I've always said, I'm not responsible for the relationship family members choose to have with my children. My priority is raising my child(ren) and our own relationship. I'm not going to beg anyone to see my kid or be a part of their lives. As the parent I will do my part to allow others to be around, but that's it.cryhen83 said:I'm currently 31 weeks and I'm getting pretty anxious I had a not so nice experience with my s/o family earlier in my pregnancy and now that I'm getting farther along I need some advice on how to deal with it when the baby gets here.i was 21 weeks pregnant and got an invite for dinner at my so mothers home I was very reluctant to go because of previous comments she has made about my weight ,I have put on a good amount of weight in my pregnancy and at that time I had put on 20 lbs already but anyone that knows me knows how I will lose the weight and im a pretty determed person and i figure there's plenty of other things to stress about while being pregnant my weight should not be his mother's concern so long story short when I first walked into the door his mother's gf said "wow you've gotten fatter since the last time we saw you" I heard it took it in ignored and and Sat down at the table with his other family members his mother then makes small talk and all while in my head I just want to run out of there and hide .I have to admit I was very upset by her comment then his niece begins playing around me and Im just talking to her i tell her that her lil cousin is in my tummy and she's looking at me not understanding as a lil 2 year old would then his mother then says "she's looking at your stomach like ughhh"im like wtf is this really happening I've been in there house less then 15 minutes and I'm getting hit with jabs so I'm uncomfortable I really wanna go home I make small talk with his sisters for about 25 minutes so I'm ready to go I say my goodbyes and I'm heading for the door when her gf says how I got alot fatter since being there last and I tell her hey weight can be lost and i was no small chick before and his mother just goes crazy her hands swinging in the air and she's like why u have a problem with her you are big your big as a mf your fat I told u I was gonna buy your baby stuff and this and that your sensitive we were just playing and blah blah blah her demeanor was ultra aggressive with raised voice and fingers in my face all because I told her I was ready to leave because they were making me uncomfortable with the comments about my weight 2 days later I had my ultra sound for the gender reveal and they knew it and never called or anything since I was 21 weeks now I'm 31 but a few days later one of his sisters called me and told me I over reacted and thats just her personality so my question to everyone is since my baby is coming soon should I reach out since that is his grandmother or should I expect not to have a relationship with my so family I'm just hurt really bad I left crying and never heard an apology or nothing from them except the call that I over reacted which I think I did not they were rude and his mother seems not to like me at all and that's not the first time she throws jabs at me while I'm over there visiting
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I would stay away. You have to put your foot down and be firm NOW, else they will never respect you. You don't want to establish a pattern of them running all over you and treating you like dirt.
Plus, even more so now that you are pregnant it's better to just cut out the stress and hurt that those people are causing you. That type of thing is not just bad for you, it's bad for baby!