What is my cervix telling me?

LilLauren17

Hello ladies. My last period was October 25-November 1. Had sex on the 7th, 10th, and 14th of November. Today I checked my cervix, because I was supposed to get my period today, and early in the day, like around 10:30am it was so high I had a hard time reaching it, a little open, and kinda soft. I just checked it again, and it is medium height, a little firm and open. Is aunt flow coming? Cause I have some bad back pain!

jolydan

Cervix are famous to be changing multiple time a day. It's not consider a reliable sign of pregnancy unfortunately. If you were checking monthly before AF you could possibly detect some kind of pattern but again it's really random. Best way to know if AF is on her way is temping and charting . Good luck

PeggyOlsonFTW

LilLauren17 said:

Hello ladies. My last period was October 25-November 1. Had sex on the 7th, 10th, and 14th of November. Today I checked my cervix, because I was supposed to get my period today, and early in the day, like around 10:30am it was so high I had a hard time reaching it, a little open, and kinda soft. I just checked it again, and it is medium height, a little firm and open. Is aunt flow coming? Cause I have some bad back pain!

QFP

What's your cervix telling you?

virginiaham

OP, I really want to give you the benefit of the doubt, but we don't know if you're pregnant and if you think you might be, take a pregnancy test.  Are you temping to confirm O?

Lulucooks

Could be anything
Could be nothing
Don't know.
Should probably start temping

letyourheartbeyourguide

Wait, what's that? What'd you say?

Sorry, I don't speak cervix. I have no idea what that means.

Lecool

@letyourheartbeyourguide OMG hahaha

DumbledoresArmy

PrimRoseMama

Omg what IS THAT?!

PrimRoseMama

Cannot be unseen!!! X_X

mrsdee15

@letyourheartbeyourguide  That.... gets funnier every time I watch it.

Ok, back to listening to the dulcet whispers of your cervix, OP...

Unfortunately CP isn't the end-all for when AF will show up (or a clear indication of other events).  I definitely recommend checking out temping if you haven't yet, it takes a little while to get used to, but it's so worth it in the end.  Good luck!

TheBorg7of9

You can't just check your cervix one day out of the blue and expect it to tell you anything. Like all fertility signs you have to check it every single day and notice the patterns. Generally, your cervix is low and firm after you get your period. Then it gets softer and higher as you lead up to ovulation. Then it gets low and firm again after ovulation. When you get pregnant, I hear it gets a little bit softer but it's no way to confirm pregnancy. An easier way is to buy a test for one dollar and pee it and then you will have a definitive answer. In the time it took you to type this post you could've driven to the drugstore and found out whether you were pregnant or not. If you want to know when your period is going to come, the best way is to learn to chart your temperatures and get to know how long your luteal phase is. And then you will no longer have any questions like this. Good luck.

So, if you are actually interested in your cervix, you should check out a website called my beautiful cervix. And you will learn everything you never wanted to know -- with pictures

MissAmeliaPond

I've been checking cervix position for a couple of months now, and it generally tells me nothing. It moves around all day long, and I don't get any of the patterns you're "supposed to get."  FWIW, I have noticed that for me personally, CP moves to high and soft right before I get AF. 

TheBorg7of9

ashbear720 said:

I've been checking cervix position for a couple of months now, and it generally tells me nothing. It moves around all day long, and I don't get any of the patterns you're "supposed to get."  FWIW, I have noticed that for me personally, CP moves to high and soft right before I get AF. 

You should only check once a day at the same time.

MissAmeliaPond

TheBorg7of9 said:

You should only check once a day at the same time.

I know, but I check CM 2x per day, so I always check CP at the same time. I can't help it. 

TheBorg7of9

ashbear720 said:

TheBorg7of9 said:

You should only check once a day at the same time.

I know, but I check CM 2x per day, so I always check CP at the same time. I can't help it. 

Well, technically, you should check CM every time you go to the bathroom.  But I get what you're saying.  I just wouldn't record CP or pay it any mind unless it is the time you have decided to check it.

I have found that I cannot see the pattern if I check CP more than once a day.  It's really important for tracking purposes to only check once a day and to check at the same time every day.

MissAmeliaPond

@theborg7of9 I don't really get external CM, so checking every time I use the restroom isn't possible, and I don't want to give myself an infection!  Also, since I get fairly scant CM, I don't want to check too often because I feel like I'm removing it all when I check. Is that crazy? Lol. I agree, I definitely can't see a pattern checking CP 2x per day, and I'm thinking of just not using CP next cycle. Even when I've chosen to use only afternoon CP data, I still don't see the "typical" CP pattern that FF says you're supposed to get throughout the cycle. I've tried looking for tutorials online for CP checking, but I haven't found anything that's been super helpful. The Beautiful Cervix did not help me at all! I did read through the post linked in the Ultimate Guide thread that was called something like "the cervix is a penis", and found that way more helpful, but CP still confuses me at the end of the day. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 

Edit: proof reading is important

letyourheartbeyourguide

ashbear720 said:

@theborg7of9 I don't really get external CM, so checking every time I use the restroom isn't possible, and I don't want to give myself an infection!  Also, since I get fairly scant CM, I don't want to check too often because I feel like I'm removing it all when I check. Is that crazy? Lol. I agree, I definitely can't see a pattern checking CP 2x per day, and I'm thinking of just not using CP next cycle. Even when I've chosen to use only afternoon CP data, I still don't see the "typical" CP pattern that FF says you're supposed to get throughout the cycle. I've tried looking for tutorials online for CP checking, but I haven't found anything that's been super helpful. The Beautiful Cervix did not help me at all! I did read through the post linked in the Ultimate Guide thread that was called something like "the cervix is a penis", and found that way more helpful, but CP still confuses me at the end of the day. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 

Edit: proof reading is important

Just on this part really quick. I don't understand why it wouldn't be possible to check internally when you use the restroom? Just wash your hands before you check.

MissAmeliaPond

letyourheartbeyourguide said:

Just on this part really quick. I don't understand why it wouldn't be possible to check internally when you use the restroom? Just wash your hands before you check.

Sheer laziness?  It also doesn't feel super clean in the restrooms at work. I get really grossed doing anything besides my business in public restrooms. Did it a couple of times - too much effort to make everything feel clean enough. 

ETA: I'm really only comfortable checking at home where I know how clean it is (thus only checking in the morning, and when I get home from work), and who's been using the facilities (just me and DH!). We have some very unclean people in this office building, many of whom don't know how to flush, and I don't want their germs. 

TheBorg7of9

ashbear720 said:

letyourheartbeyourguide said:

Just on this part really quick. I don't understand why it wouldn't be possible to check internally when you use the restroom? Just wash your hands before you check.

Sheer laziness?  It also doesn't feel super clean in the restrooms at work. I get really grossed doing anything besides my business in public restrooms. Did it a couple of times - too much effort to make everything feel clean enough. 

ETA: I'm really only comfortable checking at home where I know how clean it is (thus only checking in the morning, and when I get home from work), and who's been using the facilities (just me and DH!). We have some very unclean people in this office building, many of whom don't know how to flush, and I don't want their germs. 

Totally understandable. But I have heard that morning may be the best time to record CP. it's definitely something that may take a long time to get the hang of. Or maybe never!

MissAmeliaPond

@theborg7of9 thanks, I will try sticking with mornings! I'm in the group that has higher in the morning and lower in the afternoon (I think this applies to most people?), so maybe mornings will give me a friendlier chart.