Jersey Girls

whileibreatheihope

Just curious if there are any Jersey girls out there. My husband and I have been trying to conceive for 2 1/2 years and after 6 failed IUIs and 1 failed IVF, I feel like I need someone to talk to that can relate and offer me hope. My husband and friends are supportive... But I dont think they truly understands the emotional and physical toll of ongoing and (so far) unsuccessful fertility treatments. I'm gearing up for my 2nd IVF in October and would love to know if there are any local ladies going through a similar experience.

Jaqcap17

I'm a Jersey girl!  I'm going into my 5th IUI this month, If this doesn't work we are moving to IVF next month as long as our insurance approves us.  Are you a North or South Jersey girl?

villacis811

Hi ladies I am also a jersey girl (north jersey). I should be starting my first round of IVF mid-late October. I'm super nervous! I agree no one really understands what we are going through. As much as people have been great at listening this whole process is very difficult. Its really great to know we are not alone. 

whileibreatheihope

I'm in Central Jersey and go to RMA NJ.
@Jaqcap17 - Our insurance made us do 3 rounds of IUI with Clomid and then 3 rounds of IUI with injectables before they would allow us to move on to IVF. Even though IVF is much more involved and our first FET didn't work, it helped having info every step of the way such as how many eggs were retrieved, how many fertilized, how many are chromosomally healthy, etc. There are so many unknowns in IUI which kinda drove me crazy!

@villacis811 - We might be cycle buddies... Or close to it! My nurse gave me a rough timeline of my next IVF and I'm expecting to have my egg retrieval around October 27th and the transfer November 2nd. Has your doctor talked to you about PDG testing? I highly recommend it for extra peace of mind.

Drove2u

I've been a jersey girl all my life until I moved to PA. I was in north jersey. And still work in nyc.

villacis811

@whilebreatheihope I've heard very good things about RMA. A doctor I know recommended an RE there but unfortunately it was too far from me. I was going to switch to the location in bergen county but I do like  and feel comfortable with the RE that my OBG recommended. 

He did talk to me about the PDG but since insurance doesn't cover it our RE said because of our age he didn't think it was necessary. If we had the money though I would probably have done it. He also told us it increased our chances a lot but we just can't afford it. The nurse also gave us an approx date and it does sound like we will be going through this together.

whileibreatheihope

@villacis811- I'm 32 and the doctor left it up to us to decide whether or not to do PDG. Our insurance didn't cover it either so we had to tap into our savings. Of our 4 eggs that fertilized and made it to day 5, 2 were chromosomally normal. We did a FET and transfered one, but unfortunately it didn't stick. Although we still have one frozen embryo, we decided to do another egg retrieval and put two embryos back this time... Hopefully a fresh transfer. Were trying to maximize our chances because our insurance only covers IVF four times. Aunt Flo just left town so now I'm just waiting until day 21 of my cycle to start estrace and get this show on the road! How are you feeling about your first round of IVF?

@Drove2u - Welcome! Where in PA do you live? Hopefully nowhere near all the pope traffic this weekend!! Are you doing IUI or IVF this cycle?

Drove2u

Lol thanks. I'll always be a jersey girl at heart. :-) I live about 40 minutes from philly but flying out of country on Sunday out of Newark. But I work in nyc and I hope it's not going to be too insane tomorrow. What am I doing this cycle? Sigh. Lol. Well my hcg levels have been rising for the last two weeks but they're saying its a chemical or ectopic. But really they have no answers for me yet. I go back Friday.

xFeelingalive13x

I'm a jersey girl on my second IUI.. which the doctor said didn't look promising. Tomorrow I have a baby shower to attend.. here is to hoping I can handle it! 

villacis811

@xfeelingalive13x Good luck I know how hard that can be! You will have your turn tough

NicWalker10

xFeelingalive13x uggghhh I feel for you!   good luck and super impressed that you have the strength to attend--hang in there

Did first cycle at the end of July due to Male factor....all of my numbers checked out....  Did ER first week of August did ICSI and then  they converted us to a FET cycle rather than an immediate transfer because (as they told us) they wanted to give the embryos one more day and they wouldn't do a day 6 transfer.  We didn't know this could happen going in (we knew they may want to culture for 6 days, but didn't know that would automatically put us in a FET cycle).  We were hugely disappointed....and we did PGD and ended up with only 1 chromosomally normal Embryo.     Another disappointment.....Since the first week of august we have been waiting and waiting and waiting to be able to do our transfer.   First,  we were doing a natural transfer and weren't told that there could be any reason why it wouldn't work...THEN never ovulatated and no period for the first time in my life...then had to go on provera, and still no period and back in for blood and US just this morning to find out what is going on.   This is been a very frustrating run for us at RMA. IDK if anyone else has felt the same.  I would prefer more contact from the Doctor who we have talked to exactly once.  It's always the nurse who's nice and all, but you know, she's not a doctor.  And she never answer the phone.  I get voicemail every time and then I have to sit at work with the cell phone attached to me hoping I am not tied up with something and can answer when she calls. 

I know they have good numbers, but our experience so far has been very frustrating.  I'm hoping the numbers ultimately bear out and it's worth it but it's been a tough ride mentally with them so far for me. 

villacis811 I know someone who had success at Valley Fertility I think they are in Paramus.  This person had a very tough medical history and really struggled to conceive, but they got her pregnant and she has a beautiful healthy boy!   She did not do PGD and everything worked out.  She was 30 at the time, and I am 37 so that's why I chose to do PGD and I think she did not due to being younger and in less of a "danger zone". 

 

Good luck to all the jersey girls--hope we all get there soon!! 

villacis811

@nicwalker10 I considered switching to RMA because I heard their statistics are pretty good. I go to URA in hasbrouck heights. I have met with the doctor several times but we haven't actually started the process yet. I started BCP a few weeks ago so hopefully by the end of the month. 

Have they told you when you will transfer? I hope that in a few weeks you will get the answer you have been looking for and all this stress will be a part of the past. 

lynda1215

Hey I am new to NJ and just started working with Dr Berin at the Fertility Institute of New Jersey. I have two sisters that got pregnant with her and at first we loved the team. Unfortunately, when we found out that my husband had low sperm they were unable to really do anything other than refer us to a urologist. I feel so frustrated by this whole thing. We waited forever to get in and when they thought we were not conceiving because I was not ovulating they made the process seem so easy, now they say our only option is IVF. It is so disappointing, there is no way we can afford that and I have no idea why there are no other treatment options available for us. Sorry for the rant, but it's been a long frustrating process. Does anyone know of any male infertility specialist in the area?

Also, just to continue to throw a pity party, my one sister just had a baby, her wife plans of doing IUI in Jan, my other sister's baby turns one next month and my little sister in law is pregnant with twins. I am literally surrounded by moms, and pregnant women. 

NicWalker10

lynda1215 - although I haven't had the greatest experience at RMA NJ so far,  I do know that they have a ton of doctors there and some of them particularly focus on male infertility factor.  you may want to check out their website and their doctors bios, identify who specializes in male factor and see if you can make a consultation appointment with that person....My initial consultation with RMA was 425 which is a little steep, but it was covered by insurance--I would talk to your insurance company and see what your husband's coverage is for fertility treatment. you may be able to get some coverage for a first appointment.   There are some publications that talk about ways to increase sperm count  and there may be a doctor that can give you some advice on that. 

 

lynda1215

Thanks for the advice I will look into RMA. We actually have pretty great coverage for everything other than IVF, there we have 0 coverage. 

Drumski

I'm with RMA. I see Dr. Molinaro in Eatontown. He's just awesome. We have been trying for over a year, 4 failed IVF cycles and 1 chemical pregnancy. Just started Estrace and getting ready for another retrieval. 

It's tough but we are Jersey girls ...so we can do this! 

villacis811

@drumski good luck Yes are Jersey Strong! Sometimes I need to remind myself of that. 

obizyanka

Hey ladies I live in PA but use RMA. We had our transfer in Basking Ridge Nj so I have Jersey babies lol. Office visits were in PA but all the procedures were in NJ. Both offices were amazing (for the most part). Found them after meeting w 2 crapy offices in PA. RMA offered very individualized care. I never felt like cattle like I did in other offices.

Becks0143

Hi Ladies! Another Jersey Girl joining

juliesinclair22

I currently go to URA in Hasbrouck Heights. 2 natural pregnancies, and 1 with IUI in the past 20 months. Unfortunately, all ended in miscarriage after 6-7 weeks. We've been tested for everything under the sun, by many different specialists, but they still can't seem to find any answers as to why this is happening.

Does anyone else have experience with Recurrent Pregnancy Loss in this area? I am currently going to Dr. Kim in Fort Lee who specializes in Acupuncture for Fertility. She comes highly recommended and has helped many women in our situation. Any insight on local specialists in our area outside of the RE you are seeing?

ultratomato

South jersey here too!

Foxy8609

Hello Central Jersey here!! We are going through RMANJ. So far I dont mind them, this is our first cycle only though. I was suppose to speak with my nurse about the plan for my next cycle and starting my meds. We had a follow up yesterday and decided to go with the PGD(?) testing done so now we are doing a FET in my March cycle. Im bummed but also happy that it will increase our chances of implantation since I wont be on a bunch of meds for transfer.

We are dealing with male factor infertility:morphology, otherwise everything else we are pretty good on. My numbers look awesome. I did have a cyst this past month but not hormone imbalance from it. 

Ok now I am going to go back through the thread and catch up on whats happening. 

Jerseygirl856

Hello I'm new and it's my first time posting. South Jersey girl here too. I just finished my birth control and will be going in for baseline this week. This will be first round of IVF and I'm excited and nervous all at the same time!

ultratomato

@Jerseygirl856 are you going to south jersey fertility?

Jerseygirl856

@ultratomato no, im seeing Dr. Manara in Berlin. I've heard positive reviews about SJ fertility. Is that where you go?

ultratomato

@jerseygirl856 Yes I go to the egg harbor township office no luck yet with my iuis but I have two friends who had success there

Jerseygirl856

@ultratomato I'm sorry to hear that. Two of my friends had success with them. One through iui and the other with ivf. Hopefully you get your bfp soon.
We were told ivf was our only hope due to mfi.

Stars2016

I'm from South Jersey too! I am just starting the process with an RE so I'm so thankful to have you girls for support!

Jerseygirl856

@Stars2016 welcome and good luck!

juliesinclair22

Who do you see at URA? I go there as well!

momof2furkids

Another South Jersey girl here! I'm with Dr. Check at Cooper, currently waiting for AF to start stims. This is our first round of IVF. Hopeful for all of us!

capps42613

Hi Jersey group! I'm from SJ and currently seeing Penn Fertility Care in PA. DH and I have our initial IVF consult Wednesday morning.

IVF is our only option. Due to a low sperm count (no blockage detected) my DH doesn't produce ANY sperm in his ejaculate. After having the Micro TESE procedure done 2 weeks ago, his urologist was able to extract vials of healthy sperm straight from his testicles & freeze them. The test is known to have a 50% success rate since the Dr didn't know if he was able to produce sperm at all. We are very fortunate that it worked in our favor.

@lynda1215 his urologist is Dr. Puneet Masson at Penn Fertility Care. He took amazing care of my husband. GL!

mguida

Hi everyone. I am also from south jersey currently going to south jersey fertility in the egg harbor office. I just had my FET on Tuesday so I am in the dreaded 2WW.  Hoping for a bfp!

ultratomato

@mguida I also go to Sj fertility in eht. I was there on Tuesday to lol 

Jerseygirl856

Hi and welcome @capps42613 sounds you are off to a positive start! GL on your journey!

@mguida welcome! Fx you get your BFP!

mguida

Thanks @Jerseygirl856 I'm day 5 post 5 day frozen transfer. I starting testing yesterday bfn, which I know was way too early. This morning also bfn. I gave in a did another test tonight and got the faintest bfp!! I been tricked before with chemical pregnancies so I am trying not to get too excited. Hoping for a darker line in the upcoming days! Best wishes and baby dust to you all!

momof2furkids

@mguida How are you feeling?

ultratomato

@mguida how are you doing? My 5th iui didn't work on to my final and then ivf.