sure if that makes a difference.

PlainJane8350

Ah.. I wouldn't call it insensitive, but it may not be the right gift now. The fact that you're posting about it shows that you are being very sensitive and thoughtful, though. You could always talk to your brother about it and have him gauge, but I'd probably hold onto it for now unless he wanted to give it to her to symbolize that they won't give up.. The holidays will definitely be hard for her, so let her know that you're thinking of her.

nekedfeet

I think your first instinct is the correct one... maybe not the right gift for right now.  She is likely to be super sensitive right now, and there's no harm in being extra cautious. 

rkrichey

I agree with pp's. I think with the extra emotions she's feeling right now it might be best to be better safe than sorry. It's so nice that you're looking out for her like this.

peregrinefalconx

I agree on the waiting. I would imagine that she feels that her family is incomplete, which would be the opposite message you are trying to send. So yes, put it aside for another time. Maybe a gift certificate for a massage or something may be in order.

jasmuin

Thanks for confirming what I was thinking!! I'll find her something else.

carrieandr

I agree with the pp's. Especially since she's been trying for 6 years. My heart hurts just thinking about it.