How do I know if my husband is a alcoholic?

nofrogs

So, things have gotten a lot better in the last few months, but early in this (unplanned) pregnancy, he was drinking and driving, and drinking to excess. He wouldn't admit that a six pack was too much to drink before getting behind the wheel, and was threatening to leave me, because I was "trying to change him". It was a really hard time, especially since I had morning sickness, and didn't want to see his beer vomit. Now he is only drinking one at a time if he is driving, then waiting a long time to go home, or two if he isn't driving. He hasn't thrown up from drinking in a long time.

I still wonder if he is going to lose control again, especially after the stress of this new second baby sets in. I don't ever want him out on the road drunk again, potentially hurting himself and other people. So, does this sound like alcoholism, if now he has it under control?

nofrogs

It was also hard that he was having a lot of digestive issues, r/t his drinking, and refused to admit that it was related. Instead he had me cook only low-FODMAP recipes, which consist of about 3 pages of "no foods", but then would eat completely random bar food that was full of that stuff, plus beer, which is full of FODMAPs as well. Most veggies are a no-go on this diet, so eating healthy has been an extreme challenge this pregnancy. 

sc28171

I have come to find if you are questioning he is an alcoholic chances are he is one. My guy drinks everyday and is oblivious to the fact that he has a drinking problem. My guy would go a month or two without heavy drinking, but the itch to drink always comes back. I know how hard it can be and frustrating because this isn't something you want to have your children exposed to, but at the same time it's like do I leave him, do I stay with him and hope he gets better? I think he is drinking to escape reality. I try to let my guy know if he wants to be a part of mine and our child's reality then he needs to get his act together. Otherwise they may never learn until something bad happens. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I hope all goes well for you and your family.

niknak1208

There's a difference between having a beer or two at home with dinner and being an alcoholic. My husband drinks a beer every day. But he has a beer or two at dinner or while he's mowing the grass or working in the garage kind of thing. He never ever ever drives when he's had even one beer. He has a CDL and drives for a living so he absolutely can't drive. But I can't remember the last time he was drunk and I don't think he's ever thrown up from drinking in the 13 yrs that we've been together.

I think pp probably hit the nail on the head. If you're questioning it, there's probably a problem. I'm sorry you have to deal with that. Personally, I have a very low tolerance for bullshit especially drinking so I would not handle that well. I wouldn't put up with alcohol related puking at all! I would lose my cool over that.