What are you sick of hearing?

katiebond007

Even though pregnancy is an exciting new time for first time moms, I am really getting tired of people telling me what life will be like after the baby comes. Yes, I know I will be tired, babies need a lot of attention. I'm just sick of hearing it over and over again. It's getting on my nerves. Instead of you telling me how I'm going to feel when the baby comes, why don't we just wait and see how I feel when the baby comes. It's very annoying.

What are you sick of hearing about from others around you regarding YOUR pregnancy and YOUR baby?

mommy_wife_nurse

I agree 100%!!!! Or the "your body is just preparing" comments when I say I didn't sleep well..... Um, no. I don't sleep well because I have a wiggly baby inside me who will be kicking my bladder if I don't wake up to empty it! I will be SO happy to sleep when baby sleeps, at least that is sleep!!

SMGoodlett

I am sick of hearing people tell me "just wait until you get to xxx amount of weeks in your pregnancy" I have so many people acting like they know SO much more about pregnancy (mine in particular) than I do.

HELLO! I am 33 weeks. My pregnancy is just about over and done with. Stop trying to act like the last 33 weeks aren't significant. I've experienced every one of those weeks, my symptoms have value! I am the mama carrying this baby, and quite frankly 90% of what everyone said would happen, hasn't happened. Flash back to first trimester when everyone told me I would have horrible morning sickness. Well, it's third tri and that still hasn't happened for me. Be quiet and stop assuming you know more about my body!

justagirl04

I have a coworker that yells "dang!" every time he sees me. At first I was like yeah sure I feel big. Now it's just annoying and I'm afraid these last few weeks he's going to get a piece of my mind.

erinboehme

Any time I comment on ANYTHING remotely negative about my pregnancy, my mom says, "Well, you did this to yourself." Or her other favorite when I'm frustrated with my kids, "And you're having another one...." Yes, yes, I KNOW!

mmcknight

I hate hearing how huge I am. I'm 33 weeks pregnant of course I'm big.

Another thing is how I don't know what I'm in for. I've been a child care provider for many years. I have a pretty good idea. I know it's different when it's 24/7 but it's not like I've never taken care of a baby before.

SMGoodlett

erinboehme said:

Any time I comment on ANYTHING remotely negative about my pregnancy, my mom says, "Well, you did this to yourself." Or her other favorite when I'm frustrated with my kids, "And you're having another one...." Yes, yes, I KNOW!

Everyone is allowed to vent. It's healthy! EVERY mother has had a complaint at some point and it's allowed to be expressed when you're frustrated I'm positive your mom has been there plenty of times! . Lol hang in there mama!

sjembry93

I sick of hearing "you shouldn't be doing that" "don't lift that that's too heavy". A stranger flipped out about me putting a 16 lb bag of cat food into my shopping cart. Saying someone in "my condition" shouldn't be lifting that much.
Also sick of people staring at me like I have 6 heads when I'm at the store. It's like they've never seen a pregnant woman before. Sheesh.

kfry22

I haven't gotten a single just you wait comment. However I have gotten tons and tons of comments about how big I am. I'm 5'1" and on the thinner side. I can't help it I look huge cause this kid has really no where to hang out. No it's not twins. Yes I'm sure my due date is in October.

nimmunogirl

Yesterday I was watering the lawn and trying a new sprinkler that ultimately was a failure. Bending over to change it wasn't the most comfortable, but not the end of the world. My two (men) neighbors asked if I needed them to set up the sprinkler and why wasn't my husband watering the yard. I guess what I am sick of hearing is what I can or can't do. I know my body, I know my limits. If I'm really uncomfortable I will ask for help. And no, I don't need my husband to water the yard!

Also, my MIL keeps telling me she doesn't think I will make it to 40 weeks because I am so big already and how baby probably has no room. I like her and she means well, but I'm sick of hearing this!

lginnan

Anyone's advice about anything pregnancy or labor related.  Thanks for the tip, random person, but I'll stick with listening to my doctor.

JamieDubs

My Mom seems to forget that her 3 pregnancies included any symptoms at all. When I mention things I'm experiencing she seems to relate them instead to my getting old! My hands were sore and swollen yesterday and she says "hmm arthritis!" Come on Mother! I'm 30 years old! Have you forgotten that I'm pregnant and water retention is common?!!

kaweegar

I am tired of being told what brand of diapers & bottles to use. No matter how many times I tell people we are going to try them all and see what works best for our baby, I get a 15 minute dissertation on why Pampers/Huggies/Luvs/store brand is the superior diaper. And the same goes with the bottle brands. I didn't register for diapers because we bought a small package of each of the three big name brands in newborn size and are going to try them all. And I actually had a friend get mad at me because she didn't know which brand to buy! Hello, you don't get to be mad at me because of what I did or did not put on my registry or how I decide to pick a diaper brand!

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jcra7212

Last week I measured 2 weeks ahead of my EDD and now my MIL and SIL keep saying "don't rush her! We want her to be healthy!" First of all, duh. I don't want her to NOT be healthy. And second, I'm not up in my vagina with a crochet hook trying to break my water! What choice do I have but to let her decide when to come? And how exactly did I rush her into being 2 weeks bigger? So annoying.

mizzthang007

mlobrummond said:

I agree 100%!!!! Or the "your body is just preparing" comments when I say I didn't sleep well..... Um, no. I don't sleep well because I have a wiggly baby inside me who will be kicking my bladder if I don't wake up to empty it! I will be SO happy to sleep when baby sleeps, at least that is sleep!!

This! I can't stand it when someone says that to me. And they have been saying it since I was like 5 weeks along! I'm like, is that supposed to make me feel better? I don't want any "preparations", if I can help it. If I could I would get all my sleep in now before baby comes. I don't know of any mother that swears that indeed pregnancy prepared her for sleepless nights with her baby. No one can become a pro at not sleeping through the night. It just sucks and you deal with it. But yeah don't try to make me feel 'better' by telling me how much it's gonna suck later lol.

I guess this one really gets to me eh lol

julianas1029

I'm sick of hearing how because my husband was 9 lbs and i was 8 lbs that my baby is going to be huge. So huge i shouldn't even bother buying any newborn clothes.

cmjn94

I'm sick of hearing how apparently "huge" I am. And how I'm not going to make it til Oct (I'm due Oct 3). It's so insulting as if they know when my baby will come?! And everyone knows that belly size does not equal baby size and baby size does not determine due date. Good grief people.

shyfry21

sjembry93 said:

I sick of hearing "you shouldn't be doing that" "don't lift that that's too heavy". A stranger flipped out about me putting a 16 lb bag of cat food into my shopping cart. Saying someone in "my condition" shouldn't be lifting that much.
Also sick of people staring at me like I have 6 heads when I'm at the store. It's like they've never seen a pregnant woman before. Sheesh.

Oh my god I hate this!!! At my MIL's, I got scolded for lifting a watermelon because it was "too heavy".

Sweet Sadie Mae

We're having a boy and already have a girl and apparently that makes us the "perfect family". Seriously everyone tells us this. So if I were having another girl we would not be the perfect family?

tate62610

STM here and I'm sick of hearing "better sleep while you can" any time I'm up early and "just wait" when it comes to having 2 children.

erinboehme

I have 4 boys and I'm having a girl. "Oh, how wonderful, you got your girl. Now your family is complete." How do they think that makes my boys feel?

LiveNLove44

I hope to all that is holy that everyone here remembers that pregnant women hate hearing these things and we all become part of a culture shift! Please, for the love of all that is maternity, don't be that person when you're finished having children! As a STM, I try really hard to not impose all of the above comments on any of my newly pregnant friends.

I am sick of people asking how far along I am. I'm not talking about random people, I'm talking about people who I work with everyday. Please don't ask me once a week how far along I am. Add the week yourself. If you ask me once a month or so, I'd be more understanding!

MelMel92

I'm sick of hearing "What, you still havent had the baby yet?!" from people that apparantly dont know the lenght of a fullterm pregnancy. I'm 32 weeks, no I've not given birth yet and I'm hoping it'll be a few weeks yet, thanks.

Been hearing that one since I was 24 weeks, what the hell?!

SarahAnne1101

I'm sick of people saying that three kids is a lot to raise and asking if we are done having babies after this one. Not up to you. not your business. if you aren't raising the baby or my doctor, you don't get an opinion here. 

anorthro

I'm tired of getting stared at by 18-year old college girls. Yes, I'm pregnant. Yes, I'm a young woman on a college campus. Yes, I did this on purpose. Please stop staring at me!

Sweet Sadie Mae

@anorthro I know that feeling! I decided to go back to college when I was 27. I got married at 28. Pregnant at 29. I look younger than I am too so college kids were always staring and probably gossiping too. Damn kids.

J1D

I'm sick of hearing any statement along the lines of "just you wait" or "you'll see." Or, "well when *I* was pregnant I always/never blah blah blah."

cmjn94

@anorthro this! I just went back to school today and I feel awkward. I haven't noticed any stares because I don't really look at others but I feel so different! I'm hoping I don't get crap from people about it.

brandypinky22

I'm tired of every time I say I want something specific to eat it gets equated to the baby wanting that. Maybe I just want some chicken, it's not a wierd pregnancy craving it's just lunch time.

cdepperschmidt

I agree with the multiple ladies who are tired of being told they can't do things. Yes, it nice of you to carry that chair for me, but you know at home I carry my vaccum upstairs and that's way heavier! I had a lady take a 3rd grade student desk from me and tell me I wouldn't know I hurt myself until after my baby was born. I was like uhh, the watermelon I bought yesterday was harder to carry...

pkfinnerty

I'm tired of having the same conversation 50 times a day:
When are you due: Oct 25th
Boy or Girl: Boy
(Then they get really excited for some reason that it's a boy. I get a lot of "Alright!!" and High Fives... I work with mostly men, and men customers)
What's his name: this is where I have to stop and think if this person is going to tell me their opinion on the name, bc I have come to find out I don't like opinions or will they just be cool and say- nice.

Oh and if one more dirty fabricator rubs my belly... I dont mind people rubbing my belly, people I know, other women, etc... but not old grown men. It just creeps me out!! And you'd be surprised (or maybe you wont) by how many do it... I had 3 just today!!!

felicia&rene

I hated when I told my mother & mil or other people that I was pregnant with our 4th girl and their exact words I hope you are going to tie your tubes and is this the last one. So can you imagine, what they thought when I told them I was pregnant again with our 5th baby and this time it was a boy! And again they all say are you gonna tie your tubes? I really do hope that this is your last baby. Ahh it drives me insane. And I'm like are you going to help support this child or wake up in the middle of the night to comfort them!?! No sometimes I just wanna say; stay the fuck out of our business!
Excuse my language.

BlueTopazBride

I want to have an unmedicated birth, and the first thing out of EVERYONE's mouth is how it's ok if I get the epidural or c section and that I need a plan B and don't get too attached to the idea because nothing goes to plan. Or that I need to roll with the punches because what if there's an emergency and I wouldn't want my baby to die just to have a natural birth.

I know birth is hard and that it will hurt and that it will take hours. I am giving birth in a hospital so I have options if I need/want to change my mind. I won't kill my baby just because I am set on a plan. Can't one person say "good for you" and then be done?

anorthro

@cmjn94 @Sweet Sadie Mae, I have a lot of sympathy now for teen moms and young moms on college campuses. The judgement is thick and I'm pretty clearly not a young undergraduate college student!

meghan82

Sweet Sadie Mae said:

@anorthro I know that feeling! I decided to go back to college when I was 27. I got married at 28. Pregnant at 29. I look younger than I am too so college kids were always staring and probably gossiping too. Damn kids.

yeah, agree with you ladies! i'm in grad school and work on a college campus and while the students weren't so bad every professional in the building where i worked would ask when i was due and then ask something about classes, like what will you do when fall semester starts... i definitely have a baby face but i am married, 32 years old, and writing my dissertation-- thanks anyway for your concern!!! and even if i was 20 it's still none of your beeswax! now i am on a leave of absence and kind of avoiding campus. 

cmjn94

meghan82 said:

Sweet Sadie Mae said:

@anorthro I know that feeling! I decided to go back to college when I was 27. I got married at 28. Pregnant at 29. I look younger than I am too so college kids were always staring and probably gossiping too. Damn kids.

yeah, agree with you ladies! i'm in grad school and work on a college campus and while the students weren't so bad every professional in the building where i worked would ask when i was due and then ask something about classes, like what will you do when fall semester starts... i definitely have a baby face but i am married, 32 years old, and writing my dissertation-- thanks anyway for your concern!!! and even if i was 20 it's still none of your beeswax! now i am on a leave of absence and kind of avoiding campus. 

Ha! I'm 21 doing my undergrad still. But I'm married, we are financially independent, and ready for a baby! And I'm almost done with school, just doing part time as I finish up the last year and a half. Luckily my professors are supportive and hopefully the other students won't be morons about it lol

dchiapella

"Sleep while you can."

... My ultimate pet peeve. Seriously? It's cute that you think I'm not trying my darnedest to! And does that mean you think I usually look this crappy? Because sleep deprivation does some pretty NOT so pretty things to you.  

lucky10liz

I'm tired of people asking "how is baby today?" Well...not much has changed since you asked the last time I ran into in the bathroom... she is fine. Thx. 

dchiapella

By the way...

@anorthro and @sweet_sadie_mae OH MY GOSH! I feel you! My husband works at my old college and I'm going back in the Spring. Married at 19 and financially had to drop out and now going back at 23. We eat on campus often since we also live on the property and cooking/ dishes is not always my favorite this far along and I get the stink eye left and right. I mean, I know I look like I'm one of them but I feel so much older (and granted I ACT so much older)... plus... MIND YOUR OWN DAMN BUSINESS! 

elmann1

I"m so sick of the "18 more years and THEN you'll be able to hang out with your husband and have fun again" TF? seriously?? First off, i didn't move out until I was 23, second- those were 23 years that my parents would hang out, date night, fun family nights and they are still happily in love. Why does having a child mean everything in life ends? "Oh you wont be able to go on runs anymore." wut.... why not? Because my husband isn't capable of hanging out with his daughter?

*grumble grumble* 

MamaOwl15

LiveNLove44 said:

I hope to all that is holy that everyone here remembers that pregnant women hate hearing these things and we all become part of a culture shift! Please, for the love of all that is maternity, don't be that person when you're finished having children! As a STM, I try really hard to not impose all of the above comments on any of my newly pregnant friends.

I am sick of people asking how far along I am. I'm not talking about random people, I'm talking about people who I work with everyday. Please don't ask me once a week how far along I am. Add the week yourself. If you ask me once a month or so, I'd be more understanding!

I agree about the culture shift. I try to say encouraging things to the FTMs I know. Like, "yeah that hip pain is a beast, but it gets better once you give birth." Or I'll give them a positive "just you wait" to look forward to. "Just wait till he says 'I love you' for the first time!" We get all these doomsday warnings about the toddler years and no one wants to talk about how adorable two year olds (or whatever age) are when they're not throwing tantrums.