Loss at 13 weeks?

bananers

Went in for our checkup today at 13 weeks and baby had no heartbeat. The kicker is that baby was measuring right on track, and I had just found the HB via home Doppler 3 days ago so it just happened. My doctor is scheduling me for a D&C early next week and told me to come to the ER if I start bleeding over the weekend. Because of how far along I am, she did not recommend letting it happen at home.

We had a missed miscarriage once before at 8 weeks (baby died at 7), and I had a horrible experience with a D&C. I ended up bleeding for 2 months straight and almost needed a second D&C because they didn't get everything the first time. It took us almost a year to conceive again. Not sure if the length of time had anything to do with the D&C but it's made me leery of doing it again.

Anyone had experience with a late miscarriage, either D&C, or natural? I'm still just trying to process everything.

rachrobertson

No experience with a miscarriage at 13 weeks, but mine was at 10 weeks and I was blessed to heal very quickly from that. So sorry for your loss and I hope you don't have the same experience as you did before.

GhanimaAtreides

I am so sorry for your loss and I'm wishing you a speedy physical recovery.

candicek15

I'm so sorry for your loss. I experienced an mmc recently. At our first US the baby measured 6w3d when it should have been 8 weeks. They thought the dates could be off so they scheduled another US 2 weeks later that confirmed there was no growth or heartbeat. I was out of town for work and then vacation for 3 weeks after that and my doctor wanted me to try and miscarry naturally anyway. The bleeding started the night before I left to come home. The worst of it was about two weeks later (when I passed the sac), and I would have been around 12 weeks if the baby had still been growing. I'm not sure if the sac was at a 6 or 12 week size as this was my first pregnancy. It took that long for my body to figure out that I shouldn't be pregnant anymore, but I was glad that it didn't start until I got home. I had no complications miscarrying at home this way, it was just a long process. I bled for about 3.5 weeks overall.

vintagevice

I'm so sorry for you loss. I had a miscarriage last Saturday at 12w 4 days and went to the ER. They sent me home to finish it naturally.

Take care during this heartbreaking healing process.

GhanimaAtreides

...and I feel like an ass because I didn't fully realize it was you @bananers , I posted under your other thread in TTCAL. I am so so sorry

melzmini

I'm very sorry for your losses. I experienced my second MMC in May at 13 weeks. Baby stopped growing at 11 weeks 5 days. Doctor couldn't find anything wrong with me or the fetus, so she recommended that I start taking baby aspirin next time I get pregnant. My first MMC happened two years ago. I had a D&C both times with no issues (except a lot of anxiety over the procedure). It's hard to say why it took us so long to get pregnant after the first D&C or why I've had two MMC, especially since we have a four year old. I will say my second D&C experience was completely different than my first. I think the first time I was completely scraped clean whereas this last time, I feel like the doctor took a gentler approach. I admire the women that have the strength for a natural MC, it just isn't for me.

queenklau

I am so sorry for your loss. I also had a MMC, mine was at 10W5d, found out at 12W check-up. I opted for the d&c, it went smoothly with no problems. It really is a personal choice of what you think will help with emotional healing. Medically, d&c should be easy procedure for most people. I am sorry your last one was not good.T&P your way.

whit3183

I am so, so sorry for your loss. That is just heartbreaking.   I've had 2 miscarriages - a MMC at 9.5 weeks and a miscarriage that started with heavy bleeding at 6 weeks.  I had a D&C with both.  Physically, my recovery was MUCH easier with my 9.5 week MC than with my 6 week MC -- which was not what I was expecting at all. So for me at least, there was no correlation between how far along I was and the D&C recovery.  I'm not sure if my experience was typical though.  Best of luck to you -- sending lots of love and positive thoughts.